CASTLEGAR NEWS, August 26, 1981 Teaching the retarded IT’s hard on the emotions WINNIPEG (CP) - Volun- teers say working with re- tarded children can be an emotional steeplechase, re- warding and heart-rending at the same time. “They said I'd probably cry a lot at first and perhaps even have nightmares,” vol- unteer Elizabeth Mooyman said in an interview. “They were right, I cried my eyes out.” Although she has a family of her own, Mooyman found she had time on her hands when she moved to Winnipeg from Toronto. She had few acquaintances so she contacted the Volun- teer Bureau and was referred to the St. Amant Centre for retarded children. “[ did some research on retarded children at the library before I cam but there’s very little material. Ididn't know what to expect.” Mooyman is holding A YOUNG NAMED Anthony as she talks. She rocks him and strokes his fine sandy hair, talking to him in reassuring tones. The chil- dren she works with are LEGS PADDLE The hind legs of some water beetles are long, flat and equipped with long, closely-set hairs to act as paddles for swimming. severely retarded and most are quite young. HAD DREAMS “Jt was so terribly sad, so emotional. You have to go through the crying period and I did have dreams about my own children and how fortunate my husband and I and our children are.” Volunteers at the centre range in age from 13 to 75 and some have been there for seven or eight years. All receive on-the-job training and generally work with o staff member in group activities. There are 285 children classed as mentally deficient living at the centre, 223 severely retarded children and 26 attending a day-care program. Of the severely retarded, 165 children also have physical handicaps. There is a staff of about 500. To supplement the paid staff, nurse Corinne Mont- sion must round up 360 volunteers for the winter program at the centre and about 820 for the summer. She does much of her recruit- ing in nearby schools. “I go right into the class- rooms and tell the kids about friendship,” Montsion said. KIDS GET TIME OFF “Many of the schools give their students a half-day off a week for volunteer work, soI get some that way - kids who Parents return to discipline TORONTO (CP) - A back- lash against teenage lawless- ness is spreading to Canada from the U.S. as parents learn again to lay down the law with their children. A new parenting technique called Tough Love comes at a time when more adolescents that ever are running away from home, it ii Tough Love doesn't reject “soft” love for well-behaved adolescents. But it does tend to straighten out many way- ward teens. : MOST MIDDLE-CLASS He said most of the youths who leave school early are unruly kids from middle-class families. Many have parents with drugs or getting in trouble with the police. It has struck a responsive nerve in who were gt with love and material goods and asked for little in return. “The real eye-opener for a- rents throughout North America. When an Ann Landers column last April described the self-help program, in which parents form support groups along with lines of Alcoholics Anonymous, she was swamped with queries. Tom and Jeri Elliott of Toronto are offering a course this fall at which parents will learn how to apply it. Based on the premise that behavior must change before the personality can, Tough Love urges parents to stop trying to understand and forgive their teens’ atrocious behavior and to stop protect- ing them from its consequen- ces. Tough Love means parents don't allow their runaway children to return