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into har own hands and told all to Art's wife.
Mrs. Gosiott was shocked, but her reaction

was'unusual, to say the least. She felt }
sincerely sorry for Daisy and her baby: ' H
However, she {nsisted that Dalsy and the child’
find lodging elsewhere. ° \
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Art was furlous, but there was little he
could do. The legitimate Mra, Goslett could
have him sent away on bigamy charges if he
didn't comply with her wishes, Besides, sly

* Art had fone out and married another woman |
just for fun, i i
To settle everyone down, Art promiged to}
seck out lodging for Daisy and.the baby. But
our boy wasn't pleased al all. Who knows |
when his devious mind turned to murder {
as a way of solving all his problems? To his |
way of thinking, Mrs, Goslett had to go.

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ome men \we a way with the ladies.
Call it maketism, charisma, or
whatever, Nias yery little to do with
looks, Many of tt\world’s great lovers have
been far from hatkome.

Arthur Goslett whn't the best looking man
in the world. His ey were situated far too
close together. Besldy, he wore a perpetual
scowl. But whatever ) Jacked in ‘the
appearance departmen he more than made
up for in charm.

Art was a marrying
those men who marry athe drop of a hat,
Love ‘em and leave ‘em ‘s Art's motto, All
except one, Throughout hiSigamous life, he
had one real, honest-to-googess wife living in
Armitage Mansions, Golderagreen in London.

Long-suffering Mrs. Goslethvas aware of at
least a portion of her husband extra
curricular activities, We know'pat for
certain, because in 1918 she hat
when she discovered he was liv as the
husband of another woman. Art’ erged fram

the full of
the Missus that he would be the Idyl husband
until the day he dled. Rascal that thwas,
he didn’t mean one word of his rashyromise.
One fine day in 1918, as the gods wuld
have it, a young lady, Daisy Holt, bu:
into Art on the street. Art bowed, scrakd and
apologized. Daisy was so impressed tha\she
agreed to Iet Art accompany her to her Kther
run-down room,
In the days and nights which followed,
and Daisy became close. Actually, they

became as close as two homo sapiens can gl

All the while, Daisy believed that her
boyfriend was single.

Wouldn't you just know it? Daisy found
herself heavy laden with child. She informed
Art that she'desired to marry him. What the
heck, thought Art, what's one bigamous
marriage more or less. The bogus ceremony

n. You know, one of

was performed In February 1919, :
Daisy and her new husband, whom she
knew as Capt. Arthur Godtrey, took a flat In
the Kew District of London. Bae ‘didn’t have
. She was so sick she
a-nursing home before
tise upon
ing home with

yward capta'

weakness, Art confessed that his real name
was not Godfrey, but Goslett. What's more,
there was a Mrs. Goslett and three small
Gosletts stashed away in Golders Green.

Say what you will about Art, the man had
gall. He came up with a bi
Daisy and the baby would move in wil irs.
Goslett and the three children. Art's wife had
never met his brother Percy or Percy's wife.
Percy had conveniently died recently. Daisy
would pose as Percy's wife and all seven
could be accommodated under one roof.

Daisy wasn't that swift, but she Anitlally
rejected the wild scheme. Then again, what's
a girl to do. She had to live somewhere.
Reluctantly, she donned widows' weeds and
posed as the late Percy's wife. She was
accepted at face value by the unsuspecting
Mrs. Goslett.

As time went by, the two women became
friends, Mrs. Goslett was naturally
sympathetic toward the woman she believed
was her sister-in-law. Things were turning out

swimmingly for everyone, except Art. Daisy ©
simply refused to sleep with the scoundrel. As

Arthur and his wife left thelr home on the
of May 1, 1920. He returned home
alone, Mrs, Goslett didn't come home that
night. Next day, her body was found floating |
down the Brent River. She had received a 4
severe beating before being tossed
unconsclous Into the river,
olice informed Art of his great loss. As }

H

When detectives turned on the heat,

Art
broke down and confessed to killing his wife. . |

The nasty man attempted to incriminate
Daisy Holt, but Daisy was able to prove that
she had nothing to do with the murder.

At his trial, Art testified in part, “I was

Daisy Holt, and she suid

t my wife, then someone
would kill me. I kept puting her off, but she
dared me and said, ‘There are plenty of
places by the river. I suggest you pro;

}
taking her to see a house, stun her, and throw :
her in.’ j

“Down by the river I struck her three or

H
four blows. I took the jewelery and kissed the !

hand with the wedding ring on, and I said I
was sorry, and then flung her overboard. I
picked up the things and ran home."

