Saturday, February 22, 1992 ~ Harrassment stalks men and women DEAR ABBY: I was pl dtosee the issue of sexual harassment in the workplace publicized in-your column. I can personally attest to the fact that this is not an exclu- sively male-initiated problem, al- though I agree that women are over- whelmingly its victims due to the predominance of men occupying’ po- iti of authority over 5 I am a man. Twenty-five years | ago, when Iwasa young dical The Bible offers plenty of wisdom within its pages @ Nothing wrong with providing solid moral foundation for children Agreat encouragement for parents in child-raising is the Hebrew proverb: “Train up a hild-in- the way_he should go. cor in the military, on two separate occasions, I was the victim of sexual harassment. Both times, the perpetrators were female officers (nurses) in authority over me. When I politely turned down their ad- vances, I received poor job assign- ments, the least desirable work schedules, etc., uptil I managed to Amonth later, lam almost cured! get transferred out of their work’ | gid Jearn to be careful not to wound areas. My experience was not unique, myselfas I snapped the rubber band: as any man in the service can tell Where has that wonderful idea you. > The point I want to make is this: — ay these years? Gratefully RITA AUSTIN, It really makes no difference which gender is guilty of making KANSAS CITY, MO. unwelcomed sexual advances on the : job, it is still one of the most under- = EAR RITA AUSTIN: I'm glad ibe Jah Sieesapoirrieot Sarg aa it worked ngs Soe i Sattlesaa : se se ic ass principle can be us ‘or break- should jolevate, thie kind of abuse, 128 other annoying habits, euch The t } oa with 2% reaching for a piece of candy, he idhenbirerarr the crease Ser dh Ipi or the habit of reports ofserual harassment atthe pgTrupting people, the urge to workplace is the federal govern- Panta Asdrary > ment’s Equal Employment Oppor- gossip — the list is endless. tunity Commission (EEOC). There nena are regional offices in larger cities around the country. CONFIDENTIAL TO WINNIE GERALD JOHNSON, IN ASHLAND, KY.: If you don’t GILMER, TEXAS know him well enough to know whether he’s lying or telling the (OHNSON: Thank truth, you don’t know him well ble contributi gh to marry him. Trust me. see Advice realized he was about to chew his nail, he would snap the rubber band just hard enough to make a little sting, and it would distract him and curb the urge. DEAR ABBY: “On Hae Lene in ef inking wit! DEAR ABBY: I am 70 years old. Waukegan. muse be thi . I've been talking to myself since I ~~ ‘This well-educated, successful, was 11. Recently, a neighbor told ME career woman needs to take a good he saw me in my car, talking to hard look at the man with whom myself! I know I talk to myselfa lot, she’s considering spending the rest but I've always tried to avoid being of her life. She says he’s somewhat caught at it. : immature, is still very attached to Once, Isaw a womancomingdown his buddies, and enjoys the bar scene the aisle of the supermarket, totally — then she hastens to add, “Two oblivious of the people around her. beers is his limit.” Can’t she see the talking to herself out loud! I could handwriting on the barroom wall? see myself in the future. Then I read She admits that perhaps this man a letter in your column from a man may be “too simple” for her, and she - who had bitten his fingernails since might grow bored. childhood, until he read a letter in Abby, I think “On the Fence” Dear Abby that he could break the should have signed herself, “Off My habit by wearing a rubber band Rocker.” around his wrist. The moment he SAN ANTONIO READER Answers to today’s Crossword Puzzle and Cryptoquip . | v Y z ojzimi< ot re O|O)) -/—lmic BE) Ci Coed Ge) a 2) OOEEDE SBGBHO OWWWE | mM) e-}r-| mo) =|0|—| D/O | 2|>|—|r- | >< o|-|z DOE ODE >|r-|m| UR | Mm) OC) AOR <|>/r- |” OME | —|=|>|D| >Re D|—|=) 0 O}r- Civ ximiz <|m BE) GEEOES DEEBEO hme A Sim) ORE | >| m0] >| ni Olm| 0] >| 4 VM) 4] O/X/ OO} - Be >| —|< OlDi >iz! 