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‘Ex-husband responds to letter

Claims hostile, physically abusive treatment sent him packing and led to their divorce a

Dear Ann Landers: /You
recently printed a Ictter from a
woman whose life sounded truly
tragic, Two of her children‘ liad
died in a car acci her hus-

had attempted suicide twice.
Through professional counseling
and determination, she managed
totum her life around. Her letter

band had deserted her and. she

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ers who are struggling to recover
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by identifying the wilter ¢ 80
you al:

me, Iam that woman's ex-hus-

band.

The “facts” as presented in my
former wife's letter are not totally
accurate, I did not desert her. We
divorced because of her inability
to control her hostile, physically
abusive treatment of me. The
more I (ried to help her, the more
she turned ‘against me, After’ our

hildren died, our
became hopeless. In addition to
our other problems, she felt an
enormous amount of guilt since
she was driving at the time’of the
: accident and was found to ibe par
tially at fault.

I shall not elaborate’on the
details of our divorce because I
don’t want to cause my ex-wife
additional pain, but your column
had a devastating effect on the
already difficult struggle to
rebuild my life and I felt Ineedéd
to write to you and set the record
straight. — D.L., Festus, Mo.

Dear D.L.: Here's your letter: I
appreciate the opportunity to let
you tell your side of the story.
Thanks for writing.

Dear Ann Landers: Based on
experience, I have some friendly
advice for would-be parents.

Please DON'T have children
for the following reasons:

1. To please your parents.

2. To get a second chance to
live your life through your child.

3. To find unconditional love.

4. To have financial support in
von old age.

5. To strengthen a shaky mar-
riage.

Postpone having children if
you grew up ina home where

Dees your tunnel have a

“Once upon a time there were
three tunnels, The. ShopKeepers’,

’ The, WorKers’. and The Out-

Casts’,; Each Tunnel had its own
caves and several times a year,a
different group . called The
Strangers would visit,

The. ShopKeepers’ Tunnel was
very old, long and because they

used candles for light, it was also ,

very dark, Their caves, were
wedged together, side by side,
along the edge of the Tunnel. A
nasrow path ran in front. The
ShopKeepers had been there for
many many years and most of the
caves were old and decrepit.
These ShopKeepers had only one
Vision for their Tunnel; a Vision
that would keep the Tunnel the
same,

. “We are the ShopKeepers, we
know what is best,” they would
say to themselves. The Shop-
Keepers even made rules and
organized groups to protect the
Tunnel from The Strangers. “We
don’t want or need The
Strangers” they cried,” we like
the candles and want more
WorKers to buy our goods.”

; The WorKers’ Tunnel was
devoid of anything beautiful. Arti-
ficial fluorescent and quartz halo-

“gen lamps shone on the. stripped

walls of the Tunnel and illuminat-
ed big gaping holes. The WorK-
ers had no Vision for their Tunnel;
their job was to strip, dig, and use
lots of paper to keep everything
tunning smoothly.

“We are the WorKers and this
is what we do,” they would say to
themselves. The WorKers also
made rules and organized groups
to protect the Tunnel from The
St s. “We don’t want or

there was i or
abuse. Get pr P i
help before you start a family, or
these problems will undermine
your parenting and create a new
generation of addicts and abusers.

If you're not ready for kids and
are sexually active, use contra-
ceptives.

Condoms and foam can be pur-
chased in most’ pharmacies and,
when used together, are 98 per-
cent effective.

Please DO have children if you
enjoy them, can offer an emotion-
ally and financially stable home,
and have the maturity and self-
esteem to nurture a young life.
The world needs more parents
like you.

Parenthood has been an enrich-
ing experience for my husband
and me, but I’m glad we waited
several years before starting our
family. — L.M., Littleton, Colo.

Dear Colorado: You've written
a letter that deserves to be taken
Seriously, And, may I add, Parent-
ing is the most demanding job in
the world for which there can be
no real preparation. It's all on-
the-job training.”
The best advice was offered by
humorist Josh Billings. He said,
“Raise up your child in the way
he' should go — and walk there
once in a while yourself.”