In Arthur's defence, his lawyers maintained
that he was insane. The jury disagreed. They
found him guilty.

Under guard, Art was led from the Old
Bailey. A young woman followed the

procession, sobbing uncontrollably. She visited i

Art religiously in Pentonville Prison right up
to the day he was hanged.

eae was, of course, Art’s last bigamous
wife.

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“Half a cup of sour cream,” said the recipe.

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The second sour cream container dredged from the depths of the
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Probably reasonably fresh. Or maybe it had already mummified.
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the fridge is not everyone’s idea of a good time, So, just supposing
you're not the sort of person that really wants a petrified turkey in
residence in your fridge (they’re no fun anyway, it’s too easy to iden-
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of . .

Oh. ‘

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And I was out of sour cream,

Easy Turkey Tettrazini

Quick to do and so good. Also fattening, but if you've celebrated
the holiday properly, by this time it really doesn’t matter any more
anyway.

6 tbsp. butter or margarine

6 tbsp. flour

1/2 tsp. salt

1/4 tsp. pepper

2c. half and half

_1¢. chicken broth made with cubes or whatever

‘3c. cubed, cooked turkey _

2410'6z, cans mushroom stems-avid pieces Urained

3/4 Ib. of spaghetti, cooked and drained" " *

1/2 c. grated Parmesan cheese

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Add half-and-half and chicken broth. Cook, stirring constantly, until
mixture boils. Remove from heat. Stir in turkey and mushrooms. Toss

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Husband a liar and

‘Dear Ann Landers: About a
year ago, my husband met a
young professional - woman
through his york. When he men-
tioned thit he was taking her to
lunch as a thank-you for her help,
I wasn't concemed,

Recently, I was stunned by our
phone bill. Thinking there had to
be an error, I checked the comput-

> ¢rized printout of the calls made

from our home and noticed that
most of them had been made dur-

[ing the day while I worked. (my
- husband works the afternoon

shift.) As many as three calls were
made in a single day to the same
number, One call lasted 89 min-
utes. A little detective work
revealed that all the calls were to,
this young woman,

When I asked my husband
about the calls and the relation-
ship, he said they were just friends
and not been romantically or sex-
ually involved. He refuses to stop
secing her, however, and insists
that I have no right to dictate to
him. I maintain that he is endan-
ering our marriage of nearly ten
years by putting his “friendship,”
as he calls it, above our marriage,
He thinks I’m jealous. Am 1? —
Mystified in Michigan.

Dear Mich,: A better word
would be “threatencd.” But that’s
not the issue. A man doesn’t
spend 89 minutes on the phone «
with a casual business friend.

My hunch is that your husband
is not only a cheater but a liar as
well. Are you sure you want this
character? If you do, get some
counseling. It will enable you to

let off steam and feam how to deal
with this. painful. situation,
Harping, yelling, sleuthing and
accusing is not the way to go.
Your ten year history adds up to a

_ big advantage. Good luck. ;
Dear Ann Landers; Generally
you are compassionate, patient
and ‘consistently helpful to your

readers. For many years I have
almost always agreed with your
advice. But in the case of the letter
from “It's Bumpy at the End of the
Road” (her husband had just
retired), I think you could have
offered the woman a little more
help. do you mind if I give you a
hand?

Although I sympathize with
her, my heart goes out to her hus-

band who bad worked for so many

as,a competent manager and sud-
denly found himself with nothing
tb do,
‘The annoyed wife wrote, “He
* hangs around the kitchen, lifts lids
and stirs the plots, This drives me
up the wall.” Even though it may
seem an invasion of her territory
she could start right there to tum a
liability into an asset.
In a low-key way she could
capitalize on his wanting to be
with ber and include him in her

cooking routine. For

cheater

might ask, “How does that gravy
look? Is it too thin? Should I add
a little flour?” Or, “Would you
mind keeping an eye on the soup
while I deal with the biscuits?”
Little by little she could teach him
a few things and help him become
interested in cooking. She ‘might
then ask him to be responsible for
a few simple meals during the
week. Later on she should try to
interest him in regional cooking
and get him to visit the areas —
the ones close by first, land
Hawaii and Alaska later. They
were the two places she had
always wanted to see.

