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Wednesday, March 2, 1994

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on paper
that's what I do. I write.
However, the verbal and
emotional expression are areas
of great difficulty for me, and
they have always been this way.
I don’t mean I can't talk, I
speak well, and people under-

Pp I history, and in ein
my past experience I fail to see
why I have made so little
progress in this area.

It is exceedingly difficult to
make headway in this area

why I bottle things up than to
say that I do. I have yet to dis-
cover the solution to that mys-
tery myself.

Perhaps I know but refuse to

stand the points I'm
fairly easily, but it's a different
genre of verbal expression I
tend to stumble upon: the ver-
bal expression of one's emo-
tions, which is casily
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up for so long I usually don’t
know I've bottled or even
experienced emotion, which is
unhealthy, as I now know for a
fact.

It's unhealthy physically and
psychologically and it's certain

ledge the
because they too have been
locked up for a long time. It's
like an emotional numbness,
and A

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of emotion

of various tasks, come home
d, watch some

several individuals observe
daily. I know I'm not the only

TV, and go to bed. Note the
word “food” doesn't come up
once?

Thave so many things to deal
and mental

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it is the most painful numbness
known to man.

What I mean is that emotion
is not felt when and where it
ought to be felt, and an individ-
ual who feels little or no emo-
tion cannot love, nor can
anyone get close enough to love
him or her. The knowledge that

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I can now say in retrospect,
but initially, the uncorking of
the bottle was painful indeed.
Though.I was beginning to
make progress, my new lifestyle
must have taken its toll on me.
min a typical day I get up,
shower, go to work on any or all

level that I have apparently re-
corked the bottle once again. I
only came to this realization
today,

OK, 80 I've been told by
many that I have a bright future
ahead of me, but at what cost? I
don’t want to continue in this
manner, but how do I not con-
tinue this way?

I have heard some close
friends say they wish they could
be as strong as me, but I would
not wish that upon my worst
enemy. It is a fat I wish to dis-
mantle as soon as possible.

This is a long and difficult

task; one which will undoubted-
ly take a long time to complete
if Lever succeed. But is it possi-
ble? I think so.

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your children. It’s easy to. make
light of children’s fears.

Parents may even have a ten-
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making fun of their fears or

at them. After all, we're
grown-' hry with cverything in

and nothing to fear, right?

Fear is an emotion that is com-

* mon to everyone at one time or

another. The next time you have
a fearful child to comfort, it
might help to a situa-

real, remove them from the situa-
tion and then talk about it. Ignor-
ing. chlliaa or forcing Chem Sn

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subject of coping with

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make their fears worse. It is also
important to keep in mind that
children age three and younger
have a difficult tie distinguishing
between what is real and what is
make-believe.

Even seemingly harmless
things such as frightening Hal-
loween masks and shopping-mall
Santas are common (and perhaps

tion in which you were afraid,
and figure out what helped you
overcome that feelii

Research show that the way a
parent responds to a fearful child
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infancy and toddlerhood are a
fear of strangers, anxiety about
being separated form parents,
fear of the dark and fear of ani-
mals.

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+ Start by sharing some times
when you were afraid. Tell how
you overcame that fear.

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helpers who can assist us in an
emergency such as nurses, police

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Hotel which overlooks a wild coast
and wilder sea and climbed the
steep rock to the ancient castle on
its summit.

In the town we visited Britains
oldest post office, sat down to a
Cornish cream tea and then,
seeking evening reinforcement,
went to a bakery where a woman
was making Cornish pasties.
After we had watched her for a
while, she asked in a not-quite-
English accent: “Where are you
from?”

” we

“That's obvious,” “she said,

“L know that, * ghe said, “but

what place in ei Columbia?”

“Castlegar,” we said, starting
to become intrigued.

“I know where that is,” she
said triumphantly, “I live in
Kamloops.” Small world.

Further conversation then dis-
covered that she had married a
Canadian, moved to Canada and
set up a business in Kamloops.
They now spend half of the year
in Kamloops and half the year in
Tintagel making Cornish pasties.

“And where would you prefer
to live?” we asked.

“If we could afford it,” she
said, “we'd live here.”

It’s amazing how far you can
travel on meat pies.

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David Jesse Adshead

Qn Tuesday, February 22,
1994, David Jesse Adshead of

Adshead and David Claque of
Cranbrook and Darline and
Sonny Edwards of Robson, spe-

cial frien Leorra Nutter, of

26, 1994 with Castlegar-Robson
Legion officiating. Cremation
has taken

Mr. Adshead was born May
31, 1920 at Makinson, B.C.. He

Castlegar-Robson Legion for
many years and was an active
member of the Robson Seniors
Group. He enjoyed gardening,
fishing, curling and bowling.

He is survived by: one son and
daughter-in-law, David and
Jeanette Adshead of

four
paneer do ower two broth-
ers, Henry of Pullford Harbour,
Salt Spring Island, and Cecil of
Burton; two sisters, Hannah
Knelson of Swift ‘Current,

Obituaries

Laura Ji Chernen

there until her death on Sunday,
February 13, 1994 after a tragic
Laura was bom ‘on November
2, 1936 in Nelson, B.C., The
Kalmakoff family resided in , Mary
Shoreacres she She leaves behind Mike,
husband of 36 years;

Jaw,

He was predeceased, by his
wife, Kay in 1980.

In lieu of flowers, contribu-
tions may be made to the B.C.
Heart and Stroke Foundation,
P.O. Box 3023, Castlegar, B.C.,
VIN 3H8,

Funeral arrangements were
under the direction of the Castle-

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nine grandchildren, Danny,

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and nephews.
May she rest in peace.

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Castiegar's 1994

Dare To Change

Submitted by: Pastor Stan Block

Phone: 365-2455

We are all, in the majority at least very aware of certain things in our lives that we
would like to change and out of these desires have sprung many answers. We have hair
dressers, make-up consultants, fitness instructors (I think I need to make an appointment
with one of those), weight loss groups, yes even plastic surgeons and many more all

helping to change our appearance.

~ How very important this is in our world today but even more vital to our quality of life
are-the changes below those layers of skin and fat, in our heart, our habits and our

relationships.

The Bible speaks over and over of God's unconditional love for us Romans 5:8 says “But

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a purpose that is God's issue.

When we say God loves us we do not speak of a sloppy,
sentimental love that just wants us to be happy. No God's
love for you is far greater than that it is a love that seeks
out your highest good. We long for change but we need the
artist to make those changes. He is ready and willing.
What are we doing with this truth?

God demonstrated his love for us in that while we were still sinners Christ died for us.”
“| Hebrews 12:6 tells us that God disciplines the ones that he loves. In other words He
loves me as I am but he loves me too much to let me stay the way I am. Further more
he is for me and against those things that keep me from being all that he created me

| Hey, could it be that God and I want the same things? That the changes I desire
deep down are the very things God wants too?

I must warn you, however, that when you allow God in and give him the right to
tiacipline you for change you may find yourself wishing as St. Augustine once
expressed “O Lord love me less! He relates how God began
to work in his life and the challenges that he met were
such that he questioned for a moment his desire for
change. It's taking too long, it's too much trouble!

We can rejoice in God's persistant love in those times.
He is like a great artist, who for the love of his work and
the satisfaction of a picture completed as he invisioned it, °
works tirelessly, sketching, erasing, changing lines,
adding colors, shadows and images until he sits back
resting in the satisfaction of his creation.

Days, months, years? Time is not the issue, change with