Hearing test proves
glasses can help

DEAR ABBY: I recently felt a
lump in my breast. It doesn't really
hurt, but I know it’s there. I stand a
very good chance of having cancer
because my mother passed away five
years ago with breast cancer.

Right now, I'm trying to handle it
on my own, but I’m getting cross and
downright hateful with my husband
and children. I love them dearly. I
know this can’t go on forever.

I watched my mother die a very
slow and painful death, but just the
thought of going to a doctor scares
me. On the other hand, if I dogo toa
doctor and he says it's cancer, he
might have to remove my breast,
and ifhe does, I’m scared my husband
might not love me an; , or he

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afford such an expensive gift. The
rest of us pots barely making it from

might leave me
What should I do?
SCARED TO DEATH

DEAR SCARED: Do not wait
another minute! Call your doc-
tor. Tell him exactly what you
have told me, and make an ap-

tment to see him as soon as
possible. Early detection has
saved the lives of many with
cancer. Don’t think of
except getting to your doctor for

“My ciitces and I bought our
parents a set of dishes for their 50th.
We would have loved to send them to
Hawaii, but we knew they wouldn't
enjoy it knowing we would have to
take out a loan to pay for

I am more than a tittle resentful
that my parents got dishes while my
in-laws will get a trip to Hawaii. (My

parents are no less deserving.)

[have polled my friends and co-
workers from all levels of income,
and they oe that a trip to Hawaii

an
lami sorry you didn’t sign your
name, because I want very much
to talk to you. Please write again
after you’ve seen the doctor. I
want to stay in touch with you.

DEAR ABBY: After nearly 10
years of marriage, I told my husband
I was leaving. Before I even found a
place to move to, he kicked me out.
After I relocated, we started seeing
each other again, and within a week,
we were back where we started —
fighting.

They say there's a very fine line
between love and hate. I still don’t
know which side I'm on. I have filed
for divorce, but I feel lonely and hurt
He was fantastic in bed, and just the
thought of being intimate with an-
other man nauseates me. Also, why
risk AIDS for sex that may not be
any good?

‘Abby, after 10 years, I wouldn't
even know how to act on a date. I
can’t live with him, but I can't live
without him. Is this normal for
someone who has just split up, or do
I need help?

IN LIMBO IN TACOMA

DEAR IN LIMBO: Not being
able to live with or without
someone is an old refrain I hear
often. And the love/hate am-
bivalence is as old as the hii
Your feelings are normal —
you do need help. Get pro!
sional counseling. If money is a
problem for you, check with your
local YWCA and ask if they offer
free counseling.

DEAR ABBY: As parents of chil-
dren who are 35 and 44, it seems
awkward — even ridiculous — to
refer to them as “our child” or “our
children.”

In current usage, a “child” is a
very young person. In searching for
a more grown-up word for them, we
finally agreed on “chult” — a con-
traction of adult and child — or
“chults” for adult children

at do you (and your readers)

think?
OHIO PARENTS

DEAR PARENTS: I doubt if
“chult” would catch on. When

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excessive.

BURNED UP AND BROKE

DEAR BURNED UP: A trip to
Hawaii is not an excessive anni-
versary gift for people who can
afford it. However, one or two
members of a family have no
right to decide on any gift “from
all the children” without having
consulted all of them. And to have
told the parents before discuss-

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DEAR ABBY: My father sent for
your booklet “What Every Teen
Should Know,” and asked me to look
it over to see if it would be helpful to
my 12-year-old daughter. (She is his
granddaughter.)

I read the booklet and thought
that the way you approached all of
the subjects was just great. I decided
not just to hand her the booklet, but
toread it with her so we could discuss
it. Now she feels very comfortable

talking with me about all
that young girls wonder about, but
are afraid to bring up. It broke the
ice.

Now my daughter will always
come to me with questions because
she knows I will always be there to
listen to her and guide her. Thank
you from the bottom of my! feart for
caring about out young

ATEFUL AoMtoM IN
LYNN, MASS

DEAR GRATEFUL: I, too, am
grateful. Thanks, Mom; your
letter made my day.

DEAR ABBY: To those who are in
the habit of putting on their glasses
when they answer the telephone,
the following true story may shed
some light:

At the University of Mlinaia Medi

cal School, our
professor demonstrated a —
hearing test. He asked for a volun-
teer; Aaron Hilkevitch responded.
Hilkevitch sat down facing the
class in the amphitheater and his
glasses were taken away. The pro-
fessor approached him from the side
and whispered, “One, two, three.”
Hilkeviteh heouldn't hear. ‘So the pro-

your pring,
why not say “our son” or “our
daughter”?

