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FRED HARDY of marriage-p course. “Research has shown that.. people who take marriage-preparation courses tend to ask for help sooner than those who don't,” says Murray, a good-natured man who has been married 18 years. “They feel they are-able to deal better with the inevitable conflict because they've been given some information about what to expect when you try to put two lives together.” Murray runs about 14 sessions a year c: this P! for couples ing to be married in the Anglican Church. The course is designed around problem she sees most often in iages — marriage has broken down,” says Ed Bader, a family counsellor who runs such courses for the United Church. . Bader, along with family counsellor Robert Riddle” and psychologist Carole Sinclair, conducted a major study in the 1970s comparing couples who took marriage preparation courses with’ those who didn’t. say . The study found a divorce rate of five per cent among the couples who took a course, compared with 10 per cent among those who didn't. 2 __But most important, it showed that 38 per cent of the people who took a course went for some kind of counselling in the most difficult first five years of marriage, compared with just five per cent among the people who didn't take a course. Rev. Michael Smith, a Roman Catholic priest, started marriage encounter courses 14 years ago for married couples: who needed help adjusting. Then, Smith estimates, the divorce rate was about 15 per cent. But as the divorce rate more than doubled, Smith realized young people had to be better prepared for marriage and started an “engagement encounter” inability to icate, resolve conflicts or impact of different upbringings. He recommends taking marriage-preparation courses months ahead of the wedding — before the” invitations aré out and the wedding dress bought — because some people decide not to marry after the course. e __.-While church ministers have traditionall, d ‘About 50 couples a year go to the Queen of Apostles Renewal Centre in Mississauga, Ont., while hundreds of others go through evening courses also. run by the Catholic Church. ., Smith says he started the engagement encounter program nine years ago because “so many young people engaged couples informally before performing weddings, _ more churches are establishing formal group sessions that may take place during the evenings over a period of weeks, during weekends or at church retreats and conference centres. “I think you're going to see us move away more from about what to expect, he finds there is a greater determination not to be a divorce statistic. “People really don't know how to listen and talk to each 6ther,” Smith says. “If you can't talk, how are you going to deal with problems.” lunches popular WINNIPEG (CP) —-School children and . construction. pack workers aren't the only ones ; carrying their lunches. in- [MARRIAGE COURSES RECOMMENDED| | - Brown bag brown bags anymore. 5 Audrey Waldorf, director of nutrition and consumer ‘services for the Roman Meal Co., says about half the’ brown lunch bags carted out the door every i every day, whether it’s for the kids at school or parents .- at'work.) RTE Waldorf said some people brown bag it to save time so they can run errands or ex- ercise at lunch hour. s Others do it to save money. It's that i are carried by white-collar work- ers. ‘An estimated 50 to 60 per from eating out to homemade , « Tunches can save as much as $600 a year. _ Rent-A-Husband rates reasonable - VANCOUVER. (CP) — If your husband's not up to it, you can always use Paul. He’s Vancouver's first Rent-A-Husband and his rates, he-says, are reason- able. Paul —Hollingshed is a painter, carpenter, plumber. says he knows he has a lot of competition in the fix-it area and that's why he came up with the catchy name. only! Sos and general Mr. Fix-it. He_ stressful job as a stockbroker wasn't enjoyable. He has a word of caution to those who think his services might extend beyond fixing things: “They'll find out fast enough when I get to their homes that I do home repairs "Talk about overstuffed!"’ . .. 