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After reading a secular ar- ticle on religious education, I discovered that my failure to attend and encourage my children’s moral development would eventually lead to their dropping out of Sunday School. — Tdid not want tojeopardize + their progress in moral learn- ing and decided to attend few services. ‘ To my surprise I discov- ered the Bible had a good message for me. In my case it is true, a little child shall lead them. But there is absolutely nothing wrong in a parent guiding and leading his or her family onto the right path. Set an example for yourself and your family by going in the way you should go and not departing from it. We would be pleased in our __over Nelson’s CASTLE GLASS & WINDSHIELD LTD. OUR PRICES ARE VINYL WINDOWS & PATIO DOORS "Made in Canada for Canadians” 2 HOUR - SERVICE METAL INSULATED DOORS “Made in Canada for Canadians" "If you didn't get a price from us you probably paid too much." CASTLE GLASS & WINDSHIELD LTD. 2228 6TH AVENUE 365-7666 CASTLEGAR Fax: 365-2586 @ Saturday, February 22, 1992 LocdSPORT FastLANE BOYS B-BALL Ryan Vatkin scored 21 points to lead the SHSS senior boys basketball team to a 55-53 win L.V. Rogers Bombers at SHSS last weekend. It was the first time the Rockers have beaten LVR this season and revenge fora final-game loss to the Bombers in an SHSS tourney earlier this month. DID YOU KNOW? An average foot takes 8,000 to 10,000 steps each day — 3,650,000 steps a year. B.C. WINTER GAMES Close to 50 local athletes — from -broomball Splayers to “weightlifters — will travel to Vernon next week for the B.C. Winter Games which begin Thursday. The News will introduce you to each of these athletes in Wednesday's edition of the paper and follow their progress in the hunt for gold at the Games. FREE AGENT Pat Haley watches the Olympic Games with more than a passing interest. Haley is best sprinter ever to come out of the Kootenays and, if not for a World War, would probably have been an Olympic champ. EIGHT ENDER RARER THAN HOLE IN ONE kb . a 3 News photo by Ed Mills Until the Pensioners Curling Club rink of (L to R) Mike Verzuh, Bob MacBain, John Strelioff and Fred Tomlin did it Wednesday, it had been six years since the Castlegar Curling Club had seen a perfect eight ender curled on its ice. For Verzuh, 83, it was the first perfect end of his career and came on his wedding anniversary. Mighty Leafs too good for Rebels Ed Mills SPORTS EDITOR If the Castlegar Rebels were going to prove they belonged on the same ice as the mighty Nelson Maple Leafs they had to do it on the familiar ice at home. Considering the Rebels won two games on the road all season, winning at the Nelson Civic Centre in the team’s best of seven West Division playoff wasn‘ really plan A. Castlegar failed to prove anything at the Community Complex Thursday night as they dropped the second game in the series 7-1. The Maple Leafs, on the other hand, proved that they may indeed be just snacking on the Rebels on the way to a full-course @ Nelson dining on steady diet of games with Rebels International Junior Hockey League championship. The Leafs, who extended their KIJHL unbeaten streak to 22 games, proved they can play all facets of the game just that much better than the Rebels as they took a 2-0 lead after one and stretched it to 4-1 after two.” The win gave the Maple Leafs a 2-0 lead in a series that most have _ them picked to win in four. The Rebels were better in the - Complex than they were in a 9-2 loss in Nelson Tuesday, but they still failed to capitalize on opportunities. : Perhaps their best chance to make it a game came early in the third period with a four-minute man advantage situation. A goal or two then would have put the Rebels back into it and gave them the spark they just couldn’t find. But Nelson proved it can play defence too, killing both penalties and several others before breaking the Rebels’ back with two more goals. Nino Da Costa, from Mike Hunter and Kevin Dewar, scored Castlegar’s only goal at 8:57 of the second. Joel Casey was strong in net for the Rebels, especially in the second when he made 25 saves. But Nelson’s Brian Jones was better stopping the Rebels time and again. . The series moved back to Nelson Friday (results weren’t available at press time) and continues at the Complex tonight. Talk to us today.