October 6 1993 »\ | iy: The Castlegar Sun yy ~ Live PUBLISHER MARILYN STRONG SHARLENE IMHOFF CATHERINE ROSS EDITOR ADVERTISING REP. JOHN VAN PUTTEN NICOLE BEETSTRA SPORTS 0% REP KAREN KERKHOFF REPORTER CHRISTINE MOYER PRODUCTION MANAGER TRISHA LAKTIN PRODUCTION ASSISTANT MARGE LALONDE CIRCULATION MANAGER SHAUNA KATTLER OFFICE MANAGER/CLASSIFIEDS Direct Department Phones General Office ake -+.965-5266 Circulation ~- 365-5266 Classified Ads ..365-7848 Display Advertising 365-2278 Newsroom .+-.365-5579 -365-7762 465 Columbia Ave., Castlegar, B.C. V1N 1G8 1S POLITICALLY INDEPENDENT AND A MEMBER OF THE STERLING NEWS SERVICE Established November 28, 1990 Published by Sterling Newspapers Lid Weekly on Wednesdays Member of Canadian Community Newspapers Association B.C. Community Newspapers Association and B.C. Press Council Publications Mail Registration pending editorial comment October U1-17 is ... A time to mourn very year in Canada. thousands of young boys and girls are sexually abused. In fact, one in three girls and one in six boys are abused before they reach the age of 18, and the aver- age age of a sexually abused child, boy or girl, is eight years of age. These are the facts—the recorded facts that is, since unknown are those victims who, suffered sexual abuse, either once or regular- ly throughout their childhood, in silence. Since child molesters generally have five times as many ‘victims as their convictions indicate, and that in some extreme cases one molester will have almost one hundred vic- tims, the full scope of this tragic problem is just now being recognized. Studies indicate that pedophiles often seek jobs, hobbies and volunteer activities that involve youngsters and excel at interacting with children. Sex offenders will lie, deny and rationalize their offenses and almost never seek treatment on their own. The long-term consequences of childhood victimization include higher rates of unem- ployment, educational limitations and low paying jobs, mental-health problems and higher rates of suicide attempts. Maybe the worst part of this, is that all too often; victims can, in time, become abusers themselves. It's a sickening and degenerative pattern and it's about time society works towards prevention. Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Week, set for October 11-17, might not mean much to some people, but for victims and parents of victims, it's a time to mourn. People will be mourning in Castlegar too. Unfortunately, sexual abuse is more than just a casual and unusual occurrence in our com- munity. Anyone who has stepped inside the confines of the Provincial Court House in Castlegar within the last year will certainly remember more than a few disturbing cases. One week set aside asa time to acknowl- edge the mental, emotional and physical pain associated with these incidents won't stop them. But by remembering and recognizing, and of course by comforting ... maybe someone's pain can be lessened. And maybe, just maybe, a small chain can be broken in this painful cycle of abuse. ERRORS: The advertiser agrees that the publisher shall not be liable for damages arising out of errors in any advertisement beyond th amount paid for the space actually occupied: by that portion of the advertisement in which the error occurred, whether such error is due to the negligence of ts servants or otherwise... and there shall be no @| liability for non-insertion of any advertisement beyond the amount paid for such advertisement. All advertising subject to publisher's approval Contracts must be within one year from contract date No contingent orders accepted . John Make the best of what you're born with. You only have one chance, make the best of it. It's just because people have been lazy and their bad habits have caught up with them that they need cosmetic surgery. The most common problem is they have not looked after the one and only body God gave them. Then they turn to’ surgery to correct their aging problems which have been caused by their own bad habits. Karén, are you one of the majority of the aging population who is in the market for a little fix-up job? It’s kind of like send ing your car in for bodywork due to deterioration, isn’t it? But in this case the deteriorationt has been caused by the owner not maintaining a regular mainte- nance schedule The fashion industry, televi- sion and advertising holds too much influence on the general public. People think that if they don't look like the “beautiful” people they see on television that there is something wrong with them. Each and every person has an entirely different view of what a truly beautiful person looks like. The age-old saying still hold true; “Beauty is in the eye of beholder.’ Many have found themselves looking in the mirror in the morning and not liking what they see. I am willing to bet they have not been vigilant in looking after themselves. Do you like every- thing you see in the mirror, Karen? Others look at themselves as they age and are happy with what they see, even as their skin starts to wrinkle. What's really so bad about a face that shows a great deal of character through lines and wnnkles? Aging is a slow going process for most people, but once started it’s hard to turn back the clock (What I can't figure out is why people want to turn back the clock anyway). While it may be way too late for you Karen, those who are younger still have ample opportu- nity take care of themselves. Cosmetic surger to What's necessary, is for every- one to think about everything they do in their daily lives. because our daily actions only build up over the years and then Start to take their toll. Poor eating habits and a poor lifestyle only ‘accelerate the NATURAL aging process. You are what you eat, Karen. One thing is obvious—you are start- ing to look like a well tender- ized steak. If you were to start a list of things with which you are not happy with about your current condition we would have to lengthen the space for this column. So, when do you plan on “going under the knife”, Karen? What's first on your list of things to be lifted, tuckéd, peeled and sanded? Will it be the chin cheeks, eyelids. or A word of adyi¢e Karen, frort: someone who is looking after what he was born with—if you were to stan cosmetically altering yourself your toughest decision would be where to start. Once you start I think you would have a hard time stopping Each time I look over at you seated at the desk beside me your appearance gives me enough incentive to.make sure I look after myself hheek You speak with all the wis- dom (and none of the experi- ence) of the young. How can anyone expect a mere baby to contemplate a time when they look in the mirror and a middle- age person stares back at them? You will find that as you get older a.person begins to view things from many different angles—not just from one rigid and extremely limited point of view. When that day happens I would like to hear your opinion While I have never, (yet) had the urge to cosmetically alter that which is uniquely me, I don’t rule out the validity of someone else .wanting to improve on something they already have I can hear you furiously clattering away on your com puter—how. dare someone want to change what. they have! In truth John. I really don’t get angry with your opinions, I just Shake my head and consider that you are still being shaped, and that ten or twenty years from now you just might end up to be a half decent person. But I’m not holding my breath But, back to the topic. Why is anyone concerned what a person chooses to do with their body with money that they Karen have earned? | don't get it. If someone wants to redefine their shape or features, the decision is theirs—they're the one who has to live with their decision Ask anyone if there is some- thing they would like to change about their body and the majority will find some- thing they don't like and would like to alter if they had achance Your argument about taking care of what you have doesn’t hold completely true. Nature has its way of dealing with all of us, and in the end nature will win While I admit that there is something beautiful (in my eyes) about a face which has seen many seasons, not every- one is comfortable with the aging process. Especially if despite all the exercise and eating right they age prema- turely due to their genetics. That is another point I want to make. The speed at which a person visually ages has a lot to do with genetics—and why should the 32 year-old woman who has huge bags under her eyes not have them removed? What about the person who prematurely grays at an early age? Is dying their hair consid- ered a cosmetic intervention? Although ! agree that there has been way too much focus on “body beautiful” there is another side of the coin What about the person who feels so uncomfortable with the way they look they with draw from social situations? A plain face is a plain face, and for some, it is not only a plain face but a curse. But imagine for a minute that their plain face, with a few minor alterations, can become a What's wrong pleasing face? with doing those alterations? Maybe John you need to lis ten to the song “Live and Let Live." By the way, it’s not what I see in the mirror which scares me—it’s what I see when I look over at your desk—a smug face which I hope will never rule the world. if you have any or q about this week's Cheek to Cheek, feel free to send us your comments in a letter to the editor c/o The Castlegar Sun. if you have a subject that you would like to see debated in the Cheek to Cheek column, Karen and John would love to hear your suggestions. Call the newsroom at 365-5579 or fax us your 's and req ts at 365-7762 Progress in Castlegar is great, but......... I would like to point out that Castlegar has oyer 20 restau- rants—a few of them recent additions. I would also like to point out that the population of Castlegar and surrounding area may seem excessive tr about 12,000 The number of restaurants butuin tual fact it is not) Apart m providing employment all of these restaurants some times do not seem necessary Castlegar could likely get by with half the r number of staurants we currently have In addition to the great num- ber of restaurants, we seem to have many convenience stores, gas stations, hair salons, and video stores. All of these are great, but are they really neces- sary? Could some of the space be put to better use? I think it could. Many people I have talked to would like to see some quality clothing stores with affordable prices. One person with whom I talked mentioned the desirabili- ty of an affordable fitness