June 12, 1985

LIFESTYLES

en ‘ 3

STREET-PROOF
YOUR CHILD
URGES AUTHOR

By JUDY CREIGHTON

TORONTO (CP) — A child disappears. Friends,
neighbors, police, even strangers comb the area for days
trying to find the youngster.

Two months later a family out for a Sunday afternoon
walk stumbles upon a corpse in a wood and once again
society recoils in horror over a senseless slaying.

As a result of such crimes, there has been spate of
how-to books on street-proofing children. The latest, The
Safe Child Book, by an American psychologist Sherry! Kerns
Kraizer, takes a different approach to the problems of child
abduction and sexual abuse.

Kraizer said in an interview that the best way to protect
children is “to develop their ability to take care of
themselves as a natural part of what they do every day.”

Her theory is that parents can teach prevention of
sexual abuse and abduction without fostering the idea that
the world is an evil place in which the people children love
and trust might hurt them.

BE RESPONSIBLE

Instead, she endeavors to show that children must be
given the responsibility for their own well-being.

“They are often their own best resource,” she said, “and
training sharpens their ability to be more responsible for
themselves when they need to be.”

Kraizer said children can and should speak up for
themselves.

“They definitely have something to say about what
happens to them. What they need is permission to say it and
the training to say it effectively and appropriately.”

“Kraizer said one of the best lines of defence against
abuse is for parents to be open with children.

“Don't keep secrets in your house,” she stressed. In
other words, if a possible abuser uses the line “our little

secret” to coerce a child, hearing the child say he or she
doesn't keep secrets may prevent the abuser from
proceeding.

And, she said, don't put your child’s name on his
clothing. “It might be cute, but it’s dangerous.

“Children become disarmed when someone calls them
by their name. Their level of safety decreases sharply and
they think the stranger addressing them is a friend.”

Kraizer said children can be polite while still keeping at
arm's length. +

By this tip Kraizer means that because most parents
teach their children to be polite, parents, often without
thinking, ask a child to say hello to total strangers.

“Asa result, children think it is more important to be
polite than safe,” she said.

NOT TO RESPOND

To change this, Krazier said, you must give your
children specific permission to be rude — that is, to not
respond — to a friendly “hello” of a stranger.

“Make clear to them that this rule applies when they are
alone or with their friends, not when they are with an adult.”

Another technique Kraizer suggests is the What If
Game.

“This game teaches using your children’s spontaneous
questions or your own What If questions as a springboard
for discussion,” she said.

The game is used to find out what your children think
to talk about possible solutions to a problem and to agree on
one solution that seems the best. From that, a parent can
establish working guidelines for what you or your children
would do in a situation.

“The game teaches skill without adding to the fears and
anxieties your children may already have. Parents should
ask questions that create no new fears or anxieties for
children.”

Kraizer illustrates a scenario that parents could follow.

“Imagine you are in a grocery store with your child.
Mother is pushing the child in the cart and asks: ‘What if we
were at the new shopping centre together and you looked
around and couldn't find me? What would you do?”

The child might answer: “I'd look for you and if I
couldn't find you, I'd find a police officer and go to the police
station.”

Mother asks: “Could you go to the person at the first
cash register you see and tell her you're lost?”

The child's answer: “I could go and say that my mom
and dad are lost.”

Mother: “OK. So you'd go to the cash register and say
you're lost. Could you do something else for me? Could you
stay right in that spot and not move until I come to get you?”

Child: “I'd stay right here” — at the cash register.

Who is
happiest
of all?

HAMILTON (CP) — Hap-
piness is growing old in a
rural area.

That's one of the findings
of philosphy professor Alex
Michalos of the University of
Guelph, who spent the last 15
years studying what sends
people into that wonderful
state called happiness.

Michalos, currently on sab-
batical from Dalhousie Uni-
versity in Halifax, conducted
extensive research into the
subject, questioning univer-
sity students, university
staff, senior citizens and 500
people from the small town of
Cochrane, Ont.

“Seniors scored high on
happiness because the most
important thing to them is
interpersonal relationships,”
Michalos said.