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Burnaby, B.C. V5SC 324. Ph. 365-5414 SHERIFF'S SALE. By virtue of a ships, author Nancy Friday stance. = yum uewAe6oQ do 090U ‘S.LHON oy) 014) owed oped fun ue ‘suo}eoUNW 4yO> jsomou ‘dnout) av ue 8 id 8 occ In my Home =~ we) =~ 0d) AN: NIG SIHL ‘SNDIN3E ABYD * HSNYE OIOVIN GD oc++ ‘ye OANDOVOP SUT svTvdO@ ydjopny, laWvilvAy Sa1aWV$ 334 uo 1 '20q ‘Aopinjos |s02p00199. ‘Ho op Kou OME @@ o vo yonw sunoo jooyas oul ay) 01 cowoD OyMeH ys 90:24 ‘BION @ dO1S INO YNOA JONVYNSNI JOHOD 80301A AHOIN AVOIUS © : 40601803 "100445 YIP > ZLL dOHS JONVANSNI 06 MIIM VSAVG XISNIdO ONVUNSNI IOHOO snB0yj80> "10015 YIP LZIL- ¥30NNO8 3H! © y '20q ‘Aopsoupam 0} YBnosyy gz ‘AON ‘Aopsunyy sung 8} @6NOY 8,830), yeond v soxew 060g, f HEALTH UNIT NOTICE Due to construction in the Health Unit Building, changes of location of services are to be noted. 1. Baby Clinic at Hospital Conference Room, Nov. 27, Dec. 5.& 12. . Foreign country travellers immun- izations or tubercular skin testing —_— Nelson or Trail Health Units. Regular clients at usual times. . Baby Weigh cancelled until the New Year. Writ of Seizure and Sale | will sell y secled te Is ani chattels of the defendant, R.J.K. Restaurant rs, says in her latest book. It took Friday five years to research and write Jealousy (Macmillan of Canada, =: $27.95), but she says it has turned her into a person who now can cope with jealousy ; because she understands it. y be obt by contacting the sheriff's office at he address below. Sealed en days of the date set Advances will be returned to the unsuccesstul bidders. Terms of Equipment sold where is as is. The highest or offer not of sale or as soon as practicable. Viewing of the items for sale by contacting it's office at the above r by phone at 354-6155. Deputy Sheriff 11. 2/94 “A lot of people say to me, ‘So what if I understand it? Then what?’ But understand- ing is everything,” she said. “Then you can make choices about how you're going to deal with it.” Friday says it is necessary to understand the difference between jealousy and envy, two emotions that are often mistaken for one another. Envy involves only two par- ties, while jealousy involves a triangle of some sort. You are envious of some- one who has something you -want. Jealousy happens CasNews Printing In most cases of jealousy, Friday says, the circumstan- ces are imagined. But there is a real reason for having the” feeling.- “Nine times out of 10, jeal- ous feelings are a result of a painful loss from your past,” she said. “If you were not the favored child in your family, for instance, and your sister or brother got the attention or love you wanted, later in life, when a triangle is set up again, you will be haunted by the feelings you had when you were very young. “There’s no way you can deny your early years affect _. your adult life. I believe what we had with our parents, what we had in that first re- lationship, determines our ability to love later in life — and the kinds of partners we choose.” SEEK CLUES Friday ‘says finding the clue to why you feel jealous is everything in learning how to beat it. think about it, if they had If, for instance, at a party good ‘enough mothering or a good enough relationship with their siblings. - “Then you have to tell yourself, when you see your mate talking to someone else, - why you are frozen by those jealous feelings. You have to realize your mate isn't your brother, or your mother, or whoever it was you felt you lost love to in your earliest years.” you see your mate talking to someone else, either you can join the conversation or you can ignore it and talk to someone else, to reassert your own confidence. Friday's others books in- clude My Mother, Myself, which explored the mother- FS eae AUTOMOTIVE __ DIRECTORY My Secret Garden and Forbid- den Flowers on female sexual fantasies and Men In Love about men's sexual fantasies. Girls lack confidence MONTREAL (CP) — To- day’s female students have just as much interest and ap- titude in~ the sciences as males but often lack confi- dence in their ability. A preliminary study of math classes in three regions in Quebec showed that even when girls have the same success as boys, they tend to attribute it to effort rather than capacity, and_perceive the sciences as i WANETA PLAZA TOYOTA Complete Car and Truck Repairs AUTO BODY & PAINTING Bear Crpek Road, Trail 364-2588 |=2 {\UTOMOTIVE SUPPLIES (=2)BUMPER TO BUMPER. 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