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All you need to say is, “Sorry, Mr. X is not avail- able.” Then hang up. Dear Ann Landers: My beau- tiful 19-year-old son was murdered by two hoodlums who stole his car, He is buried in a cemetery in North Hollywood. I recently visited his grave,” Soon’ after, I wrote a letter of complaint to the cemetery about a Situation I find appalling. And now Tam writing to you, because I value your opinion and need to know if I have a legitimate complaint. More and more people are using the cemetery to jog, walk, bike and learn to drive. Young children play in the water fountain. Some folks bring lunches and picnic there. I received a response from the cemetery agreeing that people should not use the grounds to leam to drive and kids should not be playing in the fountain. But it said, “We don't believe ALL activities are inappropriate. We feel that the-park is for the living, as; ‘ well as the dead, and we don't think peaceful, quiet activities such as walking and jogging demeun those who are buried there.” I always thought a cemetery "was a place to bury loved ones, a place of beauty for quiet, medita- tion, not a multi-purpose piece of teal estate, I realize that most peo- ple feel that once a person is dead, he is dead and cemeteries arén't important. I felt that way, too, before this horrible loss, Had I known the place was like an amusement park, I would not have buried my son there: It upsets me that I do not have the funds to move his grave to another cemetery. Please, Ann, advise your readers to check out the cemetery in advance. They should ask, “Do you allow the public to use the grounds for exer: cising and recreational I feel strongly: that parks are the. appropriate places. for jogging, bicycling and laughing children. - Am I wrong? — coeang Parent, North Hollywood, Calif. 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