“The older you get the
more important relationships
become and the less impor-

tant material possessions
are.”
Michalos’s survey, com-

bined with other studies,
showed most people rate
their happiness by the gap
between what they have and
what they want.

DOESN'T LAST

Although 70 per cent of
those interviewed said they
were happy, Michalos said
most people experience hap-
piness only in fleeting mo-
ments, such as on their wed-
i the birth of a child
or getting a new job.

Joyce Askwith, social
worker and sex therapist
the Human Sexuality Clinic
at McMaster Medical Centre
in Hamilton, says happiness
flows from a person's self-
esteem. ~-

She said unhappy people
often expect another person
to supply the magic ingred-
ients for happiness.

“But if you care for your-
self, then you can shape that
attitude with others,” Ask.
with said. “You have to be
self-sufficient and able to
comfort yourself first before
you can be happy with some-
one else.

“The problem is so many
people think they desperate-
ly need another person to
make them happy:”

Askwith said unmarried
women are generally the
most content and umarried
men the unhappiest.

live in a world
where masculinity is defined
by power, sex and money. So
they have more difficulty
finding happiness.

“Women are taught to
build up relationships and
develop their emotions so
they generally tend to be
happier.”

She said- many people ex
perience only short-term
happiness because they
search for “adrenalin thrills”
and fail to see further ahead.

G

Real Estate Division

to solve general morigage

Course contents include

in morigage finance.
FEE: $500.00 (TAX DEDUCTIBLE)
Registration Deadline: July 34, 1985

The Faculty of Commerce and Business Administration
ot
The University of British Columbia
announces

MORTGAGES

a correspondence certificate course
for lenders and brokers.
This course will provide condidates with on in-depth P\
standing of the Canadian morigoge market and the ~
The

Problems. Programme it
Offered in co-operation with THE REAL ESTATE INSTHUTE OF
CANADA.

+ Legal principles of morigage lending and brokerage
* Introduction to the Canadian morigage market

+ The mathematics of real estate and morigage finance

* Rea ond apptootion of contemporary techniques

For application, contact: The Real Estate Division
Foculy

—

13 cu. ft.

16 cu. ft.

4.1 cu. ft. .

Refrigerator

pon. $699
out TQS
Se pe ol SOD

Compact Microwave
$299

10 Cu. Ft.
Upright Freezer

with
turntable .....

3-Piece Oak
Table Grouping

Freezer coils
on shelves.

sam" $495

2 ends.

Chest Freezers
Fully finished,

se" $Q99

attractive ............ IOCULNGS 5 é dees ccewsness deance ce
: SZOUL: 65 ceceies Kamninwss Kawase He
Kitchen SB CUT 5 sieiciercis saienciawis Kaersisis « sie

Dinette

$399
$429
$479

Hotpoint
Above the Range
Countersaver

Microwave
Oven

with 2-speed exh: it fan light

SUPER

5-Piece All Wood
Kitchen Dinettes
Textured non-mar

table top

— *399

—_—o
Bed Chesterfields
$459

Simmons (Luxury)
BeautyRest

SPECIAL!!

2-piece, 3-piece sets

Now
Only wicccisive soe

Microwav
Oven

OO ec cecseseeenseessees 4699
Queen-size

King-size

Bt enn eeeeeceeeeeeeeeseee AOQS

Save Hundreds

Trash
COMPACELOF wricipoos

SPECIAL ... °599!

$499

of Dollars!

Sale ends Saturday!! | Twin Bunk

Oo u tfit Complete

Color Television

*379
*499

Full Family-Size

© Electronic

*° Programmable

* Time cook, temp cook
© 10 power levels

ONLY

Microwave Oven

26’’ Console TV 89
Hardwood

Full console style, $795 Folding Chairs .

XL100 chassis,
AccuColor ..............

each

HomeGoods FURNITURE

FATHER'S

Get your supplies
for the

Fishing Der
at these discounts.

TWO 10x54 Atco construction
trailers, $850 and $800. 365-62:

mings
TRAILER TOWING MIRRORS $3.
Sestored typewriter table,

Fishing Tackle

DAY SPECIAL

120-GAL. TIDY god with elec-

sockers. ” ‘Ma ditee gate
Puro: hv

SWIM FOOL war — In
16 xa Sove $5

tric sone. 85-, Sy oot Two
Sige, Neavn tet" dives
* eat ‘One
iding/eutting terse (now).
sigiging/cutting torch (new
365-34: .

ia For Better or For Worse®

As time goes by, you'll know why.

