Page 6B The. Castlegar Sun Wednesday, January 29, 1992 Happy marriage outcome of Dear Ann Landers: I've just read the letter from “Any Woman, Anytown, USA,” in ‘which she described her corre- spondence with “Any Soldier” in Desert Storm, mm. 1, like “Any Soldier,” wrote Washingt , Observer- | ceed 's “Operation Santa column, That resulted in | amg than 500 letters from people Sin southwestern Pennsylvania. "The mail really cheered me up, as *1 was going through a divorce at that time. I answered every letter and ended up writing to four or five steadily. When I returned to the states, I decided to look one of them 7 : pmet her in August 1971. ywere married in October of ion wwe’ 've been married 19 years and each year gets better. We have two wonderful sons and a tgreat life — all the result of jamowering that first letter! Tell the lady who wrote to you not to give up hope, Some day her correspondent may look her up and change her life, You may use my name and town. — Michael Austing, Haughton, La. Dear Michael; What a heart- warming story. Thanks for letting me know. Here's anotiier one. Dear Ann Landers; A World War 11 Gl with whom I have cor- P d for 48 years to write, so I can understand the loss some of your readers must feel at being dropped by their Desert Storm pen pals. War is an intensely emotional time, My correspondence helped me view war in terms of personal disruption to human lives rather than cold statistics and campaigns won or lost. The Gls needed to be reminded that there was some normalcy for them to return to some day. It has been a joy to follow this Gl's life. He went through two years of combat and rarely com- Schedule for Jan. 29 & 30, 1992 Wed. 6:30 pm, Thurs. 9:00 am + West Kootenay Today — An interview with a representative from the upcoming trade show. Wed. 7:00 pm, Thurs. 9:30 am + Care & Share Telethon Parade of Entertainers - a look back at 1991's telethon. Wed. 9:00 pm, Thurs. 11:30 am + Trail City Council — Gavel to gavel coverage. Sunday, Feb. 2, 1992 * 6:30 pm - West Kootenay Today — repeat from above. * 7:00 pm - Project Discovery (part 9) - Leslie Schatz and Joanne Myrol are the featured artists. * 7:30 pm - Care & Share Telethon Parade of Entertainers - repeat from above. plained about the horrors he ‘Was experiencing. He went on to get a college education and become a teacher. Along the way, he thar- ried, adopted children, became a grandfather and learned to handle the challenges of retirement. Our correspondence has 'pro- vided a thread of continuity to each of our lives. I'm suréwe both have benefited from putting our thoughts on paper, knowing that someone who cares will read them. Today's society would have difficulty believing that such a loving relationship could contin- ue without sex. — Jo Ann in Cal- ifornia Dear Jo Ann: A letter like yours restores one's faith in the goodness of people. Read on. Ann Landers Syndicated Columnist my life les, Calif F Dear Louise: Knowing that I can make sucha difference makes all the hard work worth- while. Thanks, plus Land K to you and yours. Louise R., Los Ange- Dear Ann Landers: While our family was living in New York, the children attended a pub- lic school in a middle-class neighborhood. They were beaten up and robbed so many times they were afraid to leave the house. Finally I decided to keep them home and teach them myself. This worked out very well. My children were much happier and they felt secure. I was a tough taskmaster and they learned a lot After the first year, city officials informed me that I could not con- tinue to keep my children out of school. They said a private school was a legal alternative. Unfortunately, I could not afford the tuition. I then moved to Boston. Again, in a middle-class neighborhood Dear Ann Landers: I've been reading your column ever since I was in grade school and never thought I would write, but now I must. I was one of the thousands of people who followed your sug- gestion that I write to Any Ser- vice Member, Desert Storm. The man I ended up corresponding with was a first sergeant from Ohio. I fell in love with him through his letters. After seven months of corre- sponding, he came back to the states and we met in California. He was everything I ever dreamed of and within three months we were married. My folks adore him and I think his family is great. I am pregnant with twins and we are going to name one of the babies after you Thanks a million for giving me BACON CHEESE $ 4? DELUXE & FRIES inctudes G.S.T. All beet patty with lettuce, pickle, toma- my child: were beaten up and robbed, not only on the streets but also in the school halls. I decided to keep them home after I discov- ered that one of my sons was car- rying a knife to defend himself. After several months, I gave up. Half the kids in that school carry guns. There were several shootings — two of them fatal This time I moved my kids to Canada, where the gun laws are much stricter. No school any- where is perfect these days, but in Canada, I do not fear