I know there are many women
who share this writer's agony. I
hope I have helped them all. — A
Voice in Maryland

Dear Voice: Thanks for accen-
twating the positive. There is
much to be said for that approach.
It supports the old adage, “You
can Catch more flies with honey
than with vinegar.” Thanks for
your wisdom.

Dear Ann Landers: I'm still
burning over the letter from the
woman whose fiance broke up
their relationship rather than get
tid of his dog.

A dame who brings three chil-
dren into a marriage should tread
lightly. That’s quite a lot of bag-

. gage. With a little pati and

ep le The, writer
could have put one of her children
in charge of giving the dog a‘daily *
brushing, Thig would have minj- ©
mized the shedding. Ree

The man made the right deci-
sion when he chose his faithful
dog over that domincering
woman, ” :

A dog's love'is a tough act to
follow. Consider this: my dog has
never made me'cry. When I look
into her eyes I see love and
warmth. On the other hand, when
by accident my husband’s eyes

- meet mine, I am pierced to the

core by two icicles. Draw your
own conclusions as to what my
life is like. — Frozen Out In
Ashtabula, Ohio

Dear Ashtabula: I get your
Point, and I can’t-argue with it. A
great many readers agreed with
you — thousands, in fact. Who
wouldn’t want a companion, who
makes no demands, is ly loyal
and. comes. when Called? I’m
rethinking this one.

Gem of the Day: A key ring is
a handy little gadget that allows
you to lose ali your keys at once,

Is life passing you by? Want to
improve your social skills? Write
for Ann Landers’ new booklet,
“How to Make Friends and Stop
Being lonely.” Send a self-

kindness she could have trained
the dog and eamed its loyalty and
affection.

I have had several breeds of
long-haired dogs in the house and
have never encountered a serious

ed, long, b
envelope and a check of money
order for $4.45 (this includes
postage and handling) to: Friends,
c/o Ann Landers, P.O. Box 11562,
Chicago, Ill. 60611-0562. (In
Canada, a1

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the

current compilation of

the most peculiar things
people do, edited by Chuck
Shepherd.

Proof that true stories are
weirder than made-up
stories.

In July, University of Miami
microbiologist Patricia Mertz
sought volunteers with smelly feet
so she could sest her hypothesis
that the odor was similar to that of
Limburger _cheese./ her
researchers planned to sniff lots of
cheese to familiarize themselves
with the scent, then study five vol-

. unteers a day for 48 days, at a dis-

tance of two inches.

GOVERNMENT IN ACTION
—The U.S. Department of Energy
last year spent $1.4 million send-
ing the entire 25-pound, 8,800-
page environmental impact state-
ment on the superconducting
supercollider to 16,00 citizens
who had expressed interest in the
project, when only a summary of
the statement was required by law.

A recent memo at the Amy
Troop Support Agency in Fort
Lee, Va., reminded personnel that,
since the elevator “is unsafe and
has been known to stick between
floors,” it should be used only “for
freight and the handicapped.”

—The of

through the backseat into the
trunk. A neighbor told reporters
that raising rats was Sullivan's
hobby, but also admitted that he
could smell the rat feces in
Sullivan’s car all the. way to his
house.

—Stanley Walker, 47, was
killed in a domestic dispute with
his wife, Vannie, in Bridgeport,
Conn., in July when the 500-
pound woman sat on him to hold
him for police arrival. He had
called her a “fat-assed ox” and
threatened to burn their house
down,

—Tulsa police.jailed a 33-

id man in June after-he

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Singapore began in July to impose

fines of up to $77 for those who

fail to flush public toilets after

using them, (Because of public
on Si

special sensors have been installed
on them that will stop the elevator,
activate a video camera in the ceil-
ing, and summon police.)
—Listed among District of
Columbia government job open-
ings in June was that of a “wire
walker” to “perform gymnastic
feats of skill and balance while on
a wire 1/2 inch wide,” and to

for five days. us
—Fonmer Los Angeles County
Deputy Sheriff Deron Michael
McBee filed for disability benefits
in 1986, claiming that he hurt his
back in a scuffle with a prisoner,
but he was charged recently with
filing a false claim after being
spotted performing as a male
stripper in Atlantic City, where his
act included gyrating wildly
(wearing only a G-string) and
leaping into the audience to hoist
a woman on his shoulders. He
claims he has the type of injury
that is not affected by dancing.
THE ONLY WAY OUT: -
»-—In January. Belinda Sue
Buras itted suicide in

y
pulled a .357 M:
at a convenience store and robbed
the clerk of a single bottle of cold
beer because, he said, he had had
a bad day.