SNOW TRAILS
’ SALES & SERV!

502-12th Ave., Genelle
693-2382

by Lynn Johnston

this week!

Armstrong-
Mild White

sgzs

INGLIS Di DISHWASHER. buil
model. 7-years-old.

sof sePesse $125. ing for
/45

HO TRAIN SET
bike. B/W TV

Honda 50 trait
FP toys.

ECHO HALIDE
& HYDROPONICS

Halide & High Pressure
Sodium Growlights
Hydroponic Systems

Call 352-2370

Located at
Ponderosa Pipe
89 Baker St., Nelson

ELECTROHOME air conditioner.
365-3082. 45

VE SEATS. $75. Li
$40. Picnic tables,

SMALL,
clothes will fit
signment Shop 100

tin/42

3x, 1
are Also Aveileble
Attention Getters

25¢ for each time od appears
(Minimum charge 75¢.)

Legal Ads
Word ods: 20¢ per word tor
one insertion; 15¢ per word
for

Strips. 365. 575).
Two-Gallon
PAILS

ONLY

*1.50

EACH

Heavy duty all-purpose
plastic pails with tight-fitting
covers and handles.
Need cleaning. $1.50 each

CASTLEGAR NEWS

197 Columbia Ave.
Castlegar

1x4 FULL DIMENSION hemlock
Kreated against decoy. ideal for
fencing 5¢/toot. 365. 3226. 7/42

ROCKWELL s table pager 4 tele
ter, wre jan

eee — sashgenehold ems.
STATIONERY SUPPLIES
PHOTOCOPYING
WEDDING STATIONERY
GENERAL PRINTING
SOSH el Printer.

623 Columbia Avenue
365-6385

Once-A-Day

VITAMINS

206i:

Only at

Mother
-Nature’s

FREE ESTIMATES
Call George Ross
Manager

ee MALONEY’S AUTO BODY — 365-2155

SCREENED —
ovoilable 352. rs 87 o rer

GARDEN si
$395. 8x8,

smission, $250. 38 0 auto wens.

3s at YEAR. 8 secechedt set

and stov 3/47
Gears 440 Sore “Totaly
rebuilt, only 2,000 miles. R

= geen tes new ports. Runs Rone ol

1,000 LINEAL FEET 1x4 T&G No. 2
gnd better cedar 368-7304. /a7

insertions. Legal boxed ads
64€ per agote line for one in.
sertion; 48¢ per agote line tor
subsequent consecutive inser
tions

Payment Policy
Payment may be made by
cosh, cheque or Visa and
MosterCard credit cords. 1" is
not advisable to send cash
through the mail. Classified
Ads may be chor,
billing chorge will be made
the ad is not paid for
days after it first appears
(This $1 charge does NOT ap.
ply to Viso and MasterCard
char;

y
SUNDAY CASNEWS
11 a.m. Friday

Classified Display
Ads Deadline

“Boxed Ads”
WEDNESDAY CASNEWS

10 a.m. Friday
Order by Mail
Print your Action Ad on a
separate piece of paper and
mail to

Action Ads

Box 3007
CASTLEGAR; B.C

VIN 3H4
The Castlegar News reserves
the right to clossity ads under
appropriate headings and to
determine page location
Human Rights Act
All advertisements such os
Help Wanted must comply
with the British Columbia
Humen Rights Act. This Act
states no advertisement may
state or imply 0 preference.
limitation, or specification, on
the basis of an applicant's

colour, marital

tenance of public decency
AND prior approval has been
obtained through the Humen
Rights Branch)

