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Holds up to eS ae 1 309 Sale 1 8°? Kodacolour C126 - 20 exposure cartridge |. film. For instamatic cameras. Reg. 2.19 1 69 Sale angry at one of the kids, I immediately jump in’ and defend the kid, or try to'solve the problem myself. Then my , husband gets mad at me.” "I noticed recently how I forget what I want to say, and 'I automatically become the peacemaker in our busi- ness meetings when other people start arguing.” The main reason people, especially women, try to avoid engaging in open con- flict Is that past-conflicts so often were resolved in in- equitable ways. TYPICAL WAYS OF Second in a five-part series (From “Bifoctiveness Training” for Women” by Linda Adams with Elinor Lenz. 1979 by Ett d with of the Ine. Wyden I Booke.] The way your tishored drives scares you. Your mother always puts you down with her criticism. One of your co-workers is a week late with a report you need. Your boss had been making a habit of giving you’ work so late in the day that you miss your bus home. What do you do at such times? Keep your negative feelings to yourself and feel resentful? Tell them few thoughtless and in-, considerate they're acting? Neither choice is very effective. However, there is an alter- RESOLVING CONFLICTS native approach. You can take the initiative to In ETW these win-lose confront the other person about t hods of ig _con- behavior in such a sensitive way that you don’t’ flicts are called Method I and ‘damage your relationship. Method IL. Both are power- Conflict is an inevitable consequence of living and working -with people, They: want one thing, you want another. There is a clash of wills. Who is to win? If you win at the ‘other's expense, she orhe will feel resentful and angry. If you lose and the other ‘person wins, you're going to feel ‘resentful or angry. In either case, the relationship may suffer, Many conflicts exist in relationships, and in Effec- tiveness Training for Women we categorize them in two groups: those that erupt when ‘needs are interfered with — conflict of needs — and those that start because of a difference in values between people — values collisions. For example: You have one television OFF Eaton's has a handle on vinyl handbag Press right now.during the. . vinyl handbag sale ; 11.99 to 22.66 Vinyl handbags in eight popular styles. Pockets and compartments galore to -|..§ organize’ everything you carry. Designs from well-known: Canadian manufac- turers. In black, brown and tan. set. Your son and you contin- ually differ about which show ‘ to watch You and your spouse have a small amount of savings. He wants to buy a new car. You want to invest it in real estate. You want to have a baby in the near future. Your hus- band wants to wait a few years. Your co-worker smokes constantly in the office you share. The smoke makes you cough ‘and sneeze. “Your boyfriend wants to get married. You want to entinue living: together un-.»- + ee eee oust yout Tay married, z Take a few minutes to identify ‘and list some real conflict-of-needs situations in Why are conflicts so frightening to so many peo- ple? Situations in our lives involving conflict with others probably cause more fear and stress than any other kind. We don't know the out- come. We don't want to lose. We're afraid we won't be able to control ourselves. We fear the relationship will suffer. For women, the issue of conflict is especially critical. Most, of us have learned that conflict, like anger and anxi- ety, is to be denied, avoided, - unexpressed. We have all heard people say things such as: “We never fight.” ‘Til do anything to keep peace in the family. “In all the years we've been married | we've never had a serious d based methods. Both have a win-lose orientation — there is always a winner, and a loser. Neither method allows hidden conflict to surface in positive, constructive ways. | Although people. normally havea toward one Asa result, you get resent- ment from the other, person, Since others are left with unmet needs — and a feellng that problems ~ and conflicts are solved unfairly — you often get such reac: tions as: They start fearing you, They criticize you, talk about you behind your back, They try to sabotage your efforts to meet your other needs. They often covertly meet their needs, disregard your orders. They start disliking you,, avoiding you when possible. They stop communicat- ‘on-- ing their important needs to you, METHOD I — YOU LOSE OTHER WINS In this conflict situation, you have most of the power + (or it’s equal) and you allow the other to meet her or his needs at your expense. You give in. The other person's solution prevails. Now you: have feelings of resentment toward the other person. Method II is most com- monly used by people who want to avoid conflict, They want peace at any pric. The problem is, they pay a very “high price for this peace. Unlike Method I, the con- sequences of Method II are YOUR negative feelings. You feel a sense of frus- tration and anxiety because of unmet needs, You’ avoid future con- flicts. ferent, You start feeling indif- * . Conflict isan inevitable consequence of living for the employee and ‘agree to meet again in lx. months to reconsider the nromotion. 