The Castlegar Sun ‘ Wednesday, December 12, 4990 The Castlegar Sun Page 9B f _ land, where he recolved the C.B. the British Empire) ond was: appointed Chief Staff Officer to Admiral Nasmith, Fate would decree that Capt, Binney be in London at noon on Friday, Dec. 8, 1044, There, on crowded Birchin Lane, a dark-haired man swung an axe and smashed the window of Thomas Wordley's jewellery ‘store, The robber clutched a tray of rings and ran across the road to a wailing car and driver. ~ A large crowd witnessed the drama, They stood as If mesmerized by the action which had Inter- rupted their Christmas shopping. Some, close to the elaway car, shouted to the driver, Others geaticu- ated wildly for the driver not to feave the curb, Only one man dashed In front of the car, arms outstretched. The driver of the car couldn't avold the man, Of course, he could have stopped, Instead, he chose to drive directly into the man who stood in his way. That man was Capt. Ralph Douglas Bin- ney, Witnesses were tater to recall hearing a sickening thud as the vehicte hit Capt. Binney and drove over im. There was more horror to foltow, When the driver found his route blocked, he threw the vehicle into reverse and once more passed over the cap- tain's prostrate form. The driver then accelerated. Onlookers gasped in shock as they realized the man had so: jow become trapped under the speeding vehicle. They could hear him shouting for help, but there was nothing anyone could do, The car proceeded over London Bridge and on to Tootey St. efore the trapped man was tossed free. ' Dear Santa; | want listings .. for Christmas. David Gentles Office: 365-2111 Home: 365-2101 or 352-3513 1 have recently viewed most of our inventory of homes and am ready to advise both buyers ‘and sellers on the many alternatives avaliable. Rushed to Guy's Hospital, Capt, Binncy died of his injuries threo'hours tater. efare the Captain had breathed, his last, the. 3 dat hort dist: etaway car was foun Ing, Hedicy'was asked if he had anything to say, Io replled,\ Nothing I say will: make any itarenco,” a rom Toolcy St. It proved to have been stolen:a fow hours before ‘the robbery’ froma location .a” short distance from the Jewellery store. ies Police swarmed over the area In search of local hoodlums. Thoy felt certain thatthe murder had been commited by thugs who know that section of London well. In’ the first) weeks of the Intensive investigation, over. 200. small time thieves were taken into custody, i Detectives Iearned that two men liad disappeared the day after the tragle death of Capt. inney. “Thomas Jenkins and Ronald Hedley were ruthless men who had been in and ‘out! of prison all their lives: Jenkins was'in his thirtles, while Hedley was Three weeks jnto the hunt, Jenkins was found hid- ing out in Woking. An informant Upped off police Hint Hedley was holed up Sloser, to Home. He was pieked up’ in the middle of the night in di; Jamaica Rd. in Bermondsey. ea Both men adamantly denied that they had had anything to do with the robbery and mur ler, despite the fact that many eye wilnesses picked Hedley as the driver, of the car and Jenkins as.the man who had run across ‘the road with the tray of rings, Hed- ley and Jenkins were charged with theft and. mur- ler. On March G, 1945, they stood trial. Both men _ elected to take the witness stand on their own behalf. They admitted knowing each other slightly, but swore that they had not taken part in the rob- bery or the murder, Their counsel made, much of the fact that the prosecution's case relied solely on eye wilnesses, a notoriously unrellable meas of identification, The English jury took only one and a half hours to find both men guilty of murder, Before sentenc- Maybe: he was right, The! presiding judgo’ quick! hini.to death. Two days: before his sched- uled execution date of April 28, 1945, Ronald, Hed- loy’s ‘death ‘sent was to life ment, ‘ Jenkins was found guilty of manslaughter, He wag fortunate to receive only an elght year, prison term, ooo ate was still at work on Tuesday, April 29, 1047, when It decreed that Alec de Antiquis drive his motorcy- cle into London: to pick up some parts ho, needed for his motorcycle repair shop. * Alec turned onto Charlotte St. and came face to face with -three armed men run- ning“ directly towards ‘him, He ‘slammed on_his brakes, deliberately swinging his bike sideways in front of the armed men, One man fired his revolver, A .32 calibre bullet struck Alec in the temple. A pedestrian, Charles Grimshaw, stuck out’ his foot and tripped one of the robbers, who sprawled onto the road. Grimshaw jumped on the man, but one of the gunmen spolled the melee, turned and ‘kicked Grimshaw in-the head. Grimshaw released his