Ccé CASTLEGAR NEWS, Fobruary.4, 1981, es © 7 Ann Landers Dear Ann Landers: You printed the enclosed column a few years ago. It Hea my husband and me more . than | can say. Will you ptease’run it again for the benefit * of other: parents who feel like, fallures and are in.the depths of despair? Thank you.: : ae — Ohlo Fan oY , Dear Ohio: That particular column has been requested * almost more than any other. | am pleased to run It again. ere Is Ht: id al Dear Ann Landers: What wisdom, consgiatlon or edvice can you give parents in thelr 50s who have worked hard to achieve the American dream, loved their kids and tried to give them the best world ever? We are also the unhappiest. : . . ot Many of our children are on drugs, unemployed, drop-outs, migrants, drifters, angry with the world, hostile toward us and out-of-jolng with society. z How much and for how long shouid parents pay, in terms of self-recrimination, worry, disappointment and financlal support? How can we enjoy the years that are Jeft to us now that we have more money, fewer business pressures and are still in fairly good health? It's heart-breaking to see our kids maladjusted, disoriented and unable to cope. We can't help but feel _ that we are to blame. After all, they are our sons and daughters, We raised them. Where Is the cutoff line? Do you have any answers? 4 . - Meant Well Parents Dear Meant Well: To you and the thousands of other parents who are miserable because of “what you have done” to your children, {| say ‘this: Stop beating yourselves. You did the bast you could with the tools at | hand — Inexperience, clay feet, the works. No one knows why some children turn out to be champtons in spite of + parents who p! Pi little t Ish: ment, while other kids — loved, wanted, tenderly nurtured, with all the ‘so-called advantages — turn out hostite, l busin ESS GIRECTOR _ Telephone 365-5210. New insertions, cop changes and éallations for the’ Castlega : remain not at Directory "witlibo accepted before the tirst) wéd- | nesay Issue of each month only: : - = Dunwoody & Co. Chartered Accountants 410 Columbia Ave. Castlegar Ph. 365-2151 Len Folkman, B.Com.; CA. Resident Partner Br, “bobcat Services * Complete "+ Septic Tank Service * ‘Sand &, Gravel + % Topsoil * Excavating - * Post Holes * ie} i Soligo, Babcock’ Chartered as 605 Columbia Ave. Sette: Sastleger . Phone 365-7745 Henry John, B. Sc., C.A. Resident Partner and T have come to believe In the genetic factor that has been. Ignored by. many behavioral ‘‘experts.’’ We all inherit our nervous systems, and if the nervous system Is fragile, it places severe limitations on what a person can tolerate. Certain individuals are born survivors. They can withstand life’s harshest blows and emerge the stronger _ for it. Others crumble in the face of minor adversity. Thi game fre that melts butter can make steel.strong. F And let us not overtook personal responsipility. § ari sick of hearing children blame thelr parents for thelr =messed-up lives. People will all sorts of handicaps can dna DO make It in this demanding and competitive worl t constantly tall young people, ‘If you don’t like yourself the way yéu are, do something about it. Shape up! Others have done it and you can, too.” ~ If you are hooked on dope, there are drug abuse . senters and hot-lines with trained personnel, eager and ‘waiting to help. If you need counseling, seek out the. “mental health clinics. Self-help groups do a Seeusfor...- . APPLIANCE REPAIRS and Brand Name. Appliances * SPEED QUEEN * MAYTAG ° i * GENERAL ELECTRIC . CASTLEGAR .~ PLUMBING. & HEATING 1008 Columbia Avenue. Phone 365-3388" job — and they are’ free. Alateen, Recovery, Inc. and Pignity [for gays] — the Ilst is endless. 7 my Enotigh of this ‘You damaged me, now take care of me” nonsense: It’s a copout. Parental guilt laid on by our kids Is so thick you can cut It with a knife. It serves no except to perp and dependence and create a climate of gullt CASTLE TIRE (1977) Ltd... -SALES & SERVICE c ‘and ultimate fallure.. God. helps .those who help themselves. - ‘ Not newto Chinese 3-TORONTO (CP) — For those in the market for some tasty dried worms, there isa pharmacy in Toronto dispen- ing them. But the’ price ight be a stopper — $220 for a 160-gram (6'/-ounce) packet. ° {, James Gin; owner of Nam Pek Hong Chinese Herts Centre, an Oriental phav- . tacy that opened last Aug- ust, will sell the worms in‘ pmaller quantities. However, ether unusual delicacies that he sells as health remedies jnust be bought. whole, ~ v. How about dried Austral- ian deer tails? The hardened tails look like blackened baby beef tongues and cost $120 ach, -** . 3 Then there's wild Chinese ginseng root, long spindly shoots that cost: $590 an dunce. . . ! While calling the store a pharmacy may be misleading in Western terms, two non- licensed technicians dispense all kinds*of herbs, twigs, foots, powders, sea oddities and the wizened reproduc- . tive glands of tigers, seals and deer to infirm and ailing gustomers. Leas than one per cent of Gin’s customers are Cauca- sian. “~ Whether the herbs are ef- fective treatment is moot. Western medicine finds little faith in such traditional Ori- -ental treatments. . A "But the Chinese have been : les ae a” using herbal & Tire Specialists Passenger.and Off __._ Highway Tires WHEEL BALANCING . 24 . Hour Cire Service ‘ 1050 Columbia Avenue form of medicine ,for thou- sands of years, for every: ° thing ‘from headaches’ to © ulcers to infertility. Gin -has more: than 1,000 specialty hérbs to treat coni- mon complaints. 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