2, You and your son sit down and share feelings and needs and listen to each other, The two of you make an agreement that he can go if'a parent or older brother or sister goes along. "Method MI requires a commitment from both peo- ple not to use power to mect their own needs at the other's ro tart uateeany in either a two-way or 2 group conflict. remember that your most effective tools for problem-solving are: e Clear and honest dis- closure of your feelings’ and needs; e Active listening to feelings and needs of, the other: e Trust and respoct for the needs of the other; @ Openness to changing ee and feelings; _ into Method most of us have learned to resolve conflicts in win-lose ways, this adjustment is not easy to make. It can be especially difficult for people who possess a large degree of power in most of their relationships, No-lose conflict resolu- tion works if you go through these six steps: ‘: 1, Define the problem. 2. Generate possible sol- utions. 8, Evaluate solutions, 4, Decide on a ping without fixed solutions; e Refusal to revert to Methods I and 0; e An unwillingness to let Method IIT fail, LOOKING AT CONFLICT POSITIVELY Conflict can be healthy. It can be a positive force in our lives. It can act as an invitation to congruent ‘com- taunication, offering an op- portunity to ongage in open, honest confrontation. It can clear the air and, by dis- solving mi: acceptable solution. 6. Act on the solution. 6. Check the results of the solution. Whether you're involved Industrial First Aid bring people closer ‘o each other. NEXT WEEK: When our mutual needs are in conflict how do you cope? Amended regulations are now Worker's Compensation Release _, Copies of ey amended Fi You often covertly meet your needs in other ways. You lose respect for yourself, have decreasing self-esteem, Others lose res- pect for you, also. In ETW, we teach an al- As women we also learn- ed to assume responsibility for being peacemakers, for making sure everyone else is happy. We often intervene in conflicts between other peo- ple sq no one feels hurt or upset. For, example:+>: : Life In The Suburbs OH, THE HECK WITH THIS! method or the other, invari- ably they use- both, METHOD I — YOU WIN + OTHER LOSES In this situation, you make use of your power in “the relationship to get your needs met at-.the expense of By Al Smith LET HIM TAKE ME CUT TO EATS to the two win-lose ving con- id Regu- tative are aoa available at WCB offices throughout the province, according to the Worker's Compensation Board of British Columbia. The available of industrial first aid at- tendants, Requirements are specified for first aid services in remote areas and sup- plementary services where workers are isolated from the main worksite. In addition, the amend- * ments include more detailed for first aid were adopted following extensive rooms, oxygen therapy input from emp! union officials and industrial first aid attendants through writ- ten submissions and public i early in the year. “ol flicts, It is based on nonuse of ‘: power. The idea is that con- flicts in relationships can be dealt with openly and honest- ly, that both people can get their needs met, that neither has to lose. We cail this the -no-lose .mathod, -Method. II. It isa way to achieve mutual need satisfaction.” As examples, here are ‘possible Method IIT solutions {there could be many others) to two problems: : 1, One of your .sub-. ordinates would like to have @ promotion. You refuse to consider it, 2.. Your son wants very badly to take a weekend trip with his friends. You refuse to allow him to go. . Solutions: | * 1. You and your employ- ee have a conference. Each of you states feelings and needs and listens to the other, After a full discussion, you mutually agree that a prom- otion at present is prema- ture; you set goals Among the notable changes is the clarification of the board’s responsibility for examination and certification am- bulances. ‘They also open an avenue of appeal to the board for industrial first aid at- tendants whose certificates have been suspended. ‘he minimum age for'an industend first aid certificate holder remains at 19 years. “PAINT & ~ WALLCOVERING ort wots at tiem ets Team F210 "CASTLEGAR NEWS, September 17,1979 DY] PERSONALIZE YOUR TOYOTA 9. ENGINE BLOCK HEATERS © Heats your engine coolant toen”:re fast starts even in extreme cold © Saves battery efficiency and reduces the wear that comes from turning overa cold fumiubricated engine 3. 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