grip and the three men made good their escape, Alec de Antiquis was rushed to Middlesex Hospi- tal, where he diced soon after his arrival. The three robbers, who: had scarves over their faces, frantically ran down Charlotte St. They had just robbed Jays Jewellery Store. They had planned on getting away in/a parked Vauxhall, but the car had been blocked in while they were busy robbing the store. The abandoned Vauxhall, which had been stolen, was found a few hours later. Two days after the shooting, taxi driver Albert Grubb walked into a police station’ and told police that a stranger-had jumped onto the running board of his taxi on the day of the shooting. Grubb had pushed the man. off his running board. He had watched as the man joined a companion and ran into a building Snown as Brook House. Detectives proceeded to Brook House, where they found a rain- coat, gray cap, gloves and a knotted scarf in a top floor closet, It took two weeks to trace the raincoat to a store, where it had been sold to one Charles Henry Jen- kins, 23, a well known small time thief, Jenkins was picked up. He was placed in an identification lineup, ut witnesses were unable to say for sure whether he was one of the robbers, Two of Jenkins’ known companions, Christopher Geraghty, 20, and Tony Rolt, 17, were similarly detained, with the same resulls. All three men were eventually released. Jenkins was questioned again, This time he claimed the raincoat belonged to an acquaintance, one Bill Walsh. When Walsh was questioned, he admitted that he had cased Jays Jewellery Store for Jenkins, but had nothing to do with the actual rob- bery. Tony Rolt was picked up once more. He confessed to having driven the stolen vehicle for Geraghty and Jenkins. Both men were arrested and all three were charged with the murder of Alee de Antiquis. On July 21, 1947, Jenkins, Geraghty and Rolt stood trial for’ murder in London’s Old Bailey. During the trial it. was established that the revolvers of all three men had been loaded at the time of the shoot- ing. A statement given to police by Geraghty was read in court. In it, he admitted, ‘A motorcyclist, I do not know if he was riding or walking, got in our way, and I fired my .32 off, intending to frighten him. I saw him drop off the motorbike and drop into the gutter.” The jury took only 15 minutes to find all three men guilty of murder, Jenkins and Geraghty were sentenced to hang. Rolt’s age saved his life. He was 10 be during His Majesty's pleasure’. In fact, he was to spend nine years in prison before being released. In the cases of Jenkins and Geraghty, all appeals failed, They were both hanged on Friday, Sept. 19, 1947 at Pentonville Prison. The deaths of Binney and de Antiquis are strangely similar. Both men were in the wrong ace at the wrong lime. Both made attempts to impede the escape of robbers. Both sets of criminals had just robbed jewellery’ stores: Most eeric of all, Charles Jenkins, who was hanged for the murder of de Antiquis, was the younger brother of Thomas Dear Santa, eggnog. frosty mornings. Letter to Santa How are you? How is Mrs, Claus? How is Rudolph? Ts hig nose still red? You know what I told you about letting him have all that Thank you, Santa, for the bunwarmer you brought me last year. It sure makes the driver’s seat of the Dashing Datsun nice and toasty on ‘This year, Santa, could you please bring the Itsy Bitsy BowWow a pillow all her own? She doesn’t like sharing mine any more and I don't sleep so good without a pillow. Now, Santa, I have to point out that last year LeRoy the Demented ' Guard Dog was just doing his job. And those pieces of material you left for him — the big red cotton one and the somewhat smaller white flannelette one with the red polka dots — really weren't a very good substitute for the rawhide bone be was expecting. In fact, Santa, he was so piqued that he ate all of the gingerbread people off of the Christmas tree, except of course, for a few disembodied heads he left dangling from the upper reaches by their yam loops. Nota pretty sight to wake up to on Christmas moming, Sant So, Santa, this Christmas Eve, LeRoy the Demented Guard Dog will be locked in the bathroom and your cheeks probably won’t get Jenkins, who was serving time in prison for the nerves, stovepipe again this year. 1 ¢, ground almonds 1c. icing sugar 1 tsp. dry instant coffee 5 tbsp, dark rum 1 thsp. milk into one-inch balls, Dip each 1c. molasses 1/2 c. sugar 6 tbsp. shortening 3 milk and ginger 4c. flour quite so rosy.: I will also leave you a little something to steady your And, Santa. Please don't park the reindeer right next to th eee Santa's Favorite Chocolate Rum Balls Ho! Hot Ho! 3 squares unsweetened chocolate 