home until they agree to behave diff- erently. It means they don't pay their youngsters’ fines for drug or drinking offences or damage to property. Elliott was a devotee to Tough Love long before the name was coined. A former high school counsellor who worked in the Toronto board of education's early schoo) leaving program, his job was to ensure that children who leave school before they're 16 find a job. Results from the Joy Keillor bridge club Eight tables took part in play Monday at the Joy Keillor Bridge Club, with the following results: The average score was 84. North-South Jean Fischer and Agnes Charlton were the leaders, finishing with a score of 104’; Etuka Cameron and Pearl Palmer came second, with 93'/2; and Greg me da few yeas ago,” Elliot said. “One of the kids I was working with came in and said to his mother, ‘I want money. Why? Because my buddies and I are going to ‘Buffalo.’ The mother refused and the kid threw a tantrum and banged the door. I later found out that the mother gave him the money after I left.” Tough Love is the inven- tion of family counsellors Phyllis and David York of Point Pleasant, Pa. The Yorks, who have worked in drug rehabilitation and mental health programs for adolescents in a number of U.S. cities, came up with the concept when one of their three daughters got into trouble with drugs, alcohol and the law. The Yorks maintain dis- cipline should be a part of parental love and that parents needn't feel guilty about setting and enforcing rules for their children. LOVE IMPORTANT Tough Love doesn’t reject “soft” love for well-behaved adolescents. But it does tend to straghten out many way- ward teens, practitioners say. ‘Acknowledging that it is tough for parents who've raised their children in a permissive, protective at- mosphere to take charge of them, Tough Love organizers have turned to a network of parents and community ser- vices that work together. When a troubled adol- escent is asked to leave home or is arrested by police, the other parents in the group are there to help. They may. offer a place to stay or visit the youngster in jail. Psychiatrists and social workers agree it's important to make an adolescent res- ponsible for his or her behavior, but some worry that parents will use this as a way of avoiding their and Irene Hess finished in, third place with a score of 90. East-West First place went to Grace Donaldson and Helen Fer- guson, with 99%; Ron and Rita Perrier came in second, with 97, and finishing third were Clara Johnson and Con- nie Miller, with 87's. children's prob- lems. “I think discipline is OK as psychiatry at Sunnybrook Medical Centre. “I wouldn't want Tough Love to be used as an excuse to beat the... out of someone.” think thoy're getting a break from school. “But it doesn’t take long before they're hooked. The really young volunteers seem to have an instinctive rapport with the children. They become committed.” Mooyman said there is no certainty that the work of the volunteer is helping the children, “You just have the feeling DEPARTMENT STORES ADIVIEION OF F.w WOOLWORTHED LTO that touching and holding them does contribute some- thing to their lives,” sho said. “You sense Disabled reaping the benefits QUESNEL, B.C. (CP) - A group of disabled people in Quesnel are reaping the benefits of a project launched by a local teacher of the handicapped. Four mentally and physi- handi d g. 1 know that they've contribut- ed something to mine.” For Montsion there arc no doubts. “I feel everyone should have a chance to help some- one else. It's a