cen tre, since many people are currently in to fitness. From a teenager's point of view, a mall would be an attrac- tive addition to the town—not just as a place to shop, but as a place in which to socialize since’ there really is nowhere else. Our town could also bene fit from family recreation cen tres such as water slides, or a small, but good amusement park. These would attract tourists All of this would cost money, but is definitely a goal to work toward to making Castlegar an even more desir- able place in which to live Jaclyn Kalesnikoff is a grade 12 student at Stanley Humphries Secondary School: She enjoys such sports as volleyball and also enjoys reading ME OR HAC I IT JUCT one's AIRLINE WAR OF Winp 2 Wednesday, October 6, 1993 . The Castlegar Sun Letters to the Editor Page 7A War in Bosnia-Hercegovina takes its human toll Dear Editor: I was picking apples from a big old tree by the family house the other day—now occupied by renters, since father passed away some time ago, and mother moved to Chase. As I picked the deep red McIn- tosh apples, I was enchanted by the sound of some visiting chil dren, laughing as they played nearby. I stopped picking for a moment to take in those joyful sounds on that golden September afternoon. “There is no music on earth like the laughter of children”, I thought to myself., With all due respect to Mozart and Bach and Chopin— their music does not compare with the spontaneous joy of children laughing as they play. But my joy soon came to a sud den and-chilly end as my thoughts returned to the children of Bosnia, and the film I had seen the night before. “Will those children ever laugh again?” I wondered. Seventy-five thousand of them are orphans now—in a state of Stunned disbelief, not knowing what hit them or why. What about the similar number now lying dead in mass graves in that once beautiful and historic land? What about the 100,000 or more innocent women who have been raped or tortured or mur- dered in two years of atrocities ri ng Hitler’s genocide against the Jews? Not good enough you leaders of the world! Will you ever get the message? You must reorga nize the United Nations and change its mandate. It's our only hope for world peace. Otherwise we are going to see more and’ more of the same horrible tragedies happening over and over again Meanwhile, as winter is only a few short weeks away, and since none of these children (regardless of origin) asked for this cruel civil war, I would like to urge people to send a cheque (with their name and address) to the following rep- utable organization established through the superhuman efforts of Mr. and Mrs. Basic of Ontario. Bosnian Children Relief 77 Pelham Road St. Catharines, Ontario L2S 1S3 Phone: (416) 685-6579 (Reg. Charitable No. 0944074-09) Quoting from their brochure “Since the war in Bosnia Hercegovina started in April of 1992, 10,000 children have been murdered, 30,000 children injured and 75,000 are at risk of dying from hunger and cold We would like to share with you the poem that eight year old Alda wrote by candlelight from the cellar while the shelling went ee and smoke? Those of you who are big I beg you so To allow me to grow up And to wake in morning spring Full of sunshine So I can see what tomorrow will be." from the Bosnian language Neither my mother nor my father Knew the horrors of war And I am small and I wonder Is it possible for someone to become so mad As to destroy my school and my house And turn everything to ashes ae ve H SINGER SALE-A-THON ¥ Continues until October 30 HLF. Killough on above her head. It is translated = Dear Editor: Dear People of Castlegar, Thanks to Castlegar residents We, the Miller Family of Salmo, would like to make this tribute to the people of Castlegar. We were overwhelmed by the turnout at Shel- by's benefit movie on Sunday, September 26, It was great to see such support from friends we know-—and friends we don't know. Thank you to those who donated without seeing the movie, Wendy Pilla, you have a way of spreading your wonderful magic to everyone—thank you! Thank you to the Pilla family and Grant, and to all the Bennetts of the Castle Theatre for opening your theatre for this occasion. We are deeply touched by the generosity of all, and how a community can rally together for the needs of others. Our thanks to the Castlegar Aquanaut’s FAMI- LY for being such good friends, hanging together and praying for Shelby’s recovery and for the “ginormous” welcome at the airport! Love, Steve, Hazel, Garnet, Shelby, Lindy and Darci Miller Get informed Dear Editor: I keep hearing angry voters “out there” who. seem to be falling into the “I'm voting Reform this time instead of the other old line parties” without, I believe, knowing some of their critical policies Do you Reform supporters realize that the Reform party wholeheartedly supports the Free Trade and N.A.F.T.A. agreements, which obvious- support the multi-nationals; and SE to run any candidates in Que- bec, which reeks of discrimination to me Voter wants honesty ly means the that they RE Dear Editor, In a recent newspaper article, the Liberal candidate is quoted as Stating, “government must be made more responsible. The representation of people in Ottawa is the reason that I'm in politics. 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