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Wednesday, June 24, 1992

Wednesday, June 24, 1992

Past column on male breast cancer ralses awareness and saves lives

Dear Ano Landers: A few
weeks ago, my husband read your
column alerting readers to the fact
that men can get breast cancer. He
was aware that there was quite a
variance between his left and right
breasts, but since he didn't know

that men could get breast cancer, he
didn't do anything about it

After reading your column, he
went immediately to our family doc-
tor, who examined him and ordered a
biopsy. The results showed that he
did indeed have a malignancy.

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Within three days, my husband
had a complete mastectomy. The
surgeon removed the nodes from
under his left arm as well. He got

You also warned your readers
about the Cancer Fund
the American Heart Disease Preven-
tion Foundation, the Center for

through the op
and the prognosis for a complete
recovery is very promising.

I am writing to thank you, Ann,
because I firmly believe that you
have saved my husband's life. — A
grateful Wife in Wheeling, West Va.

Dear Grateful.: Thank you for a
letter that made me extremely
happy. And now, meet Mrs. G.
From Cincinnati:

Dear Ann Landers: Several
days ago, my husband handed me
the section of the paper he was
reading at the breakfast table. “Do
you have faith in what Ann Landers
says?” he asked. I replied, “T cer-
tainly do.” He then said, “Ann says
in her column that men can have
breast cancer and that they should
examine themselves for lumps the
same way women do.”

I immediately sensed a problem
and asked. “Why are you bringing
this up?” He then t old me that he
had noticed a lump in his left breast
several weeks before but thought
nothing of it. Now he said, after.
reading that column, he was a bit
uneasy.

That very day, we went to our
family doctor together. After the
examination, I could tell by the doc-
tor’s face that he was concerned. A
biopsy was ordered and in nothing
flat my husband was in surgery. The
lump WAS cancerous, but thank
God, they got it all.

There are no words to thank you
for the service you performed by
printing that column. It is no exag-
geration to say that you are truly a
lifesaver. Thank you, dear Ann, and
God bless. — Mrs. G. in Cinci i

Al Cancer Ri (also

my husband and me and other like
us. Why don’t these girls realize
that it cost a birth mother nothing to
place her child with an adoption
agency? if she tells her minister or
school that she can’t keep

Ann
Landers

Syndicated
Columnist

known as Project Cure of Dothan,
Ala.), the Pacific West Cancer
Fund, the Nat Protec-
tion Fund, and the Social Security
Protection Bureau (also known as
Foxhall Corp, of Washington, DC).

Many people taken in are senior
citizens who live on a fixed income.
Yesterday I received an appeal for
funds from the National Cancer
Research Center in Washington,
D.C. At the bottom, it said, “A pro-
ject of the Walker Cancer Research
Institute.” Apparently, | the —
Institute is still >
that name in mind if you ‘should
Teceive an

Ann, you help a lot of people by
alerting your readers to this sort of
thing. Please Keep it up. — N.ELL.,
Houston

Dear Houston: Thank for the
input.

Dear Ann Landers: | read the
letter from “Longtime Reader on
the West Coast” whose brother's
wallet was stolen when he was
killed in a car accident. I'd like her
to know that this happens not only
to dead victims, but also to the ones
who survive.

In December 1986, my car was

Dear Ann Landers: In your col-

} umn dated Jan. 8, 1992, you listed
seven organizations that wee posing
as big-hearted charities when in

1 fact, they were spending only a tiny
| Percentage on the “cause.” The rest
went into their pockets. All of these
groups had contracts with Watson &
Hughey, a direct-mail firm that han-
died their mailings. The letter said
that one of these groups, The Walk-
' er Cancer Research Institute, was
! spending less than | percent of the
money raised on research. The

' remaining 9 percent went for
! “fund raising and administrative

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rear-ended on a secluded country
road by a pickup truck. The truck
ran a stop sign and pushed me off
the road onto a frozen com field. I
was airborne for a few seconds
before I landed against a telephone
pole and was knocked unconscious.

When I came to, I was in chock
and bleeding from the mouth and
nose. I crawled out of the car and
found that someone had stolen the
cowboy boots off my feet and taken
the leather coat right off my back.

I had to walk a mile in the cold,
barefoot and freezing, to the nearest
farm house where I called the
police. They rushed me to the hos-
pital and I received 40 stitches in
my mouth and lip. The police offi-
cer than handed me a $65 ticket for
reckless driving. — A Reader in
DePere, Wis.

Dear DePere: Talk about adding
insult to injury — your encounter is
a classic. Thank for sharing an
extraordinary experience.

Dear Ann Landers: I saw a
news story on TV that said residents
of a “nice” neighborhood had dis-
covered an hours-old baby in their
driveway, wrapped in a duffle bag.
Next to the infant was note saying,

“T'm sorry. I'm only 14 years old.

Ann, I want that young girl to
know that I'm sorry, too. Her baby
was another missed opportunity for

her child, she can be assured of help
in finding it a loving home.