beautiful, loving thing, you know, and everyone benefits.” cally persons are growing commercial veg- etables in the centre of town. Stove Hilbert, director of the garden project run by the Collge of New Caledonia's Quesnel staff, says he dreamed up the project by combining an idea for self- sufficiency in food production jon, uf Nyon and work for the disabled. “I took the idea from a night school course in local food production offered at Camosun College and as I was involved with disabled people in my work I thought T'd put the two together.” Under the eye of college supervisers the first crops were planted in the 15-by-30 metre garden June 1 and should be ready for market by Labor Day. When they're all above ground ready for harvest, crops for sale will include easted P85, yiscotes Fr n 9 Vining: : 00am We 515 ey © \co ry KYOKO: Siice, abet A Noatco Pate WANETA PLAZA SHOPPING CENTRE HWY. STRAIL Woolco Store Hours: 9:30 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. Thursday and Friday: 9:30 a.m. to 9:00 p.m. CHAHKO-MiI radishes, beans, peas, cauli- flower, broccoli, ionions, pumpkin and squash. The gardeners, two men and two women in their twenties, are graduates of Hilbert's t th lifeskills community. Gardeners meet Wednes- day mornings for a few hours’ weekly planting and hocing. The project, says Hilbert, makes them feel like they're ing in the real world, course for the disabled, run by adult education in Ques- nel. Hilbert said he solicited local help for supplies and eaulpment to prepare the nd. All of that and more was supplied by what Hilbert describes as a supportive KA RAALI L 1000 LAKESIDE DR., NELSON Woolco Store Hours: 9:30 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. Thursday and Friday: 9:30 a.m. to 9:00 p.m. not isolated from the rest of society.” The $3,000 in provincial funds the project was granted will be used partly for research purposes "so we can find a way to make it bigger and better next year,” Hilbert said. On Daa Aang "enor od Ph, 965-6631, 3/66 SMALL BLOCK, Chev 172, heads, $75. lien geo 2 stesl- }. tires, - belted 18 In. rodiale, 5742. USED ‘OIL FURNACE, 200 cll, ition, $300. 365- 104. Pretec. evening calls. 3/67 STEEL BUILDING 40’ x 40’ x 14’ high $3,000 Call 399-4182 for Sunday CasNews OMARK © WINDSOR BUCK HAVEN YOUR CHAINSAW SAVINGS: and CENTER Waneta Road at Beaver Creek 367-7822 We Repale ond Shor all Chainsaw Bri be Place Your Action Ad by NOON FRIDAY USED and new pianos and organs. No delivery charge. Piano tuning and repair. Phone Kootenay ‘or Carol Romney 365- 1in/50: WHY NOT GET THE BEST 365-2212 HARDTOP tent traller, childs car teat, oll furnace. Ph. 399-41 Custom Framing Free Estimates FRAME GALLERY ——— LOG HOMES AND CABINS. reak Constr: 'brochure or further contact 777, 100 Mi '2£0, Phone leven! Color TV and Stereo MIKES TV SERVICE 355 Columbia Ave. Castlegar 365-5112 saan ene arnt 2, GOODYEAR all-winter redials ction Ltd. For oniFordkeimas information, fers. Two 14 in. louse, rims. 300 gallon oll tank. Ph, 359- . "3/66 George aes 8), ES ings). inrew 7S? PHONE 367-6279 USED elec. stove, white, clean, good working cond. Great for Sane, oe Bibs Phe 955-2755, 18 room, $150. Ph. . fdas OR He O/T TELETYPE Model 15, $100. Various ml r parts. Ph. 365- 2956 citer 6 p.m. 3/67 COLLEGE BOOKS! HOUR SALE. Cl CASTLEGAR NEWS, August 26, 1981 | DON'T ONDERSTRND | YOURE NOTSOBRD TT, ANNE. HOW CAN . | OFF- DIDN'T HE GET ats, HOP: HAPPY > Aug. 28, 1 10% = off 168 pres $5. qt. a Baiivered free sain city Call 365-3442 morni Ion. Within city mits: . 