Page 10B The Castlegar Sun Wednesday, May 3, 1995 OBITUARY Pauline Romaine Pauline Romaine, 82, of Castlegar passed gway April 22, 1995 in Vancouver. Born Aug. 3; 1913 in Yorkton, Sask., she is survived by her lone husband, Pat; sons Pat My last few columns have been dealing with anger. Not a “ happy subject. (Though that would be hard to prove from all the laughter coming from my p on Anger last night) ofA . Mike (Shawn) of Vancouver and Dan (Shirley) of Grand Forks; 10 grandchildren; and sister Lola (Frank) Turik, A beloved person of utmost integrity, dedication and her kindness, thoughtfulness and love for family, friends, and flow- ers will be deeply missed and for- ever recollected. Cremation entrusted to First Memorial Funeral Services in Vancouver. A celebration of life service will be held at the Fireside Today I'd like us to look at two life-saving principles when deal- ing with anger. The first it knowing when to fight for one’s rights and when to walk away and say, “It's not a big deal.” Sound easy? This is the big question we face many times a day. If we never stand up for our- selves, if we settle for “peace at any cost”, the cost is too high. We sell ourselves. We give away our identity, our ideals, our opinions. aggressive ways. So we must learn to stand up for ourselves But, we must learn when it is important and when it's not worth our ener- gy and effort People who need to control others, cannot trust others to do what's right— whether it is driving down the road, or doing the vacuuming. I have heard many women complain that their mate doesn't help them clean the house, etc. The truth comes out that they will have to do it all myself!” Trust and letting go of control are a part of recognizing: “Is this a big deal? Will it really matter next week, next month, next year if the dishes aren't done a certain way?" I often sug- gest to people to make a big up the erroneous idea that we have to be perfect. We never say it, but we live it. If I make a mistake the world will end, the boss will fire me, my friends won't like me, and on and on. The perfectionist is a driven person. They are usually con- trolled by old messages from |. This is the way to be approved and loved. They are always angry people, even if they appear otherwise. Who wants to live under that Two valuable life-saving principles kind of hopeless burden? The most freeing day of my life was when I discovered I didn't have to be perfect. I could make mis- takes and because of that I could let others make mistakes too. We could all be human. I wish I could give that gift to all the perfectionists in the world What a different world we would have. Take it for yourself, laugh at yourself and forgive others when they don’t live up to our impossible expectations. Life is too short. Go for it! poster and put it on the refri tor to remind themselves, “Is this really a big deal?” If not, let it go, walk away, save the energy. You'll need it to make life great We hide ourselves away in a closet and no one ever gets to know the real us. In fact, we get angry and either hurt ourselves or hurt oth- ers in aggressive or passive- Motor Inn in Castlegar on May 7 at 3 p.m. In Liét of flowers, memorial gifts to Operation Dismantle, Box 3897, Station C, Toronto, K1Y 4MS would be appreciated. don't really allow them to help _and exciting. because they won't do it “right”. Control. The message comes across loud and clear, “I can, you can't. I yourself.” “FREEDOM, BOMBS, AND A BETTER Way...” Sulbenitied by: Pastor ‘lehn, R. Very few of us have been unaware of how the world has changed in the last few weeks. We have seen the many scenes of a damaged government building in Oklahoma and the victims being pulled out of the rubble by rescue workers. Even in Canada we are reminded that we are not safe from bombs and the acts of terrorists. These terrible events, and many other similar scenes, remind us that simply allowing people to have freedom to believe as they wish and do as they like without and accc bility is a very dangerous. Our laws, inner sense of morality, and out belief that we should simply tolerate each other and leave each other alone. Unfortunately we neglect the relationships of our community with such an attitude which results in tragedies that could have been avoided. or Hights, and. freedoms are.for more than ility.