Page 6B The Castlegar Sun Wednesday, June 3, 1992 ‘Suicidal tendencies should no hold caring friend as hostage Dear Ann Landers: I'm a 20- year-old woman who has to talk a friend out of suicide at least three times a week. “Tom” says that his life depends on me and that if he doesn't live to see his 22nd birth- day, it will be my fault. I met when we were both in high school. Some of the kids made genital deformity. As a child, he had several surgeries on his face and looks pretty good but not ce letely normal. I felt sorry for him and became his friend. There was never any romance between us, and I was sure he knew that. Last year, Tom introduced me to a pal of his because he thought we would be perfect for each other. He was right, but now he regrets it because he wants me for himself. Tom has been sending me flowers and expensive gifts, and when I tell him to please stop, he becomes angry. He is beginning to make my life miserable by phoning at least 10 times a day, and I'm not exag- i He i calls at . Pha ycigemene -? POLLAINE E. EMDE Res 365-3253 3:00 or 4:00 in the morning and wakes up everyone in the house. When I tell him he has no right to phone at such hours, he starts to cry and says that he has a gun to his head and that if I hang up he will kill himself. I've begged him to see a psy- (MAKE PLANS NOW TO ATTEND THE ) FUN-FEST SOFTBALL TOURNAMENT DANCE AT THE KINNAIRD COMMUNITY COMPLEX MUSIC BY KZZU 'ZOO F.M. From Spokane! SATURDAY, JUNE 6th at 9 PM Tickets at the door $7.00 per person - NO MINORS - SPONSORED BY THE CASTLEGAR SLOW PITCH LEAGUE chiatrist but he refuses, What can I do? This guy is driving me up the wall and I feel totally help- less. — Trapped in Texas Dear Texas: You and your par- ents should meet with Tom's par- ents at once to make sure they know how important it is for him t& get professional help. Tell Tom, in their presence, that you will no longer allow him to hold you hostage to his sickness and it is up to him to try to get well Offer to phone him occasionally at your convenience to chat, but tell him not to phone you because you are getting an unlisted num- ber. Then do it. Tom is unstable. If, heaven forbid, he should take his own life, it is not your fault. Dear Ann Landers: When | read the letter from “Earnest But Numberless,” who complained leave their phone number, I knew I had to write. I work in a store and spend hours every week call- ing customers about their special orders. I know very well that a big part of the problem is the kind of greeting that is put on the answering machine. It is frustrating to hear, “I’m not home — leave a message,” because you have no idea whether or not you've reached the correct number. Another annoyance is when you run into a 4-year-old kid who instructs you to leave your name. 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It's too bad some people don't realize the telephone is not a toy. It is truly one of the most fantastic inventions of the age and should be accorded the dignity it deserves. — A Michi- gan reader Dear Mi would a person who pretended to be so religious all her life feign poverty and take from others? — Feeling Ripped Off in Gary, Ind. Dear Gary: Lighten up on Grandma. Her advanced years may very well be a factor in her recent peculiar behavior. Also, consider the fact that people who have been very poor for a good many years have a dif- ficult time parting with money. It would be perfectly appropri- ate to tell Grandma that you found her bank book and were delighted to discover that she is now able to repay the $400 she borrowed. Let her know how pleased you are that she is no longer destitute. Dear Ann Landers: I was injured in an accident some time back and recently came into a large sum of money as a result of igan: Your came through loud and clear, and I thank you. Dear Ann Landers: Last November, my grandmother, who is in her mid- 80s, let two men who posed as water department workers into her home to “check the meter.” While one man kept her occupied in the basement, the other one rifled through her purse and took $400. Grandma called me, nearly hysterical, saying over and over that this loss meant she wouldn't be able to fix the roof on her house. I took out a $400 caSh advance on my credit card and gave her the money to fix the roof. I've also given her money for groceries in the past when she said she didn’t have anything in the house to eat and that she was living on leftovers brought in by neighbors. Grandma's health has been deteriorating rapidly and my mother“insisted that she move to Arizona where Mom could take care of her. When I went to help Grandma pack her gings, I discovered her bank book. I was shocked to find that she has $45,000 in a savings account and has added to it as recently as last month. I'm really angry at her for being so dishonest with us all these years. Please tell me, Ann, why the My boyfriend feels that when it’s time for us to become official- ly engaged, I should pay for my engagement ring because I’m “rich now.” He makes good money and can certainiy afford to get me a nice ring. Also, he is insisting that my settlement money be put in a sav- ings account in both our