1/8 ELECTRIC MOTOR, ‘3 phase OC Welder, 1/440 with cable, 12° some finish, Offers. Ph. 365-6306: 4B.F. G-60 Keystone Rald 3 tepalr and 3/68 ial T/A’s, ‘GOODRICH , 14 inch, mounted of ui 68 | You AsTRASH PRACTOR FOR Run your classified word ad twice at regular; price and.get the third insertion NO EXTRA CHARGE 7 insertions for Price of 4 ay, THI RENT SPACE 365-5210 iS lt, aa ‘ond very gantle. Ph. 365-: |. 27,GO00D milking goat rebred Saanan, 1 Soanon ‘999-4900. “TRASt 4 COMPACIOR| —| MARRIEDA MAN PLAID FABRIC sail upaer WHY WOULDIWANT AY WOH SIZE 12 FEET! Pres eB Somer av68 TIRRSH COMPACTOR '» i( ANTIQUE nickle, stove, for wood stove of similar value. 365-5854. 2/67 TOCATION: Shoreacres (lollo signs) Ph. -7657 | for_ ink mation. Time: Aug. 28 = 29 star- fing at 9 a.m. 168 Sa Z BDRM. heated and furnis! 7 Fare cri with FREE signs to help gu room, room, . bathrooms. One_ bloc! ‘achool, Avall. in:Sept. Ph. 365- 3529. : 3/68. 2 VACANCIES, Immediate _oc- cupancy (Castloaind Plaza). Con- tact Jack Young, 365-3347 or 365- 8117. 7/68: FURNISHED 1 BDRM. cottage. Married couple jerred. No children or pets. Ph 965-2950, | RIVERGREEN LODGE Hin/59, Shamrock Motel ADULT MOVIES 24hrs. $30./Day E. 1629: e Ave. Spokane WaLUSA: 1974 12 X 68 Ted's Home ai on } 04 gcree, 8x22 patie, fe lawn, met i 16 x 28, iances 359- ROOM and BOARD for students. Call 365-8113. 7/63 fumished . sd itchen units : } daly; week, mocihly Gualty-bull, this S-yr.-old, 3- $ RATES “has. over ft. of 365-7516 or 365-7750 hr eerrer a eT Tn eS i tina Cassette Recorder 3 BDRM. opt. furnished or unfur- nished. NO ‘pets. Ph. 365-6673. Sen Sony Betamax TV. Video TOMATOES — Pick your own, lb, Green Beans rice youl Model No. SL 5600 watermelons, ‘china cabi with double basins, large covered sui ted Hest 12x rec room, intry, x Feunn shed ard m more. TO VIEW + (BRAND NEW) crafts 365-5052 tg. lamps, % ils or ais: EF eeen | For Sale Phone 359-7014 tique 25. - lich "$78 Jelena toed — you haul: Chesterfield and chair, Be Bunk beds with mattresses, Ph, 365-6222, ipe, screen, tools .and 2 a a is a Pipe, fining, Sas. 2 tires G78x14 on ri ROAD-BUILDING-exsaval ‘su; les, asphait su; 5 Plansottat ph: s6sceses. tine? Earl's Private Pools fireplace wim + 2a $60. pr. ry split ‘wood heater, Ss. 3/66 TOPSOIL, % * crush gravel, gravel supplies delivered by truckload. Trans-X Ltd., 365-6563. tin/28 FOR SALE: Birch firewood. Ph. 945-3026. 7/63 CLASSIFIED rs. (This $1 charge does NOT 9; ply to Vico ind Mastercard charges.) Rates based on column inch space. Exact rates on request. Classified Deadiines WEDNESDAY CASNEWS 12Noon Tuesday SUNDAY CASNEWS 12Noon Friday “Order by Mail Print your Action Ad on af: separate piece of paper and mail to: a Action Ads Box 3007 CASTLEGAR, B.C. VINSHS The Castlegar News reserves the right to classify ads under appropriate headings and to determine page location. Homan Rights Act All. cdvortisements such os Help Wanted must comply with the British Columbia Human Rights Act. This Act states no advertisement may state or imply a preference, limitation, or specification, on the basis of on applicant's race, religion, colour, marital status, ancestry, place of origin, age, or sex (unless the mattet relates.to the main- tenance of public decency ‘AND prior approval hos been obtained through the Human Rights Branch). ——————— 1954 GMC TRUCK, ‘4-ton, runs’ good. “Ph, 365-5682 (Mike feregin). 