1/2. ¢, chocolate shot (sprinkles) Stir together the ground almonds, icing sugar, and instant coffee. Grate the chocolate squares. Watch out for your fingers. Stir finely grated chocolate into almond mixture. Sprinkle 3 tbsp. of the rum and all of the milk over dry ingredients. Stir until evenly moistened and dark brown, Chill for 10 minuies. Take out of the fridge, shape into a ball, and knead a few times. Push up your sleeves, dive in, and roll ball in remaining rum. shake off excess moisture, and roll in chocolate shot to coat thickly. Place on waxed paper to dry for one hour, then store in an airtight container in a cool place. Let ripeni a few days before serving. Makes 30. LeRoy’s Favorite Gingerbread People Ob! Oh! Ont tbsp. 1 tsp. each baking soda, cinnamon, nutmeg, cloves, Love, Nancy NRS Mountainview Agencies Ltd. 1695 Columbia Ave., Castlegar, B.C. V1L1iJ1 Professional! 365-2211 PHOTO December 1 to December 31 Processing 1 09° Special discounts on Christmas gifts murder of Capt. Ralph Douglas Binney. off for Christmas VICTORIA — _ Tourism Minister Cliff Michael today released a major tourist study showing that visitors to B.C. spend an estimated $2.4 billion each year travelling in the province. “The ‘Visitor 89" study gives us our first year-round, detailed profile of non-resident tourists,” Visitors to B.C. spend $2.4 billion Washington State ($168 million). *Visitors to B.C. spent an average of 14 nights away from home, of which 5.8 nights were spent in British Columbia. *79 per cent said they were repeat visitors, and one of three visitor parties indicated they had visited Expo 86. Pour molasses into a two- or three-quart saucepan and bring to a boil. Remove from heat and add sugar, shortening and milk. Stir until shortening melts, then a add soda, spices, and two cups of the flour. Beat until smooth. Gradually stir in remaining flour. Roll out on a floured surface to 1/8-inch thick. Cut with a floured cutter. Bake on greased baking sheets at 375 F. for 8 minutes, until very lightly browned around the edges. Remove and cool on wire racks. Makes about 30 four-inch gingerbread people. Decorate with Royal Icing. eee : Royal Icing 1 egg white 1/4 tsp. cream of tartar 1-1/4 c. icing sugar Combine all ingredients and beat with an electric mixer until stiff enough that a knife drawn through icing will leave a clean path. Sick o Dear Ann Landers: My heart went out to “Pooped in Phoenix” because J, too, am married toa sex maniac, The man never gets enough and I am sick of his selfishness, If I give him what he wants I can buy anything I want. IfI refuse him, my life is hell. I went for counseling to learn how to deal with this problem. The therapist said my husband is emotionally underdeveloped because his father died when he was 2 and his mother was sick a lot. He bas no bad habits and docs not chase other women, I am sure -of this becatise he talks in his sleep and I'm a careful listener. Don’t tell me to leave him because my boyfriend will not leave his wife. I'm 54, too old to start over. Please advise. — N.Y. Dear N.Y.: Maybe if you eliminated your boyfriend, you'd have more energy for your husband. I recommend it. Dear Ann Landers: Recently I leamed that my dad fathered a child by a single woman 10 years ago, during his second marriage. His current wife had children by ber first husband and the youngest child was legally adopted by me dad. My dilemma is this: The woman doesn’t know where my father is and she needs his address in order to sue him for child support. We met briefly and I was shown several photographs of the child as well as the birth certificate, After our meeting, I was convinced that she was completely honest with me and tat my dad did indeed father her id. Although my relationship with my dad is not a close one, we communicate periodically and get along fairly well. I would never confront him since I'm sure he would deny it and never speak to me again. Yet, I find it difficult to turn my back on the woman because, I, too, am a single mother raising a daughter with out any child support or state aid and I know how hard it is. I hope you will give me some advice so that I can make the right decision. Just sign me — Between a Rock and a Hard Place in Lake Country Dear Rock: While a small part of me says you owe your father loyalty, a larger. part of me says justice needs to be served and you are in a position to see that it is. I say, help the woman get what she is entitled to. If she has an ounce of integrity, she will not betray you. If she’s lying, a blood test will exonerate your father. Dear Ann Landers: Early last summer you ran a letter from a woman who wished her family would stop nagging her to quit smoking. At first, I