Three years my husband and
I decided to have a family. We
assumed that we would have no
trouble. We were

We tried for 10 months and then
went to a fertility specialist. We
worked with her for another nine
months without success and were
then referred to a reproductive
endocri

My husband has tested
“normal” since the beginning. I
have been poked, prodded, pushed
and probed, have had injections and
laser treatment, and was finally told
I had endometriosis and polyceptic
ovarian disease.

Now we've been informed that
my insurance will no cover
infertility treatment, diagnosis or
drug. The next step is a drug that
will cost $8,000 with only a 45 per-
cent chance of success.

To the 14-year-old girl who
wrapped her child in the duffle bag:
Someone will want and need your
newborn. To the others who might
do something like this: Please don’t
jeopardize the health of your baby
by not placing it directly into the
hands of people who will help you
and know how to contact couples
like us.

I’m sorry about the circum-
stances that led that girl to give up
her child and equally sorry than I
can’t have that baby. — Infertile in

Dear Indianapolis: Thanks for a
letter that could change lives.

Dear Ann Landers: Please tell
us, what is a dysfunctional family?
my husband and I have been married
37 years and raised four children. I
thought we did a good job. We did
without many extras so our chil-
dren's needs would be met. They had
good clothes, new shoes, doctor and
dental appointments and plenty of
good books, along with a library
card. We had a large portable pool in
our yard so we always knew they
were within arm's reach, playing
with the neighbourhood children.We
didn't coddle our kids—they had
chores to do and we saw that they
did them. We were firm but loving
parents, attended PTA meetings and
took part in all their activities—
scouting, Little League, etc. My hus-
band and I never argued in front of
the kids and tried hard to be good
role models for them. Now my son’ "s

lor tells me he is
because he came from a dysfunction-
al family. What did we do wrong?—
Hurt Parents in Providence, RL

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Dear Ann Landers: I had to
write after reading the letter from
“Prustrated,” whose husband briefly
visited his widowed mother twice a
day. My mother once told me to
take notice of how a man treats his
mother because that is the way he
will treat me. She was right. My
mother-in-law was a widow when
my husband and I married. Three of
her four sons dies before reaching
age 40. My husband was the
strength of his family. He called his
mother four times every day—in the
morning to be sure she was up, at
noon teasing her about interrupting
her soap operas, in the evening
when he got home from the office
and just before bedtime to say good
night. Every Saturday my husband
did his mother’s grocery shopping
and took her to visit one of her three
daughters or just out for a ride.
When his mother died, the funeral
was on a Saturday. He insisted on
being one of the pallbearers, saying
he had driven his mother every Sat-
urday and that he was going to do it
one last time. My husband is the
strongest, most honorable person I
know. He treated his mother like a
queen, and that’s the way he treats
me. I love that man.—D.N., Speed-
way, Ind.

Dear D.N.: Sounds as if you have
areal gem, but not everyone agrees
with you. Read on:

Dear Ann Landers: The
“extraordinary attachment” of the
San Bernadino man to his mother is
not “sweet” .It is sick. By visiting
her twice a day, he keeps her depen-
dent. No wonder she has no other
life. She doesn’t need anyone but
him. It’s obvious that Mom is still
his primary bond. Until that
changes, his wife has a right to

that California woman whose hus-
band visits his mother every mom-
ing after breakfast—her whining
made me angry. Why is she so inse-
cure that she can’t appreciate her
husband for the loving son that he
is? Where is her compassion for this
lonely old woman who raised her
wonderful husband? Instead of
drawing “her-me” lines, she should
draw a “we” circle. Her husband

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current compilation of

the most peculiar
people do, edited by Chuck
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Proof that true stories are
weirder than made-up
stories.

—Bruce Damon, attempting to
work a plea bargain in February to
charges that he knocked off a bank
in Whitman, Mass., argued to the
judge that the 8-to-15 year term
suggested by the prosecutor was
way too long. First of all, Damon
said, when he robbed a bank in
1987, he only got 3-to-5. Second,
he said, citing an article from the
Brockton Enterprise newspaper, the
bank had enjoyed record earnings
despite the robbery and expected to
do well in 1992, also. Said Damon,
“I didn’t hurt this bank at all.”
When the judge asked Damon if he
would rob banks again if he were
free, Damon replied, “I'd like to
plead the Fifth Amendment on
that.” The judge refused to accept
the plea and scheduled Damon for
trial.

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would love her even more. Show
me a man who is loving and good to
his mother and I'll show you a
potentially wonderful husband.

Chicago: You said it was “sweet”
that a son stopped by his mother’s
home twice a day. I think he is a
wimp. The man actually has two
wives. If he will look in the Bible
he'll see that it instructs us to leave
father and mother and cleave to our
mate.

Dear Chicago: The Bible also
says, “Honor thy father and thy
mother.”

Read on:

Dallas: “Frustrated” didn’t men-
tion having any other problem with
her husband, so I assume that she is
happy except for the fact that he is a
faithful, devoted son. that nitwit
should get down on her knees and
thank God for giving her a a won-
derful and caring mate and ask God
to help her get over her jealousy. I
am 31 years old and have two sons.
My husband knows how much I
love my mother, and he has never
once complained about the time I
spend with her. I just hope that
when my boys grow up they will be
@ good to me as I try to be to MY
mother.