7/65 USED OIL work t cdition $100. as is. eoszexs afters p.m. tn/57 E: Friendly, natural at- FE: mospher = the LOWEST prices in the _E Kootenays. E: MOTHER NATURE'S E PANTRY. SIDES of Fork, cut ond wrapped. Sides of A-1 beef fronts and hin- ds. Free delivery every T . COMING ounce TO PETRO CANADA SAMS AUTOMOTIVE “Minute Mufflers” (affiliate) COMPLETE LINE OF: Pools, Spas, Chemicals 365-6774 Whiteware, non-firing Ploques, gt and reen ate Bc ALK junior giri’s pickling and awi ' bunk beds & All furniture clean and good cond! tn ition. Ph. 399-4162. 3/68 ‘ron aeceainant fo & SERVICE ‘SALES end! : CRE, 1324 Coder Ave., Teall, B.C. 975 Columbia Ave. ee Castiega: GIBSON FRIDGE and stove, ex: "i Callent cord. $600. Ph. 365-6250, Sam Keakin aus cage See a ERAN 8 365-3666 MOVING. Must sell furniture ‘and applicances. Ph. 365-2549. _- 3/66 MODEL 1902 Winchester 22 cal.; 1 1903 Savage 22 cal; Model 812 Remington 20 7 358 Norma magnum. Ph.” 365-7593. NACE In 3/66 SIAMESE kittens for sale. Ph. 365- 7557. sé 3/66 UNION PETERS ie DONOVAN LOG HOMES, LOG) —— HOMES AND CABINS, Complete” RABBIT of Guinea Pig wich, $10.; 1/66 Design” Service, write, for b 2 Guinea Pigs,'$3. each. Ph. 365- Box 777,100 Mile House, 3145. B.C. 2867, otter Kitchen Cabinets BY CRESTWOOD AND INTERNATIONAL | re, with some of |ATERBED SPECIAL. Queensize ease os JATERBEDS “51 a id jrame, heater, mattress, nd liner. Fully guaranteed. Ph. $7768. OY eon st ‘Stereo Systems Rentals > __ UNION PETERS te belay if “ey n/A32 1336 Coder Ave, Treit, B.C. Oil Change ube plus general check over $4999 For Most Cars and Light Trucks BY APPOINTMENT ONLY Phone 365-8461. Speedway (@ ircrenns [MERCURY J CASTLEGAR, B.C. (UINCOLN J 789 Columbia Ave. Castlegar Dir. No. 57578 Hedi VSE : 3 jEEP ond . Ph. 226-7681. ba cas 9/68. Ph. TS ttems | for. 8 for. ‘column are not, ever, ‘selling MUST GROUND “LEVEL commercial, core. Avall. ‘Sept. 1. Ph. 365-2111, Ston of Ray. 3/68 BDRM. house. in South r. References required. 7 168 3- WN BR.- HOUSES for Families with Children rport Rent based on income For information call 365-2667 from 10 a.m. to3p.m., nday through Fridey. or Write #1 - 1449 Arrow Lakes Dr., Castlega: ir, B.C. VIN 189 PARK LANE SALE OF FIXTURES CONTINUES x $ iT 5': A-t d le-sided ” MOTEL eee Caer renew ate liper sq. yd: Apply: Receiver, 1280 Cedar ~ Avenue, Trail, between 10 a.m, dnd'12 noon or 2 to 4 p.m. 2 wea Family rooms with kit- chens ¢ G family movies © Color. T.V. © DD phones. E. 4412 Sprague Ave. Spokane, Wa., U.S.A. : ax Yoo: (3 mi. East of Nelson Bridge towards Balfour < 3A te at of Nelean Bide esa aete (eoytios) " BRITISH COLUMBIA HYDRO AND POWER AUTHORITY INVITES TENDERS FOR Rental Equipment Registration Reference Q1-3572 ; B.C. Hydro and Power Authority is adding to a register of construction equipment that is available ona rental basis at rates not ex ing those in Equipment Rental Rate Schedule (Blue Book) published jointly by the B.C. Provincial Government and B.C. Hydro. This register is used by the Authority to secure equipment on an as and when required basis. i Rentals will normally be on an all found hourly rate basis. “Type of equipment required from time to time at various areas throughout the Province are: LOADERS é ROCK DRILLING EQUIPMENT CRANES EXCAVATORS Equipment owners are invited to register.their equipment and may view the Equipment Rental Rate Schedules: at any B.C Hydro District Office. Registration Forms may be obtained by writing directly to B.C. Hydro, Trat- fic & Customs Department, 970 Burrard Street, Vancouver, B.C. V6Z 1Y3, quoting reference Q1 -3572. Registration must be made on the forms provided. 25 Sept. 1981 will be led and included in our P ai c | for use 1 Nov. 1961. The Reg! will be updated i]