was furious with her selfish indifference toward her family, because I remembered how my father and I used to beg my mother to quit smoking. it hurt me to think that maybe Mom felt the same way toward us. Then, I felt strangely comforted by your reply. It is so true, Ann, the only person who can make an addicted person quite is the addict. There is not one thing anyone can do until he or she makes that decision, Feeling guilty because someone you love is killing him or herself is not only useless, but it will drive you crazy. My mother died of emphysema last July Fourth, after suffering for six horrible years. She was 56. I thank God that she is finally free of the pain, but she left behind a family that moums her daily and curses her life-draining addicti “sex maniac” husband's selfishness them to quit before it kills them. Because my, mother ‘couldn’t'for wouldn't listen, she is’ gone and my fother and I must go \on without her. aia eee I iniss my mother’s support, her humor and — just HER, My heart aches that my own son will never |: have the privilege of knowing his marvelous grandmothez’— a woman who could have added so much to his life, — Her Dau; in Middleburg, Fla. fe Dear Daughter: Well said. Thank you. Gem of the Day:, Some students drink at the fountain of knowledge. Others merely gargle. — High School Teacher for 21 years, Paducah, Ky. Dear Readers: I drank at the fountain of knowledge when I was in high school. It was in college that I gargled. ‘What's the truth about pot, cocaine, LSD, PCP, crack, speed and downers? “The Lowdown on Dope” has up-to-the-minute information on drugs. Send a self- dd: long, i envelope and a check or moncy order for $3.65 (this includes postage and handling) to: 1 ig, Please keep telling your readers that if they drink to excess or smoke they should listen to their families, their doctors and their own bodies. Keep begging c/o Ann Landers, P.O. Box 11562, Chicago, Ill. 660611- 0562. (in Canada, send $4.45.) Ann Landers (R) 1990 Creators Syndicate, Inc. news of-the income, — A new York appeals court overturned the drug conviction of Bienvenido Taveras because the search of Taveras pockets was unconstitutional. The arresting officer testified that Taveras ha a “huge lump” in the groin area of his pants and that officer thus feared for his safety because the lump “looked hard” and “could have been a weapon.” — Robert Percy went on trial again for rape in Elmore, T., in October after a 1982 conviction was overtumed. Percy is using an insanity defense, claiming he had a flashback to his time fighting in Vietnam and mistakenly thought he as raping a Vietnamese woman. my d an ongoing dispute, he was justified in shoving his bass into the back of Cousin’s legs to trip him as they were filing off stage. — At the October wedding of Sandra and Carmine Cenati he told McWilliams it was “ time to pay the piper” when he fired him. — In October, ex-paratrooper Tevan Bullivant, whose train had in Milford, Conn., the father of the bride and other members of the wedding party brawled with the: owner of the wedding reception hall and several of his ployees about the dispositi of three leftover cases of wine. By the time police halted the free- for-all, the cases of wine had been smashed to pieces, along with various wedding gifts. — In October, two Denton, Texas, men, fathers of players on a girls (under age 12) soccer Smith, it of dealing stolen cars in a ‘Hartford, Con., sting operation in June; defended himself. at trial by compilation o! t peculiar things people do, edited by Chuck Shepherd. Proof that true stories are weirder than made-up ' stories. Jose Luis Astoreka, 34, won the annual nutcracking “with the bottom” contest in Kortezubi, Spain, in July, but cracking 30 walnuts between his buttocks in less than a minute. His brother, Jan Ramon, came in second and attributed the brothers’ skill to a “peculiar physical characteristic” in the family. COMPELLING EXPLANATIONS ‘— James Darby, 81, .was arrested in Seebring, Fla., in May for the fifth time in three years on cocaine trafficking charges. He told the police chief be needed to supplement his Social Security claiming that‘he had known the buyers were police officers all along and that he thought that selling the cars to police officers was the best way of getting the cars to their proper owners. — The Oklahoma Department of Human Services began in October to publish a monthly list of the “worst” excused d team, b at the opponent's goalie’s skill and demanded that the girl (age 10) “prove” he gender to game - men were * officials. (The PP a 23-year-old ‘woman was ona bridge in London threatening to jump onto the tracks below, got weary of the delay after 40 minutes