Dear Friend: Chances are good
that they will. The most effective
way to teach children is by exam-
ple, and you are setting a mighty
good one.

consumers by promising more
explicit sexual conversation that
they deliver: “Despite highly sug-
gestive titles and pictures of half-
naked women in many ads, “wrote
Consumer Action, ‘the services pro-
vided tame, non-sexual conversa-
tion.”

—This week April 26 to May 2
was Sky Awareness Week in Penn-
sylvania. The sponsoring legislator
said the week is intended to recog.
nize all that goes on in the sky,
including rain, wind, light, tempera-
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between phenomena i in the sky and
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HOROSCOPES

June 21-27

ARIES — March 21/April 20
A lack of concentration may mar
your performance at work this week,
and this state of affairs may not
show signs of changing until
Thursday or Friday. Your antics may
not be appreciated by your close
friends; try to be more sensitive.
TAURUS ~ April 21/May 21
There could be some pleasant sur
prises this weekend when some rela
tives come to visit you, and you may
be touched by their concern for your
well-being. Some ideas you have
been mulling over about brighten
ing up your home may come to
fruition this week. Any travel plans
you have are likely to turn out to be
successful
GEMINI - May 22/June 21
A little secret you've been trying to
keep to yourself leaks out this week
but you'll find that this actually
helps, because people will react
favorably to your plans, despite your
fears to the contrary. There's some
good news coming about travel
arrangements you've been making
CANCER - June 22/July 22
Don't worry if you find that you
begin this week on the wrong foot
You'll find people very understand
ing. But lear your lesson, and don’t
expect them to be patient next time!
You'll find life a bit hum-drum right
now, but things will brighten up
toward the end of the week.
LEO -— July 23/August 23
You'll be under a lot of pressure to
change a rather important plan in the
next few days, but there will be
plenty of help on hand to enable you
to cope with any complications. The
best advice for you is to handle
problems as they arise — and to
trust your own judgement. The
weekend will find you doing some.
thing out of the ordinary.
VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22
This looks like a good week for you!
You'll find that everything goes like
clockwork — especially in your daily
routine, where recent complications
may have made things rather hard to
deal with. Don’t be taken in by extrav.
agant promises that may be made to
you. Ask questions and consider the
possible long term effects. There are
going to be some surprise develop-
ments in store for you later.
LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23
You must try to take things easier
this week; you'll find there is plenty
of opportunity to relax, because your
social life is going to quiet down
after what has been a rather fast

moving time. There's some interest-
ing news this week coming by mail;
it may be the cause of a small cele-
bration this weekend.
SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22
There could be some friction be-
tween yourself and a colleague in
the next few days. Remember that
nothing is solved by ignoring a prob-
lem. There may be a bit of a row, but
it will clear the air. However, it is a
good time to team up with other peo-
ple on anything new you've been
thinking about
SAGITTARIUS — Nov 23/Dec 21
Whatever you do, don't be afraid to
take the initiative this week — you
should find that this sort of action
can pay handsome dividends! Avoid
all sorts of confrontations, though —
if you run up against difficulties, try
to find a way around them without
upsetting people
CAPRICORN -— Dec 22/Jan 20
Don't fall into the trap of taking
things too casually this week, or else
you may miss an important opportuni-
ty. Resist the temptation to put things
off, and get down to those routine lit-
tle matters straight away. You'll find
that there's plenty of time this week-
end to get involved in some outdoor
activity and meet new people.
AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18
You may get a special “tip-off”
about some rather disturbing
changes ahead, but try to put things
into perspective and don't worry
about them too much. It could all
tum out to be much less important
than it seemed at first. If you are sin-
gle, then you might now be taking
certain steps to change your status in
the near future

PISCES — Feb 19/March 20
This is going to be a light-hearted
time for you, so be ready and willing
to get into the swing of things social-
ly. You won't do much entertaining
yourself — but you might have a
problem keeping up with all of the
invitations you will receive. Don't
stay too long in company you don’t
really enjoy

YOUR BIRTHDAY THIS WEEK

The next 12 months:

You can accomplish a lot this year.
Just keep one thing in mind: Don’t
underestimate yourself. You're way
too hard on yourself. You should
also learn to be a little more sponta-
Neous; you seem to miss out on a lot
of fun. A long-term love will re-
enter your life, and this time it may
be for keeps! Get in touch with how
you really feel

Canadian Quiz-Cross
by Maureen Azimov

November by sitting on a
next to some campus horse statues
from midnight to 7 a.m. She said
she was fulfilling a wish she had as
a child to run away to Texas and
ride a horse while listening to
Richard Strauss’ “Der Rosenkava-
—Actress Melanie Griffith, 34,
telling an interviewer about how her
tole as a Jewish secretary during
World War II in the movie “Shining
Through” opened her eyes: “I didn’t
know that 6 million Jews were
killed. That's a lot of people.”
—Last year, a Buena Vista Pic-
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