for the lives of my children every time they walk out of the house. The pro-gun lobbyists in the United States have helped make life impossible for peace-loving citizens. A person can buy a gun as easily as he can buy a pack of cigarettes. Television programs show every kind of violence imaginable, and it is made to look exciting and manly. If there are any parents left in the United States who care about the futuge of their children, my advice is to insist that public schools check all students for weapons on a daily basis and demand that American TV be cleaned up. What a disgrace that I had to leave the country in order to find peace of mind. — No Longer Afraid in Toronto Dear Toronto: Surely there are not gun-carrying kids in every school in New York and Boston Could you not have moved to another neighborhood? It's truly an outrage that there are guns in ANY schools. Does this have to be? I'd like to hear from some principals and super- intendents around the country. Are there guns in YOUR school? What can be done about it? Dear Ann Landers: I'm a ‘letter writing I feel terrible keeping this knowl- edge from my husband but I keep hoping she will give up. What should I do? I can't eat or sleep. I love Nick and can't share him with this romantic attachment fromthe past. Please help me, — Faithful Reader in CG . government ployee who has worked in this office a shor time so I don’t know everyone by name yet. A pleasant young woman here asked me to sign 4 large, glittery home-made birth- day card. I thought she was col- lecting signatures for someone's birthday so I signed it. She then Pointed to the card and said, “You can tape your dollar right here.” I saw where others had done so and reluctantly took a dollar out of my wallet and taped it to the card which said, “Happy Birth- day, Lisa,” although I had no idea who “Lisa” was. T then asked, “Who is Lisa?” She said, smiling, "I'M Lisa!” I was so burned up I didn’t say another word — just walked away. Now I'm sorry.1 didn't rip my dollar bill off the card and take it with me Have you ever heard of this gimmick before? — Panhandled in Baltimore. Dear Panhandled: How tacky. For a few measly dollars that girl has ruined her reputation with everyone in that office. She must have popcorn where her brains belong. Dear Ann Landers: A while back one of your readers wrote about how her husband discov- ered his long-lost love at a high school reunion. It ended their marriage. I am panic-stricken that this may happen to me Years ago, my husband had a dream girl whom he hoped to many. She chose someone else. “Nick” used to talk a great deal * about this wonderful first love but it never bothered me. We have been married six years and have a child. I’ve always trusted my hus- band and never felt threatened A few weeks ago, Nick won an award which resulted in some publicity. This woman found out where he is and has called him at home several times, leaving messages She also has written. I read and destroyed the letters and never gave him the messages. She is divorced and says she made a mistake and now needs him to be her fnend. I'm sure that eventual- ly she will connect with him. T don’t think Nick would leave me for her, but I believe he might be tempted to have an affair. That would destroy me and our family Presented to: or clients. This award will be presented every week to someone in Castlegar who shows extraordinary service to his/her customers The recipients will receive an award plaque to keep courtesy of Kats’Trophys Excellence in Soniite Award Georgina Percival Karnie's Ladies Wear + Jan. + Jan. 26 &. Jan. 27 + Jan HAPPY BIRTHDAY 25 Grandma Konkin, Love The Kabatoff Family Aleea Kabatoff, Age 8 Uncle Jack, Auntie May, Jennilee, Amanda, Ashley & Cody. Amanda Kabatoff, Age From mommy, D: Happy 5th Birthday Cody, Love mom & Dad Happy 4th Birthday Teresa, Love mom & Dad Jolene, Age 10 Love Mom, Dad , Greg & Kari-Ann Happy Birthday Vivian Murphy From Brian, Jenny, Gerry, Wendy & Graeme Daddyo Nreiioe, Ashley, Dear Reader: If “Attachment” writes or phones again, give Nick the message. Let him know that you love and trust him and that you are sure he would never do anything that might destroy his family. Then let it be. Pleading, crying and threatening will only diminish you in his eyes and accomplish nothing. PS. Please write again in three months and let me know how this tums out. Dear Ann Landers: I have bet a dinner with the elderly sister of a Protestant minister that Christ is not Jesus’ last name and that, in fact, his proper title is “Jesus the Christ” because Christ is Greek for “the second coming. My friend says Christ is Jesus’ last name. Will you please settle our bet? - A Christian Unitarian in New York Dear Unitarian: I sent your letter to Joseph Cardinal Bernardin of Chicago and asked him to be my authority regarding your bet. This is his response: The Christian Unitarian is cor- rect. “Christ” is NOT Jesus’ last name. However, your correspondent is not correct in stating that “Christ” is