names. We have been fighting about this for quite a while and I’m making myself sick over it. Whatevet your advice is, Ann, I will take’ it because I don’t know my own mind anymore I'm beginning to regret that I ever got this settlement. It has caused nothing but grief. — Kathy In Long Island Dear Long Island: No matter how much money a woman has, her fiance should buy the engage- ment ring, even if the stone is so small you can’t see it under a magnifying glass. As for putting your accident settlement money in a joint sav- ings account, I would be wary of a fellow who would make such a suggestion. Since New York is not a com- munity property state, what's yours is yours and your fiance would have no claim on it after you're married if you kept it in your own name, Since the sum is considerable, I suggest you talk to your lawyer so you are clear on = Keep your ‘business on track! 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Dear Ann Landers: The 1 7- year-old daughter of a co-worker took a home pregnancy test and the result */«% positive. When she told her parents she was pregnant, they were very supportive, but her boyfriend became enraged and said he wanted nothing more to do with her. A few evenings later, the girl attempted to hang herself. She was discovered and rushed to the hospital where she lay in a coma for three days. After several brain scans revealed no response, the life supports were removed and she quietly passed away. The double tragedy is that the home pregnancy test was wrong Hospital tests showed that the girl was not pregnant. Although these do-it-yourself pregnancy tests advise seeing a doctor for verification, not every- one reads the fine print. But they do read your column, Ann. Please tell your readers that no matter what the circumstances may be, one should not rely on the posi- tive or negative results of a home Pregnancy test. Many lives have been affected by this young girl’s death, but maybe through your column some good will come out of it. — L.M. in Florida Dear L.M.: What happened to your young friend was a needless tragedy. Home pregnancy tests are not always accurate and should be confirmed by a doctor. Regardless of the outcome of the pregnancy test, however, that unfortunate young woman had several options. The real value of this letter is to remind women everywhere that they DO have choices, as of this writing. If Roe vs. Wade is overturned by the Supreme Court, their options will be sharply lim- ited — but that’s another column. Dear Ann Landers: I have a major gripe: When you are wait- ing to be served in a business establish- ment and the phone rings, the salesperson always answers it immediately, and you are left standing there like a dummy. When that happens to me, I tell the salesperson, in a pleasant voice, that I was ahead of the phone customer and will she Please take care of me first Invariably she will terminate the call quickly, apologize and serve me The phone company has con- ditioned the public to answer that ring no matter what. Even when showering, you get out like a fool and run to the phone. Never mind how many people have broken an arm or a leg in the process. Please tell them how ridiculous it is to do this. They will listen to you. — Miami Beach Dear Miami: Don~t blame the telephone company for “condi- tioning people” to answer the phone. This is a decision that each individual makes for him or herself. Of course, rushing to answer the phone is foolish, but that ele- ment known as curiosity lives in all of us. Who's calling? The only way you'll ever know is to answer the phone, unless, of course, you have an answering machine which not everyone wants — including me Dear Ann Landers: No, no, no! Please don’t advise guests to fold the bedsheets nicely and cover the bed with the spread. Departing guests should make up the bed so that if the hostess doesn’t launder the bedding that day, the room will at least look tidy. I was once mortified when a Quest stripped off the coveriet and sheets and left them in the middle of the bed, which let me know that she had seen the badly wom but still comfortable old mattress underneath. — Red-Faced in Sacramento Dear Sacra: You've made a good point. My face is redder than yours. we cater to all 365-8369 Wednesday, May 27, 1992 The Castlegar Sun Page 7B Dialogue By Toni D'Amato H™ old is Susan Sarandon, and is she European? What was her very first movie? I've seen “Thelma and Lou- ise” and seem to recall Geena Davis from TV. Has she had any notable TV roles? — F.B., Jacksonville, Fla. « # aT Susan Sarandon, who is 45, was born Susan Tomaling in New York City. Her theatrical name comes via her former husband, Chris Sarandon. Sarandon made her film de- but in “Joe’’ (1970). Geena Davis, her co-star in “Thelma and Louise,” had regular roles in the TV series ‘Buffalo Bill” and “Sara.” or which movie did Marilyn Monroe strike her memo- rable pose in the white pleated ARIES - March 21/April 20 Romantically, this week could be the beginning of a period of your life that will be both happy and fulfill ing. If you are single, then you may start to think seriously about mar- riage. Financially, however, the path