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DEAR ABBY: My husband's par-
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They have already told their
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fessor ap d him again and
whispered, “One, two, three” a bit
louder. Again, Hilkevitch couldn't
hear. Then he blurted out, “Give me
my glasses 80 I can hear you better!”
This brought down the ; the
class roared with laughter.

Later, of course, we learned that

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the loss of a sense organ, other sen-
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person with impaired vision devel-

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VIRGO (August 23-
Septem! iber 22) Family out-
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15th and 16th. Get involved in

20-February 19) Romantic
opportunities are around you
on the 15th and 16th. Get out
and mingle if you want to take

and
a events that “youngsters
pursue on the 17th, 18th and
19th. You can stabilize your your po-
sition at work if you suggest
logical solutions to existing
problems to your boss on the
20th.and 21st.

LIBRA (September 23-
October 23) Your anger will
mount. if others accuse you of
having interests in more than
one person on the 15th and
16th. Words will fly on the do-
pon’ scene, cause disharmo-

age. The 17th, 18th and
19th secret involvements may
be your downfall, avoid attrac-
tions to married individuals or
co-workers. The 20th and 2fst
will be difficult from an emo-
tional point of view ih bn have
been

handle on the 15th and 16th.

17th, 18th and 19th if you just
listen to the conversations of
others. Hard work and over-
time on the 20th and 21st will

21-
June20) Disruptions at an

leading

PISCES Webranry 20-
March 20) Put your efforts in-
to work and avoid dealing with
personal problems on the 15th
and 16th. You can make contri-
butions that will enhance your

reputation on the 17th, {seh

ny an
on the 17th, 18th and 19th. You
can make amends or the nec-

and 19th, h make sure

I level are very possi-
ble on the 15th and 16th. Don't
let others push their opinions
or beliefs on you. The 17th,
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tate or sorting out existing
problems. Take the time on the
20th and 21st to gather all the

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st.

SAGITTARIUS (Novem-
ber 23-December 21) Travel
is your best bet on the 15th and
16th, after all you don't want to
be forced to face emotional con-
frontations. The 17th, 18th and
19th you can make profe

19) Travel for knowledge will
be quite informative on the
15th and 16th. Don't let col-
leagues know what your inten-
tions are on the 17th, 18th and

al changes that will | bring you
much greater earning poten-
tial. Face the facts regarding
your emotional life on the 20th
and 21st and ask a close friend
or relative for advice.
CAPRICORN (January

19th. Jeal: and under-
handedness is likely to inter-
fere if you are too open. The
20th and 21st will be favorable
for expanding your circle of
friends and allies.

TAURUS (April 20-May
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will be directly related to how
well you treat your mate on the
17th, 18th and 19th. Financial
limitations will surface if you
haven't put anything aside for
an emergency on the 20th and
21st.

LEO (July 23- August 22)
Don't let entertainment or chil-
dren cost you more than you
can afford on the 15th and
16th. You can make major
moves involving career or look
into starting your own busi-
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19th. Busi partnerships

40 YEARS AGO
From the Sept. 13, 1951
Castle News

Scientific experiments on
the Pacific Coast may result in
substantially reducing an ob-
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Dr. S. E. Maddi of the

15 YEARS AGO
From the Sept. 16, 1976
Castlegar News

The $2 million Castlegar
and District Arena and Com-
munity Centre was officially
opened Saturday afternoon
with a large number of area

British Columbia Research
Council said that research on
the oxidation of the “black
liquor” which comes from the
mills promises to remedy the
situation, at least in part.

Castlegar squadron Be
581, Royal Canadian
Cadets, i topein ll of Brita
Columbia, the commanding of-
ficer, F/O J. R. C. MacBain
learned here recently.
Receiving an efficiency rat-
ing of 96.05 per cent, the
squadron ranked first out of 37

Te taking the opportu-
nity to see the new facility first
hand.

Recreation and Conserva-
tion Minister and Deputy Pre-
mier of British Columbia
Grace McCarthy declared the
building officially open.

5 YEARS AGO
From the Sept. 14, 1986
Castlegar News

Castlegar District United
Way has asked its member
agencies not to canvass door-
to door to raise funds, Nona
Paulson, secretary-treasurer
of the local United Way said

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21st. Get your legal papers in
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