Greek for “the second coming.” The word for that is “parousia.” “Christ” is a title which means “the anointed one,” the Greek equivalent of the Hebrew word for “Messiah.” Can someone win half a bet? Sincerely yours — Joseph Cardi- nal Bernardin, archbishop of Chicago Dear Ann Landers: A woman wrote recently to ask if it was legally possible upon her death to be placed in the arms of her departed husband, so they might le “in loving embrace until eter nity.” Your response, supplied by a mortuary executive, was mis leading. The truth is found in the poem by the English poet Andrew Marvell in “To His Coy Mistress”: The grave’s a fine and private place, But none, I think, do there embrace. — Neil in Shepherd- stown, W.V. Dear Neil: The things I learn from my readers! Gem of the Day: It usually takes a very small oven to pro- duce a half- baked idea. Did You Know That... Wife abuse is not a symptom of a prob- lem marriage, but is inappropriate, unac- ceptable criminal behaviour. Castlegar Women’s Association 365-2104 Wednesday, January 29, 1992 The Castlegar Sun Page 7B There are some pretty weird thin * In September, police in Nor- borne, Mo., uncovered a small arsenal (including a quarter ton of explosives) in the home of Robert Bolivar DePugh, former leader of @ paramilitary group who is also wanted on child pornography ne cuyrent compilation of peel the most peculiarthings people do, edited by Chuck Shepherd. Proof that true stories are weirder than made-up stories. charges in Des Moines. Iowa police had seized a filing cabinet with “200 to 500” photographs of young girls posing nude or par- tially dressed. Police say DePugh Placed ads in newspapers solicit- ing models and inviting their par- ents along, As the relationship progressed, he would contact the girls without their parents. COURTROOM ANTICS + Kathleen Kaufman, 42, sum- moned in Livingston, Mont., in August to the trial of the man accused of beating her, refused to testify against him. Though she had been struck 15 to 20 times in the face until her face was unrec- ognizable, she said on the stand, “TI told the individual if he would quit beating me, I wouldn't testi- fy against him,” Justice of the Peace Deanna Egeland dismissed the charges against the man. (who received his money tax- free) * Ohio appeals court -judge Lawrence Grey pleaded guilty in December to a misdemeanor stemming from his having taken the law into his OWN hands. On an afternoon in September, on leaving his office and discovering someone's car blocking his park- ing space, Grey proceeded to nudge that 1986 Pontiac out of the way with his 1986 Chevrolet, moving it about three feet (which he said shortly afterward that he was legally entitled to do). The other car had been y left by a Canadian oil company, which had been ordered to return he Nataraja,” a 12th-century Hindu statue of which it had come into possession after it had been stolen. As a matter of legal tactics, the plaintiffs had included as a party to the lawsuit a phallic symbol representing the Hindu god Shiva, marking the first time a god had been given standing to sue in England. + Alfred James Prince, on trial for bank robbery in Oklahoma City, had attempted various times to di his ii there by a mechanic. * In October, a village council in Meru, Kenya, found a man guilty of having sex with his + Legally, are con- sidered entities separate from their owners, even when only one person owns basically all of the corporation, as in the case of Peter E. Maxwell, employee and 95 percent owner (with his wife) of Hi Life Products of Chino, Calif. Last summer, the U.S. Tax Court ruled Maxwell could keep the $122,000 settlement he won from his firm for negligence when he was injured at work in a 1977 accident. He had hired a lawyer to represent himself as an employee, then hired another lawyer to represent the firm, then worked with the two lawyers to arrange a settlement satisfactory to both Maxwell the corporate owner (which got a tax deduc- tion) and Maxwell the employee law and two sist law and fined him one bull, one goat and about $30 cash. One of the village judges was for castrat- ing the man, according to the newspaper The Daily Nation, but was overruled because the man’s wife said she still needed the ser- vices of a “complete man.” + In October, Memphis judge Joe B. Brown gave burglar Carlos Haley, 20, a choice: a prison term, or three years’ probation and restitution. Haley took the latter, and Brown authorized Haley's victim, Prentiss Robbins, to visit Haley’s home and take any five items of his choice. + In England, the House of Lords rejected an appeal last year Money rolls in for couple who teach advanced stinginess MAINE - Jim and Amy Dacy- cezyn have struck it rich by show- ing people how to be stingy. And the recession has helped. They run a monthly newsletter dedicated to thrift called The Tightwad Gazette. A year ago the circulation was 1.200. Today it is more than 70,000. They put together the first issue on their dining room table Now