forward a be a little bumpy, and you could find it difficult to afford your present lifestyle without anoth er source of income. TAURUS ~ April 21/May 21 You may feel that your career Prospects are not too clear at the moment, but a letter or phone call could have some good news for you ,concerning your long-term goals You might be asked to attend a party at short notice; it could prove to be a good time, so try a little spontaneity! GEMINI — May 22/June 21 You are ultra-charming this week, and many admirers will flock to you. The best part is, you won't even have to try; it just seems as though luck is following you! As active as your social life seems now, there's more excitement in the weeks to come. Enjoy! . CANCER - June 22/July 22 Great happiness will be yours this weekend, when you find that some- one you admire starts to show some interest in you. Soon you will feel as though you are walking on air. Throughout the week you should be in an easy-going mood and will- ing to forgive the little idiosyn- crasies of friends which normally set you on edge. LEO ~ July 23/August 23 An unexpected phone call will put you on guard about the actions of some friends this week. You may be disappointed to hear of their inten- tions and do your best to change their minds — though probably with little effect until the end of this week, when everything starts to run in your favor again. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Are you an active member in a local club or organization? If so, you might be surprised when you're called upon to take an active part in its running. You should, however, think carefully before committing yourself to the responsibility. this could be an active dress? — E.V., Mundelein, III. Marilyn Monroe was working on “The Seven Year Itch” when that famous picture was taken as she stood on a side- walk subway grating. As a train passed through the tun- nel beneath her, the force of the wind sent her skirt billow- ing around her. n what year did Jerry Lewis first team up with Dean Martin? When did they break up? Does Jerry Lewis have any children? — L.W., Bryn Athyn, Pa. Martin and Lewis met in At- lantic City, N.J., in 1946 They made their TV debut as a team on the first telecast of “The Ed Sullivan Show” in 1948. They appeared on the most popular variety shows and even worked as rotating hosts of “The Colgate Come- dy Hour.’ They split up in 1956. Jerry Lewis, who is per- haps most famous these days for his work with the Muscu- lar Dystrophy Association's Labor Day Telethon, has six sons, and he recently celebrat- ed the birth of his first daughter D‘ Roger Moore, who starred in “The Saint,” ever portray Sherlock Holmes? My husband says that Moore never played Holmes. Also, what was the name of the other series in which he starred? — B.H., Shreveport, La. Moore started as Sherlock Holmes in the 1976 TV mov- ie “Sherlock Holmes in New York.” Although best-known for starring in a number of *“‘James Bond’’ movies, Moore is also popular with TV viewers for his roles in “The Saint,” “The Persuad- ers’’ (in which he played Lord Brett Sinclair), “Ivanhoe,” “The Alaskans’? and “Maverick.” MECHANICAL . HEAVY DUTY AUTOMOTIVE AUTOMATIC TRANSMISSION GENE WADDINGTON 365-7006 week, and there appears to be a chance to meet new friends as well. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 The emotional turbulence you may have experienced over the last month or so will start to calm down now. The beginning of a very positive HOROSCOPES May 31- June 6 phase of your life starts now, and will probably last until late in the year, or even until early 1993! Many oppor- tunities will arise, giving you ample Opportunities to use your talents. SCORPIO — Oct 24/Nov 22 Your domestic life will be muchi more pleasurable than it has been jon. Try to place all possible emphasis on stimulating your imagination. SAGITTARIUS — Nov 23/Dec 21 Your weekend plans may have to be Postponed because of important deadlines at work. There could be blessings in disguise in this apparent setback to your plans. Finances need careful handling right now; don't invest in “get rich quick” schemes! CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Romance will smile on you when you least expect it. Previous finan- cial ventures will finally pay off and, if you're feeling lucky, a small gam- ble could prove profitable. Don’t let People take advantage of your good nature. An Aries of the opposite sex intrigues you. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 If you feel that you are being pulled in too many directions at once, it may be time to take some decisive action. Once this action is takqn, you will be open to meeting some new acquaintances, leading to what eventually turns out to be a most enjoyable time. Take some time out for meditation. PISCES - Feb 19/March 20 Although you may be worrying about work, you could find that your energies are somehow renewed this week, and that you can enter into a Particular recreation with a great deal of zest and enthusiasm. A late- evening engagement around mid- week will prove most enjoyable. Be honest with yourself. 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