and yelled at the woman, “Either jump or get down.” When police did not stop him, be walked up to the woman and pushed her off. She fell 20 feet, suffering various fractures. Said Bullivant, “Nobody seemed to be doing anything. I’ve been jumping out of aeroplanes all my life. I thought I was doing the bloody right thing.” —Denver police charged a 16- year-old girl with stabbing ber 14- “year-old brother in April after she ‘accused him of taking ber cookies. ‘The boy had responded to the P as sp for the Test of the season.) SMOOTH REACTIONS — In Philadelphia, Charles Keller, 55, was convicted in July of having wounded his neighbor by gunshot the year before. After for non-payment of child support. Among the first winners: (1) “I can’t afford to pay child support; I've got to pay my cable TV bill.” (2) “We only had sex on time; I couldn’t be the father.” (3) “I will not allow my ex-wife to get rich on my money” ($25 a week). — In May, Los Angeles Philharmonic bassist Barry Lieberman was suspended without pay for assaulting colleague Jack Cousin as they were leaving the stage after a performance. 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Cassette Player $279.00 MOD, ‘ y 10.Microwave Stands Starting At $89.00 Victoria T: had snipped some weeds from Keller's yard, Keller told her that he would sit on his porch with a gun, wait for her husband to come home, and settle the matter. At 11:45 p.m., the husband arrived. Keller yelled, “I’m waiting for you,...” fired at Troutman. — Newton McWilliams, who defeated his boss, Kenneth Boyer, in.the Democratic primary for Grant County, Okla., commissioner in August, was fired by Boyer two days later. Boyer denied malice, even though by ing his shoes at the girl, then punching her. Their mother said she then “tried to separate them" by beating both of them with a vacuum cleaner hose, before the girl took a knife to her brother. — Earlier this year, a 39-year- old woman in Salinas, Calif., after an argument with her husband over the appropriate length of her hair, grabbed a .38 revolver and fired into his vegetable garden, destroying his prized tomato ants. — Jose Luis Guia, a 16-year- old employee at Rigsby Upholstery, was charged with murder in April in San Antonio. Guia reportedly shot his boss to death because he was angry at the boss’s order to straighten the fabric on work Guia did the day before. : Late-blooming woman asks why it didn't happen earlier Q. I married young and then divorced my husband in my early 30s. I had never masturbated until recen- tly. (Maybe this is because I always had a sex partner.) My boyfriend suggested that I masturbate because I would find it enjoyable. He gave me copies of Penthouse Forum. Some- times I read them when he isn’t here and I masturbate. x I have two concerns. Is there something strange about me because I didn't masturbate sooner? My, boy- friend finds this curious. Second, is, there something wrong with a woman masturbating to such reading mater- ial? I have always assumed only men were turned on by these magazines. A. There is nothing wrong with a woman masturbating to any erotic material she finds arousing! “Lady Chatterley’s Lover” by D.H. Lawrence is an excellent example of this. You should buy a copy and enjoy It. Also, there Is not "or “strange” in the fact that you didn't masturbate sooner. You had a sexual partner and you did not feel the need. Now, you should enjoy masturbation whenever. you feel like doing so — without guilt! Once we thought only. men enjoyed these solitary pleasures, ‘ and now we know this isn't so. Q. Iam a happily married woman and gave it to my husband. T have also given him booklets on how to be faithful to your wife. This makes him angry. When I gave him your column, he said it vas the last straw. Does that mean he is already having an affair? And, what are the signs I should be looking for? I have never seen lipstick or makeup on his shirts, but Iam sure there are more signs than that one. His anger is making me suspicious of him. A. Stop giving him reading material, Including my column! Keep it to yourself. You are pushing him. If he isn't having an affair, he may decide he might as well be having one since you are accusing him of it anyway. If he's really having an affair, you will know eventually. I can’t give you a list of signs. I can, however, assure you that most spouses do discover these things in time. In_ your case, I think the. greater. danger Is that you will drive him into such behavior by your suspicious | nature, No one wants to be married to a Jailer. Q. Ihave been seeing the same man. for seven years. I am in my mid-203 and I have yet. to have an orgasm with ‘him. Lhave never been with another ‘-man,\unless:you include some light who loves reading your column in my.