age 68 The Castlegar Sun Learning the true nature of addiction ,... Dear Ann Landers: This is for “A Phool in Philly,” the woman who had too much to drink, ended up in bed with a man she had just met and was filled with shame and remorse the following morning. ; She wants the man to know that she is not the type of | woman who normally goes for | One-night stands. Since he has } Mot contacted her since that {_might she asked you if she hould telephone him to meet her for a cocktail after work and ask for a second chance. You advised her to “go for it,” since she has nothing to lose. H Why didn’t you advise her to meet the young man after work { for a CUP OF COFFEE since it + tas that cocktail that got her | ipto the mess in the first place?— L.D., Faithful Fan in ham, N.Y. : Dear Faithful: You are abso- _lutely right. My brain must ! lave gone on vacation early | When I gave that dumb answer. | Thanks for hauling me up t short. ‘ i ' } t Dear Ann Landers: Thanks for printing Lyle Prouse’s letter about his recovery from alco- Please Recycle the Sun CASTLEGAR holism and his efforts to get a recovery program going while in prison. Prouse’s appeal for public outrage at the reluctance of prison officials to cooperate number of readers clip this col- umn and send it to the gover- nor of their state. Phone your public library for the name and address of your governor, folks. A bli of letters will in a recovery prog P' me to write. Prouse was responding to a letter from Lincoln Warkocz, an inmate in Florida who couldn't seem.to get any drug rehabilitation in prison. I, too, read the letter from Warkocz and thought that this Florida prisoner was just whining instead of taking advantage of recovery programs that surely must already be in place in Florida and everywhere else. Shame on all public officials who are responsible for run- ning our prisons. Locking peo- ple up and denying them access to drugs or alcohol does not, and never will, cure addiction. Addiction is a disease, just like diabetes or any other ill- ness. It is chronic and progres- sive, has no cure and can kill you. To recover from addiction requires a life-long effort. It takes courage and the continu- ing support of other recovering addicts in 1 2-step programs such as Alcoholics Anony- mous. To deny prisoners access to this kind of help is criminal. My eyes were opened to the true nature of addiction when my son began treatment six months ago. I still choke up when I drop him off at his 1 2- step meetings. He is only 17 and his courage at going into mostly adult meetings with total strangers amazes me. I’m not sure I could do it. So I say to prison officials everywhere: Get smart, get educated and get help to those inmates who want and need recovery programs. All they have is YOU, and you have the authority to establish these pro- grams. Every minute wasted is a life lost. — G.A. in Lithonia, Ga. Dear G.A.:' You've written a letter that is filled with’ good sense. I pray that prison offi- cials will pay attention, and they just might if a tremendous 3S 1% VETERINARY HOSPITAL Dr. Williams will be on vacation “ye Sat., August 1 - Sat. August 15 Se EEE GE attract some attention. Dear Ann Landers: I have been married to a good man for Ann Landers Syndicated Columnist seven years. He is a wonderful husband and father. The prob- lem? “Jake” has gained at least 50 pounds since we've been married and gets larger every year. He’s only 30 and comes from a family with a history of heart disease. A lusty sexual relationship inside marriage is important to me. I've told Jake his beer belly is a total turn-off, but he doesn’t get the message. I've suggested programs such as Weight Watchers, but he won't go. Ann, I want this marriage to work but it’s diffi- cult to live with someone you no longer want to have sex with. He refuses to come with me to a marriage counselor, saying it will make matters worse if we drag a stranger into it. Your old advice, “Are you better off with him or without him?” doesn’t seem to apply here. 1 DO want him — just skinnier. — T.R., Little Rock, Ark. Dear Little Rock: Nagging, threatening or withholding sex never works. You need outside intervention. Call his physician and insist that he lay down the law. (How’s his blood pressure, cholesterol, ticker, etc.?) Many obese males don’t understand that sex is much harder on the woman, and they need to be made aware of this. Dear Ann Landers: This problem is universal and has destroyed many relationships. I’m talking about children going into the family business. My brother, “Bart,” has taken over a store owned by my father, who is old enough to retire but wants to remain involved. He complains about Bart to family members and belittles him in front of cus- tomers and employees. Dad's theory is that since the business your area. Castlegar 365-6212 - Crawtord Bay 227-9231 - Creston 428-5357 - Grand Forks 442-3142 + Kaslo 353-2446 - Kelowna 860-2126 - Keremeos 499-5844 - Oliver 498-2474 Greenwood 445-6455 Osoyoos 495-2474 - Penticton 493-3818 - Seimo 357-9711 - South Slocan 359-7613 - Trail 368-9111 NOTICE TO ALL WEST KOOTENAY POWER CUSTOMERS West Kootenay Power employees represented by the IBEW are on strike. Management will do its best to maintain essential services for customers. Please call your local office to determine if there has been a change in services available or a change in normal office hours in You will continue to receive your power bills and we encourage you to use the postage paid return envelope. We thank you for your patience and cooperation during this difficult period. WEST KOOTENAY POWER has been successful for several years under HIS The Castlegar Sun On hot summer days add zest to your Barbecue with a cool Gazpacho Soup or an Bart should leave things as they are. Granted, some of Dad's criti- cism is warranted, Bart is often late in paying bills, and the creditors are constantly calling. He places orders for clients and frequently the items are not there on the date promised. He plans vacations and fails to notify others until the day before he leaves that they may need to work extra hours, To Bart's credit, he has good peo- ple skills and has come up with many great ideas even though Dad considers most of them “too risky.” I know Bart is disturbed by all the criticism, and I'd like to help him. Any suggestions? — Concemed in Fort Lauderdale Dear F.L.: The friction you describe is typical when mem- bers of a younger generation move into the family business. The old man wants to keep doing it his way because it worked for him, now the young man says, “Times have changed.” Both could be right. Bart sounds like a terrific idea man but he comes up short on detail. He would be wise to delegate the nuts and bolts. Compromise is the watch- word. I hope Bart has some- thing in writing about his succession to the throne. A i can be di to the health. Dear Ann Landers: I’m a 33-year-old, divorced mother of two children, 3 and 6. I’ve been dating a terrific man for nine months. We are very much in love and have decided to spend the rest of our lives together. “Harry is a widower and has a 1 6-year-old son at home and a married daughter. I get along great with Harry’s family—and enjoy being with them. The problem is that he avoids being around my children. He comes over after they’re in bed and leaves before they get up. On the rare occasions when he sees them, he is very critical. If they are tired or whiny, or if they defy authority, he becomes cold and withdrawn, which makes me uptight and snappy. I realize that we have different approaches to child rearing. Harry is very strict. I believe that leaming acceptable behav- ior takes time and patience and that children need to feel loved while they are learning. Harry admits that he’s not crazy about little kids and says it’s going to take some time for him to get used to them. I’m not sure 1°11 ever get them trained well enough to suit him, and I’m wondering if I should try. Any "advice? — Reconsidering in Tulsa Dear Tulsa: You are wise to reconsider. In fact, I strongly suggest that you put all plans for marriage on hold for a few years. I also suggest that you consider the possibility that your children could use a little more discipline, not for the sake of the relationship, but for THEIR sake. Good luck, Tulsa. I hope you are able to work this out. Love CAN be better the second time around. app ing salad. Top your meal off with a light and fluffy “cheese puff”. Easy Gazpacho 3 (840 gr) medium cucum bers, chopped 1 (100 gr) small red pep per, chi 1 (80 gr) small onion, cl The Hen Party 1 (60 gr) small stick cel ery, chopped 1 small chili, seeded, finely chopped 3 cups (750 ml) canned tomatoes 1 clove garlic, crushed 1/3 cup (83 ml) French dressing 1 cup (250 ml) water 2 Tbsp (30 ml) fresh parsley, chopped Salt and Pepper to taste 1. Put all ingredients into a blender or food processor and chop finely. - 2. Cover and refrigerate for several hours or overnight before serving. Serves 4-6. Layered Shrimp Salad 14 oz (400 gr) frozen or canned cooked shrimp 2 cups (500 ml) shredded lettuce 1/4 cup (50 ml) finely chopped green onion 1 cup (250 ml) thinly sliced celery 1 cup (250 ml) coarsely grated carrot 1 cup (250 ml) frozen peas 1/2 cup (125 ml) grated cheddar cheese Dressing: 2/3 cup (175 ml) natural yogurt 2 Tbsp (30 ml) mayonnaise 1 Tbsp (15 ml) lemon juice 2 tsp (10 ml) honey 1 Tbsp (15 ml) finely chopped chives 1/4 tsp (1 ml) dill weed 1/4 tsp (1 ml) parsely Thaw shrimp and drain well. In a glass bowl, layer lettuce, onion, celery, carrot, peas, shrimp, and cheese. Refrigerate for several hours. Combine r ining ingredi and serve with the salad. Makes 5 servings. OPTION: Dressing may be added to salad on top of peas, before the