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Scope of the Problem

need The Strangers,” the Workers

cried, “we like the artificial’ ‘light
and need more workstripping,
digging and paper moving.” ,

The OutCasts’ Tunnel was the
most beautiful of all, ‘After look-

ing at other tunnels and deciding
what they did not want, the Out-
Casts worked together to create a
beautiful Vision for their Tunnel.
First, caves in the Tunnel were
joined to create clusters so it
wouldn't really look like a Tunnel
at all. Then they created other
corridors around the perimeter
which brought in natural light.
They planted flowers and trees
everywhere and knew that they
would grow. Some caves were
very old but were being lovingly
restored to their former glory.
Every one of the OutCasts was
proud of their

First, they walked down a ‘nar-
row path into the ShopKeepers’
old, long, and poorly lit Tunnel,
They saw old decrepit individual

caves and: were. shocked as the.,
ShopKeepers greeted them with ¢

suspicion’.

» “We are The Strangers, . they 4

said, “could you tell-us' why you
use candles to light your old, long
and dark Tunnel?”

“We are the ShopKeepers, we
know what is best,” came the
answer, “We don’t want or need
The Strangers.”

As the The Strangers left, they
muttered to themselves, “Alas,
these ShopKeepers have ‘Tunnel
Vision and we can not stay here.”

So The Strangers went to the
WorKers’ Tunnel and*were puz-

_ 2led by its appearance. They said,

“We are The Strangers. Can you
tell us why you shine artificial
lights on the stripped walls and
have so many people moving
paper around your Tunnel?”

“We are the Workers and that
is what we do,” came the reply,
“We don’t want or need The
Str. eo: Slowly, The

in the creation of their Tunnel and
couldn’t wait to brag about it.
“We are the OutCasts, we are
proud of our caves, our natural
light and our Tunnel. We want
and need The Strangers to come
and see it,” they would say.

The OutCasts had few rules or
regulations and no need for orga-
nized groups to protect their Tun-
nel from The Strangers. Instead,
they greeted The Strangers with
open arms and invited them to
look around.

One day very important
Strangers stumbled upon the
three tunnels.

Strangers turned around and
walked out muttering to them-
selves, “Alas, these WorKers
have Tunnel Vision and we can
not stay here either.”

Then the The Strangers spotted
the entrance to the third Tunnel
which belonged to the OutCasts.
Hesitantly they entered. To their
amazement, the inside of the tun-
nel was the most beautiful site
they had ever scen. The natural
light shone on the abundant
greenery and danced off the
water, -

The Strangers reluctantly
approached a cave and said, “We

Growing demand for recycled papers

Fletcher Challenge Canada’s
Crofton mill is responding to the
growing demand for recycled
the man in charge of
|, wams that carrying
the’ recycling movement ‘to
extremes could threaten the long-
term future of the B.C. pulp and
paper industry.

“We're obviously very pleased
to be able to play a role in the
effort to reduce solid waste while
meeting the needs of our cus-
tomers,” said Bill Clarke, vice-
president and manager of the
Crofton division.

“But if many more. jurisdic-
tions decided to follow California
and a dozen other U.S. states -
requiring newspaper publishers to
use paper with recycled content -
we could have a serious prob-
lem.”

The biggest problem would be
the limited amount of waste paper
available to the B.C. industry,
Clarke said. “Western Canada
just couldn't generate enough
used newspapers and magazines
to meet the demand.”

“It's clear there’s no need for
newsprint recycling legislation in

western Canada. If the recy
demand reached the extreme, we
could very quickly become
marginal supplicrs in what have
traditionally been key newsprint
inarkets for B.C. mills,” Clarke
said. “Legislation here would
only reduce our competitive posi-
tion and amount to exporting jobs
outside Canada.”

Clarke noted that the Union
of B.C. Municipalities at its
recent meeting passed a resolu-
tion urging member communities
to give preference to recycled
paper products.

“I'm not sure the people who
asked for that resolution had all
the facts. Many of the municipali-

Brrr rer

ties they depend direct-
ly or indirectly on the pulp and
paper industry. So by jumping on
the recycling bandwagon, they

might ultimately-be hurting their.

own éommiunities,” lie said.

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are The Strangers, We have visit-
ed ShopKeepers’ and WorKers’
Tunnels. Can you tell'us why
your Tunnel doesn’t look like
either of theirs?”

The Outcasts replied, “We are

. The Outcasts and we are proud of

our caves, our natural light and
‘our Tunnel. We have a-Vision
and we will share it with you.”
‘After talking with the Outcasts
for the rest of the day, The
Strangers smiled and said to
themselves, “ Hurray! The Out-
casts want us to stay here and help ..

their Tunnel grow. And, even
though they live in a Tunnel, they
have found natural light: We must
hurry back and tell the others}'*:

The moral of the story is: With-
outa Vision and without The §
Strangers to share in the Vision

and help it grow, no Tunnel will

ever have a light at the end of it.

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