$250. Two 283 auto trans. $250
Phone after 4 p.m. 359-7815,
3/46
FREEZER port ad bove. 12.2 g yi -
5-32:
a Rockett 3, corn Aluminum
Raleigh 10.aph, bike, $90; Con Sh t
leigh 10-xpd. bike, $90. Cuna
16-channel and scanning jects
monitor receiver. Brand 24%" x 36"
$130. 2 seporate speckers "Jso. others. 399-43 p.m.
7/45 WEALTHY BEDDING PLANTS. Anytime se day
Organically grown, $1 ond up “"Y"™® nerdy end tery: Py Ay dw
¢ carton. q yw
p-m., weekends 11-2 only. 365. 25 or More — 60¢ Each
3701 tinal SPECIALS
QUALITY TOP SOIL ond gravel. 6.
‘d. loads, $60 12-yd. loads, $110. |, BEEF & PORK CASTLEGAR NEWS
Pau! Legebokott, 359-7926. tin/40 ‘Quality Guaranteed 197 Colusa Avanos
. legor
Sides of Lean pork Costlega
RENT 95¢ Ib. caw Sere
nsive rooting. siding, or
READERS of the Castlegar News THIS Beet — A-1 lotion. they con ever’ be
through this newspoper's mem Government Inspected used for vopor barriers and any
bership in the B.C. Yukon Com. caceeemeneeus SEnetiLS
munity Newspapers Assn., are ses $ 1.72 caw tion, These vaed printing press

SPACE
365-5210

SEAMLESS 5” GUTTERS

advertising
For $109 per
our 25-word

Hinos $2.19 caw

plates (.009 24% x36 inches)
Ore priced as follows: One to 12

Apply Castlegar
ue

Columbia C . Hin
TRIPLE metas lhe

Heavy gouge aluminum, con.
Silver htm atone metering | D MEATS
2212 tor details. tin. by . 365-3240. 104/23 Canyon, B.C.
Ph. 428-5613
SEE what Mary Kay cosmetics
A U CTION con do for you. Fran. 365-7857
toons, “BOOKS, BOOKS. %
RUSSELL AUCTION HOUSE Shop. 1007%2nd $1, "Simran
ighway 3A, Thrums 399-4: % BED, excellent condition $100
Chest drowers, student desk. Ph.
Sat., June 15, 1 p.m. "Sharp a t0n0 GaAveL. coment grovel
Open every day, Mon. - Sat., 9'a.m. to 6 p.m. Pool & Spa Sales Bye" roth by the dumptrsck lood,

THIS SALE CONTAINS LOCAL RECOVERED

STOLEN PROPERTY FROM INSURANCE CLAIMS.
& Aluminum Truck Canopy ANT
% 230 AC/DC Welder 4-Piece Waterfall Bedroom
% 2 Cutting Torches Suite
Color TV Sets | Egyption ded Sows 1890

1 Sword and

| Sword coe 1920
| Brass Candlestick

and Service

RUSSELL
AUCTION HOUSE

New & Used
Furniture for Sale

Phone 399-4793

USED “GUNS bought and sold

BioGuard Chemicals

TERMS: Cash or cheque with proper !.D.
NEXT AUCTION
FRIDAY, JUNE 21 — 7 P.M. SHARP
LOG HOME — 28'x36' -on-piece construction
plus enough logs for second floor. This ready-to-
move home is located just before turnoff north
of Ymir, B.C

Think auction before you try to sell!

RUSSELL AUCTION — 399-4793

HOMEMADE CAMPER
le. 365-3206

Cash or trade. Wises

Heater 3 Pictures CALL GARY AT R 4 ;
Quolity Stereo Components 1 Bevel Gloss Mirror VALKYR AQUATICS ween, SS ONE-SA71. | tin *
ive Video Recorder Hopp 365-7389 ve bee Geen Fea C LL

i s, jor
Poccnure (Old fetogron mack TRAMPOLINE, 13'x13° (new). Disk Bonk sesso ma
Cronm Separeter 5995. 365-7497, tn/32 9 YEAR-OLD GELDING quorter
QUALITY TOPSON, ond grovel. horse/saddlebred cross Needs
1e 359-7926 thn /36

Very
3/46

VIN
& SEALCOATING

* Driveway Repairs

CALL ANYTIME

ecient aaa

365-2898

SéSre. 7,
‘or seat, good cond

asking $30. Baby walker. $10
Baby jumping horse, $20

365.
3/47

fOUN RO pene se table Sp $i

Na
GOLF BAG S $10, s Size 6 soccer
shoes, 3/46

ANGLICAN CHURCH
1401 Columbia Ave.
Sunday Services
8:00 a.m. & 10:00 a.m
Robson Church
2nd and 4th Sundays
0a.m
Rev. Charles Balfour
365-2271