* newspaper. Recently you advised’ a . woman who was considering an affalr to try to work out her sexual problem with her husband, I thought that was excellent advice. I cut out the column: there Is something wrong with me. He * + making out in high school. He says I may‘not be ready to let go’ and lose “Myself in sexual abandon with a man yet: r How, long should it take for‘ a tobe ready? “woman Tam concemed thinks I may be afraid to have an fruitless trying, it is your obligation to orgasm with a man. Could I be share this information with him. sexually blocked by guilt and not I certainly think you are ready to know it? I do have orgasms when I have an orgasm with a man. If you masturbate. Please tell me what to do. can’t have an orgasm with this man T know he cares about me; and we are after you have shown him what to do both tired of waiting for this to for you, I suggest the two of you see a happen between us. sex therapist. It is possible that very long conversation! Nn some cases, I do suggest ‘not telling the spouse about the lover. I advise that if the affair is not going to last. Perhaps your affair will be over by the time you read this reply. If it is, keep your mouth shut. Just be extra nice to your wife! Q. I got herpes from a man four years ago. It was such a traumatic experience for me that I haven't been with another man since him. I am 40 years old, no innocent young girl. 1 should have known enough to be careful. I've never told anyone what 7 b am so ing? This should not be kept a secret but the most likely explanation is that from him. After seven years of he simply doesn’t know how to please you. Show him! Ask Q. Much to my surprise, I] am a erectile afew | U years ago. That led me to focus on aspects of lovemaking other than Recent intercourse. Now, I especially enjoy in my life. As a consequence of this sexual rejuvenation, I've had my first affair after 44 years of marriage. I have not, tlons: Is it really an “affair” if 1 don’t use my penis? And do I have to tell my wife? Iam troubled by the situation. A. First, whether you use your say whether or not to tell your wife without | knowing: more about ‘the situation. If you were sitting here in my office, I would ask many questions ‘CONTAINS ‘EXPLICIT’ SEXUAL. MATERIAL. WHICH. MAY-NOT. BE. SUITABLE ’.FOR: (ALL A. Have you told or shown him how -hidden guilt is blocking your better lover at 66 than 1 was as a rye performing oral sex, and | am finding however, used my penis in this “penis or not, you are having sex! Yes, READERS. to determine if this ts a: Meeting you have orgasms while masturbat- responses. Many things are possible, young man! Like many men, I began sex more pleasurable than it ever was. relationship. So, here are my ques- you are having a real “affair.” I can't seistonship or not. We would have a embarrassed and ashamed. My friends are always trying to fix me up with some man. They say, “You're such a lovely woman. Why don't you date anymore?” Should I tell them the truth so they will leave me alone about men and dating? lam tired of their well com- worse diseases. Of course, you must tell a potential sex partner that you have herpes and refrain from sex when you are contagious. But, your life is far from over! Q. Three years ago I was prepared to marry a man I loved very much. I was only 19 and he was 27, but I was sure he was the right man for me for life. Then I discovered that he was sleeping with another woman. I broke the engagement. Afterward, I went through a prolonged promiscuous period. I had sex with several men. I think I did this because I had lost my confidence in my sexual appeal. |‘. After that flurry of activity, I settied into another monogamous relation- ship which has lasted for two years. 1 am bored with this man, but I afrald .- to break up with him. What (if) 1° become promiscuous again? How can I prevent that from happening? = A. It is dangerous to go through’a ments. A. No, don’t say anything to your friends now. There is an organization for herpes sufferers. Ask your doctor or aclinic administrator for the phone number in your area. You need to talk to other people who have herpes. They can help you deal with your feelings of shame and embarrassment. better than friends can. It is also to Period in these times. The fear of sexually transmitted =: Where is it written in big red that you have to react this way? Yo Tmust go talk to. a therapist these feclings.:You have. proven ‘that possible you will meet date through this group. Herpes is not a death sentence. I am sure your doctor has told you that you could be suffering from many you are capable of having lor ship!