every post brings box-loads of subscriptions to their remote farmhouse in Maine from new readers prepared to part with $12 a year to learn the principles of penny-pinching. Mr Dacyczyn - the name is pronounced like ‘‘decision” regularly gathers up bundles of cheques worth thousands of dol lars to take to the bank in a leather briefcase he picked up for $1.50 at a jumble sale He acknowledged the irony of making a fortune out of would-be skinflints, but he said: “We never set out to be rich. We just wanted enough. I guess we had the right idea at the right time.” He is 42 and his wife 36. For the first seven years of their mar- riage they scrimped and saved to get by on his pay as a US Navy recruiter. Now, with the flow of sub- scription money and a six-figure advance for a book, they are well on the way to becoming million- aires, with the certainty of enough money to send their six children to college and provide for their retirement. They have a full-time staff of four plus 12 part-timers to help with the paperwork, the house and their children, including twins born six months ago. But they remain unassuming and for- ever on the lookout for a bargain. Their lives are still a round of We would like t welcome Nadine, who is fully experi- enced, to the staff of profes- P y: bottling fruit, giving home haircuts, re-using envelopes, saving every scrap of aluminium foil and ordering gro- ceries in bulk. outgrown, are handed down to the next in line. Salvation Army shops are scavenged for second- hand toys. To the couple's astonishment, they were accused of child neglect by other parents when they appeared on a television chat show, but subscriptions Nooded in afterwards. Mrs Dacyczyn admits she is a compulsive tightwad. She has a 10-year supply of home-made Worcestershire sauce because commercial brands are too expensive But her newsletter is more than a compendium of household hints. She calls herself the Frugal Zealot and advises readers to strive for the “Zen of Advanced Tightwaddery” In next month's issue, she marks St Valentine’s Day by questioning the tradition of men having to prove their ability to provide by buying their desired mate expensive presents. The couple believe that the recession is, in part, a reaction to the excesses of the 1980s when personal and government debt began piling up. Now, they say, people are weary of paying inter- est and sceptical of politicians who promise to create jobs by boosting consumer spending. The idea of The Tightwad Gazette came to the Dacyczyns when they were wondering how she could stay at home and use her skills as a graphic designer. Mrs Dacyczyn regrets that words describing frugal people have negative connotations - skinflint, cheapskate, Scrooge, cheese-paring, miserly, even tightwad itself. She said: ‘‘We don’t have a positive word in the English language to describe a Sun classifieds sell fast! Call now thrifty person - and I think that's a pity.” An overseas subscription to The Tightwad Gazette costs US S21 or the sterling equivalent, 11.70, by cheque or banker's order to RRI Box 3570, Leeds Maine, 04263-9710, USA Did You Know That... There are many personal reasons why men abuse their partners, which is complimented by a soci- etal tolerance of violence and acceptance of a domi- nant role for men in this society. Castlegar Women’s Association 365-2104 Silver Rattle Antiques 301-11 Ave. Castlegar (in Tulips Building) 365-5191 to stand trial, but Judge Wade Brorby had resisted, including the incident when Prince stood up, dropped his pants, and urinated on his lawyer, Jerome Kearney. A federal appeals court ruled in July that “incontinence does not equal incompetence,” and affirmed Prince's conviction. Judge Brorby had lamented lawyers who “believe a law degree is that tick- ¢t to a glamorous career.” LEAST COMPETENT PERSON * Richard Stowell, 27, was arrested in Syracuse in November after robbing a bank and attempt- ing to escape on a municipal bus. Stowell was on parole at the time for a 1988 bank robbery, in which he unsuccessfully attempted to escape on a municipal bus. THE DIMINISHING VALUE OF LIFE + Jerry Lee Robertson, 26, and his wife, Cassie, 20, were charged in Salt Lake City in December with beating their roommate to death with a claw hammer over a dispute during a Monopoly game. Selling something? Phone 365-5266 CREME DE LA WEIRD * The two founders of the Par tridge Family Church were eject ed for obnoxiousness from a New Haven, Conn., nightclub in September where Partridge alum- ni David Cassidy and Danny Bonaduce were performing. “The Reverend Placenta Rising Par- tridge” and his pal said the church worships the Family and believes each member of the TV family has a religious counter- part. Said the Rev: “Shirley is the Goddess and Earth Mother. Danny is Loki, the God of Mis- Kootenay Birthdays + Parties gs going on chief . Keith ‘s sperm is milk. “ (Send your Weird News to Chuck Shepherd, P.O. Box 57144, Washington, D.C. 20037.) 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