grated cheese, & refrigerate for sev eral hours if desired. Crunchy Pea Salad 2 cups (S00 ml) frozen peas (thawed and drained) fresh peas my be used 1 cup (250 ml) chopped celery 1/2 cup (125 ml) chopped onions, red or white 1 cup (250 ml) peanuts OPTION: 8 slices of bacon crisply cooked and crumbled or 1/4 cup (75 ml) bacon bits Dressing: 1/2 cup (125 ml) miracle whip dressing 1/4 cup (75 ml) zesty Italian dressing Combine all ingredients and serve. Serves 4-6 Fluffy Cheese Puffs Temperature: 400 F Cooking Time: 8 minutes 1/2 cup (125 ml) cream cheese cubed 1/2 cut (125 ml) butter 1/2 cup (125 ml) cheddar cheese cubed 3 egg whites 1 loaf unsliced white bread — crust removed 1. Microwave cil recse, butter and cheddar cheese on medium heat ¥ntil cheeses are melted. Blend well and cool to luke warm. Beat egg whites until stiff Fold into the cooled cheese mixture Cut bread into 2 inch cubes. Using a fork, swirl bread cubes in cheese mixture until bread is completely coated. Place on greased cookie sheet and refrigerate overnight. (or freeze and store in plastic bag) Bake at 400 F for approximately 8 minutes. The Hen Party is a group of Castlegar friends who meet on a regular basis and have many common interests includ- ing cooking. If you have any questions or comments you can write to them C/O The Castlegar Sun at 465 Columbia Avenue, Castlegar B.C., VIN 1G8. Or readers can telephone 365-7729 and ask for Kathy. Name. STANLEY HUMPHRIES SECONDARY SUMMER BASKETBALL CAMP Boys Camp August 10-15 Girls Camp August 17-21 “A deposit of $25. .00 must accompany registration form Cost: *90” Address Postal Code Grade (Sept./92) ‘Age (Aug. 1/92) T-Shirt Size. Make cheques payable to Room & Board Required Stanley Humphries Basketball Camp, and mail to SH Basketball Camp, 2325 Columbia Ave., Castlegar, B.C. V1N 2X3 CASTLBGAR, B.C. VIN 3K3 (604) 465-7616 Res 365-3253 n ¢- ws > 0 current compilation of the most peculiar things people do, edited by Chuck Shepherd. Proof that true stories are weirder than made-up stories. — In Denver in February, Manuel Bustos Silva, 42, went on trial on charges that he strangled his common- law wife, but Silva’s niece testified that he believed the wife had put a spell on him. The niece said Silva saw pubic hairs in his food, con- cluded the wife was doing “black magic” on him, and said “there was no way it could be stopped,” according to the niece, and “‘that he had (the wife) inside his head all the time.” — In a confession to police admitting that he started a February fire at Loyola College Prep school in Shreveport, La., Joseph Tuminello, 24, said he com- mitted the arson because the school had gone coed. ‘I was devastated,” he said. ** CREME DA LA WEIRD The Economist reported in April that researchers at the University of Newcastle in Australia believe that Indian yogis drink their early-morn- ing urine because it is rich in the sleep-produced hormone melatonin. 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After midweek, you may feel apprehensive about someone's presence, so when they suddenly leave town, you will feel relieved Your financial situation is looking brighter, and a salary increase looks promising SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 Other people will seem particularly cooperative this week, and you might be able to get a great deal more done at home than you thought was possible. Your love life is a bit dull at the moment, but give it time and things will change. This is a week to restrain your emotional impetus and divert it into work SAGITTARIUS — Nov 2¥Dec 21 All of a sudden, your social life may seem to have brightened up consid. erably, and you may be in almost continuous demand for both your company and knowledge. The only drawback will be that you'll have to choose your priorities carefully in order not to disappoint friends who are feeling a little slighted now. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 The rational side of your personality is dominant, and you should be able to be successful in ‘thinking through the petty problems that confront you be they financial, emotional or domestic. A misunderstanding con cerning love or friendship will even. tually work itself out AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 During the coming week, you'll find yourself dealing with legal paper work, perhaps concerning a member of your family or a close friend. This might disturb your routine and affect some travel arrangements. Although your financial situation looks quite reasonable right now, you should be careful, as there are suggestions of some unexpected expenses shortly. PISCES — Feb 19/March 20 Travel could be an important facet of your life this week, and a journey that turns out to be most enjoyable could mark a turning point in either the business or domestic sphere. 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