ST. PETER LUTHERAN

713 - 4th Street
Worship Service 9 a.m
Sunday School 10:15 a.m
Pastor Terry Defoe
Office 365-3664
Residence 365-7622
Listen to the Lutheran
Hour — Sunday, 9a.m
on Radio CKQR

WINDOWS, dillerent sizes, vn
ond under 368 Brame
oh EDT

SPACIOUS 3 bdrm.
basement Be, Fase Con-

w/dining space.
$275/month. Prompt
tenance. No pets.

TWO.BEDROOM house, down-
town. Semi-turnished. Neor
schools and shopping. 365-3034

Brivonnica, 62 $20. Ses. 6448.

6-STRING beginners guitor, EFA
365-7116.

FOUR 14
5888.

3/46
ONE ond Two ‘Opor-
Spore 5 "1 Utilities: pod ’ at
cluded. Laundry — facilit;
ese. in/46 «
iley 5 house in Crescent
‘al ow
3/46 oll heat, fireplaces. 365.
ha nn »- 3068.

hubcaps, $20. aa.
- 3/45
SINGLE steel bed, $18. 365-6791,

3/45

WHITE bathroom sink
$20. 365-3205.

BAI

$10.
You may adveriise in this column
free of cha:

may

ticles must not total over $20 ond
each item must have its price
stoted. We will run your od for
three issues n/40

Our Action Ad Phone
Number is 365-2212

809 Merry Creek Road
Past Fireside Motel
Pastor: R.H. Duckworth
Family Bible Hour
9:45a.m
Morning Worship

11:00a.m
Evening Praise

6:30 p.m
WEDNESDAY NIGHT
Study & Prayer — 7 p.m
Church 365-3430
Pastor 365-2808

—
CHURCH OF GOD

ee
2404 Columbia Avenue

i
| Commission on ee

TWO BORM. basement suii
Partially furnished, utilities in

cluded. to downtown,
available uy 1. Phone 365-5012.
tin/45

BORM. HOME for June, july
Sedinaants 365-3163. 3

2264 - 6th Ave
1% Blocks South of
Community Complex

Robson: Ist Sun, 7 p.m
3rd Sunday, 10 a.m
Rev. Ted Bristow

365-8337 or 365-7814

Church School
9:450.m
Morning Worship
liam

Pastor Ira Johnson
Phone 365-6762

PENTECOSTAL
TABERNACLE

APOSTOLIC CHURCH

ST. RITA'S CATHOLIC
Rev. Hermon Engberink
Ph. 365-7143
Saturday Night Mass
7p.m
Sunday Masses at
8a.m. and 1040.m
ST. MARIA GORETTI
Genelle — 12 Noon

EVANGELICAL
FREE CHURCH

914 Columbiec Ave.

767-11th Ave., Castlegor
Pastor Rev. Ken Smith

tent Rev Morley
Phone 365-5212
Sunday Morning Services

01 8:15 a.m. and 11:00a.m
Christian Education — 9:45 o.m
Evening Service — 6 p.m

Below Castleaird Plaza

SUNDAY SERVICES
Sunday School 9:45 a.m
Morning Worship 11:00
Evening | Fellowship 6:30

Midweek Study ond Proyer
on We day at 7:30 p.m

Chemt in Heart 8 You tn Mind

Family Bible Hour
9:45a.m
Sunday Worship Service
liam
Bible Study & Prayer
Tues. 7:30 p.m
Pastor: Tom Mulder
Phone: 365-228!

2605 Columbia Ave

Sunday School 9:45 a.m
Morning Worship 11 a.m
Home Bible Studies

For information
Coll 365-8292

re
1471 Columbio Ave., Trail
364-0117

y: Bible Study
and Prayer 7:00 p.m
Thursday
Youth Meeting 6:30
HOME OF CASTLEGAR

Regular Saturday Services
Pastor Cliff Drieberg
365-2649