—A woman (one of 17 pas-
sengers) on a recent Wideroe
Airlines flight in Norway man-
aged to convince the pilot to land
the plane (which has no lavatory)
at a remote airfield halfway
through the 85-minute flights so
she could make an emergency
restroom visit.

—Richard Greene and Gina

Houston minutes after having
been involved in a minor traffic
accident. A 22-year-old Pontiac,
Mich., woman was rescued in
January after she slashed her
wrists immediately after a minor
traffic accident. In June, Rosa
Maria Hidalgo shot herself to
death in Miami as she was being
pursued by police for speeding.
—Two high schools students in
Seoul broke their backs and legs
in June as they jumped from a
building because one of their

“perform difficult and
acts.” Pay is $440 per week for 32
hours, and the affirmative action
control number is “0088.”
QUESTIONABLE
JUDGMENTS
—Stephen Sullivan, 30, was
cited for vehicle infractions in San
Jose, Calif., recently when police
found that his car contained 20
rats, some of which had burrowed

Tt made wedding plans
earlier this year in Hillsboro,
Ore., despite Greene’s having
shot at Thompson five times in
February 1988, leaving her a
paraplegic. Thompson had named
Greene as her caretaker and had
charges reduced so that Greene
received only probation. he
blamed the incident on a metham-
phetamine binge that kept him up

had been fired for
attempting to organize a union.

: —Professor Richard Jaeckle,
35, described as a “brilliant” Ohio
State University researcher on
psychiatric depression, killed him-
self in August. *

(Send your Weird News to
Chuck Shepherd, P.O. Bax 57141,
Washington, D.C. 20037.)

Do you think he's sending me th

Q. The man I'm dating isn't very
careful about birth control. As a
‘single woman in my late 30s, I have
! grown accustomed to being with men
“who treat birth control like a matter
of national security. They're sure I'd
love to get pregnant “accidentally,”
and they're right. I would.
| This guy is different. I told him
from the start we had to use condoms
‘as birth control because I wasn't on
the pill. Sometimes he doesn’t use
one, especially if it's the second time
we're making love in the same night.
+ Does that mean he wouldn't mind a
‘little accident too? He seems to be
sending me all the signals that he
‘ wants to commit. Can I take this as
! another signal?
+A. Only if you don't mind being
alone and pregnant, because that is
‘what may happen to you! T don't
know what other signals he’s sending,
* but this one could just mean he's lazy.
* Until he tells you that he wants to
= have a baby with you, don’t assume
he does. It would be nice if he
proposed marriage first, wouldn't it?
Also, you should be using condoms
‘unless you are in a monogamous
relationship with this man. Don't
: assume you are. If he hasn’t told you
| he isn't having sex with anyone else,
ask him! i

Q. Tam still hot for sex, (but. my,

> husband is not.-Most of your letters
: concerning couples our age are

written by men who can’t get their

wives to have sex. I am_ having an
} affair with one such man. We don’t
2 feel guilty about it, because we aren't
‘taking anything away from our

a]

spouses. They don't want what- we
give each other. a

But my husband suspects I am
seeing someone. He's told me he
doesn’t mind if T am, but he'd like to
hear the details. I don't quite trust
that. Do you think he's trying to trip
me up? Or is he sincere? If he is
telling the truth, do I owe him the
same in return?

A. Tam suspicious too — of your
husband's remarkable lack of jea-
lousy. He may be trying to trip you up.
I do not often advise people. to
confess their affairs to their spouses
because such confessions can cause
much pain, but most people who ask
if they should tell are finished with
the affair, or ready to end it. It'sounds
like you want to continue seeing the
other man.

f Don’t tell him now. Talk ‘to a
counselor or perhaps your minister

stimulation to reach orgasm even
though she loves the feel of my penis
inside her. I give her ample foreplay,
both oral and manual. Shouldn't that
be enough?

A. She is absolutely right! And she
has explained her needs to you in
both an honest and loving way. Since
what she says is true for the majority
of women, I am wondering if the
women you knew in the past really
didn’t need this stimulation or were
tee embarrassed to let you know they

So much confusion and unhappi-
ness is caused by men’s, and some-
times women’s, belief that the penis
should be all that any woman needs! I
want you to go to the bookstore and
buy these three books which will
explain this aspect of female sexual-
ity, and the myths surrounding it: “For
Yourself," by Lonnie Barbach; “Dear

about your try
using his interest in erotic details as a

way of arousing him sexually. Share

your fantasies with him while you are
lying together in bed. They might
reawaken his desire. I am glad you
wrote. It’s good to hear the other side
of the story! sig $

Q. I'm involved with ‘a. wonderful
woman who has an annoying sexual
habit. She insists on using her hand to
stimulate herself to orgasm while we
‘are. making love. I've never known a
woman to do this and I am in my 40s.1
feel there is something unnatural
about her need to touch herself, when
Tam inside her. “

She says that I don’t understand the:

female. anatomy, that she needs this

\

of Sex,” by Susan Crain
Bakos; and “Dr, Ruth's Guide to Good
Sex,” by me. Then ask her to show
you, how to use your own hand in
place of hers sometimes while you
are making love.

Q. am only interested in a sexual
relationship .with the woman I'm
seeing. We're both in our 20s, and I
don't feel we're ready for a commit-
Ment. She acts like we have. one.

», When she went home for the holidays,

she told me, “Don't cheat on me
now!” .

How can you cheat on someone to
whom you've made no promises? I
thought she would understand my
position if I didn't talk about a
“future® together. She doesn’t seem to
catch on. Should I spell it out for her

4

Ask
Dr. Ruth

THE FOLLOWING: COLUMN
CONTAINS EXPLICIT SEXUAL
MATERIAL WHICH MAY: NOT:
BE: SUITABLE. FOR™ ALL

guilty. If she still persists in talking as
though you had made a commitment
to each other, gently correct her each
time the issue is raised.

No, it is not abnormal for a man, or
woman, of any age to be interested
only in sex with a particular person.

Q. I am dating a sexy lady who
turns me on more than any woman
has.in a long time. But I have a real
problem with her. She doesn't like me
to perform cunnilingus on her. I enjoy
performing oral sex on a woman,
especially if I am in love with that
woman, as I am with her. Nothing
gives me greater She stops

e right signals?

her. If she still doesn't want to reach
orgasm this way, stop pushing her.
Tell her you hope in time she will
come to enjoy cunnilingus. But don't
let it be such an issue.

Q. My wife often tells me the most
intimate sexual details of her friends’
married lives. She knows everything
about her friends’ husbands from the
sizes of their penises to how long they
can make love. This makes me
uncomfortable. I can't help but won-
der if she is telling these women the
same kinds of things about me and
our sex life. i
I think about this when

me before I can give her an orgasm

this way, .

I feel like she's controlling her own
orgasms and thus depriving me of the
Pleasure of giving them to her. Why
can't she surrender to me totally? I'm
afraid this will become an even bigger
problem between us. What can I do to
change her?

A. Try to understand why she
reacts the way she does to oral sex.
Maybe she comes from a sexually

that I’m only interested in sex? I feel a
little guilty about leading her on by
keeping silent, but, on the other hand,
telling her she means nothing to me
sounds harsh.' Is It abnormal for a
man my age to be interested only in
sex with a woman? vabet
A. Yes, “Honey, you mean nothing
to me,” does sound harsh! I wouldn't
put it in Just those words. Tell her you
enjoy her company and making love
to her, but have no interest -in
pursuing a serious relationship with
her. That should make you feel less

and believes
anything other than intercourse is
wrong. Or maybe she has- had an

to
oral sex. It could also be that she has
trouble surrendering to you this way
because she feels self-conscious
about how her body looks or tastes or,
smells. Or maybe you aren't giving her
the right kind of stimulation to bring
her to orgasm, but she's too shy to tell
you so.
Have you asked her why she stops.
you before she reaches orgasm? Ask
her! Then share your feelings with

a

we're making love and I don't like the
way it makes me feel. If I wanted
other people in my bed, I'd invite
them! How should I handle the
situation? Do you think my suspicions
about what she might be saying
well-grounded? f} }

A. I don't blame you for feeling
uncomfortable. I suspect you are right
in thinking that she ts sharing the
intimate details of your life with her
friends. It is not likely she is the only
woman in the group who isn’t talking.
Next time she tells. you something
about another couple's sex life, stop
her. Say, “I don't want to hear these
things about people I know. It’s none
of my, business, and I have trouble :
looking John in the eye now.”.Then
suggest she invent erotic stories to
share with you if this is what excites ~
her. or teats .

Also, say your wish for the: new :

year ts that she never tell anyone else |’

what happens in bed between the two.
Of You. i 2 sey “ f

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