-for other peopl and ‘having other people stay Sut of our lives? If we don not want the government to be more Wiuff, Kinnaird Church of God involved in our personal world and regulating our behavior and thoughts, we must become more concerned about the lives of our neighbors and friends. Jesus Christ taught his disciples that the only really effective way to fight evil was with goodness. Thousands of people responded to the tragedy in Oklahoma with compassion and love. These expressions are the only way that the effects of an evil world can be truly answered and corrected. If you and your children have not heard the teachings of. Jesus Christ (God’s only Son), why not find a Bible based church in your community and begin to learn how His teachings can help you make your world a safer, kinder, and more loving place. You owe it to yourself, your family, and your community. We need a better way than the way we have chosen for ourselves. Jesus Christ said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life.” Jesus is that way,...that truth,...that life,...we need. The second major principle is not new. It is: “Learn to laugh at We can do this when we give KAREN KERKHOFF Sun Staff After almost three years, Renee Read is stepping down as Castlegar and District Chamber of Commerce manag- er, Read cited other pressing obligations as the reason for leaving. She will continue as manag- er until her position is filled. “T have other contracts and I have not been able to dedicate enough time to the chamber since January,” she said in an interview, Read, who is the chair of the Kootenay-Boundary Commu- nities for Sustainability Coali- tion, president of the Castlegar Selkirk Lions and owner of Read Ventures, said that although the chamber has been Read steps down as chamber manager Renee Read challenges. Read has recently accepted a job from West Arm Trucking in Ootischenia to act as a facili- tator between the company and area residents. Her mandate is to find a solution’ to ongoing a leaming expe: a she feels a need to “move on” “I Have enjoyed it, but it's time for a change. | need more ip from residents over noise emanating from the West Arm site on weekends and throughout the night MOODY CREEK ESTATES ADULT STRATA COMMUNITY FOR MANUFACTURED HOMES i Wednesday, May 3, 1995 _The Castlegar Sun Page 11B Friday marks 50 years Holland liberated since The memory is a treasurer to whom we must give funds if we would draw the assistance we need.—Nicholas Rowe: 1674- 1718 Friday, May 5, 1995 is a Special day for many Canadian service men and for Dutch citizens alike Designated as “Bevrijding Dag” (Liberation Day), it marks the 50th anniversary of the freeing of the Dutch people by the Canadian army from Ger- man occupation forces. In terms of the triumphant Allied drive on Berlin, it was, as the April edition of the Canadian Legion Magazine points out, an anticlimax to, the war in Europe—but not to the desperate and starving citizens of Holland, nor to the units of the First Canadian Army, including veterans from the bitter fighting in the Mediterranean campaign. It involved cruel hand-to-hand fighting in the endless hedges and swollen canals, while trying at the same time to avoid civilian casu- alties and to feed the thousands of Starving refugees. “When it was all over” says the Legion, “the Canadian soldiers were embraced by a population which knew all too well what the war had been fought for.” It was a remarkable expression of gratitude which continues unabated to this day and thou- sands of Canadian servicemen will be travelling to Holland at the beginning of May to re-expe- rience that gratitude One of these is a friend of mine, Jack Bedford, of Nelson Jack is a man of small stature but tremendous enthusiasm and a memory for details like sticky fly- paper. He: joined the, armynas a driver-mechanic #4 thedaivte Fusiliers, transferred to. .the Seaforth Highlanders (my regi- ment) and ended the war in the Canadian Scottish Regiment, all British Columbia units. As the driver for a number of senior officers, including the high est-ranking officer for the Canadi- an Women’s Auxiliary Corps (CWACS) during and after hostili tics, he probably holds the Canadi- an Army record for having driven the most miles in the most places in Europe His mem- ories of peo. ple, places OVER MY SHOULDER JOHN and events (many of which I also had recollec tions) from his enlistment on Vancouver Island, the convoy voyage to North Africa, the Mediterranean Campaign and the assault on Europe that followed (which I missed), is endless and he has CHARTERS the river, lined on either side by endless shipyards, forests of cranes, swarms of shipbuilders at work on every kind of vessel and the deafening roar of riveting guns and heavy machinery Ag we lined the rails to watch this amazing show, the hive of activity stopped, as if by magic, roar of the riveting guns aced with a wild roar of Scottish voices “Hurray, Canada”, and the waving of brawny arms and cloth caps Never before, or since, have I heard such a welcome, nor was it dimmed by the exhausting and sometimes deadly battle drill school which followed during Preparation for the Mediterranean’ Campaign We both travelled down the Atlantic coast, past Franco's Spain and through the Straits of Gilbral ter to Algiers in North Africa in readiness for the invasion of Sici- ly. But Jack's experience .on the ‘We had raced across the Atlantic with- out interference from the U-boats then sailed slowly up the river.’ written of many of his escapades in local newspapers under the nom de plume of the “Old Coot” and hopes to do more on his return from the festivities in Holland. It is amazing how sharing memories of someone else recalls to mind almost buried revollec ions of one’s own. Jack's cx peri ence of embarking on a dirty and overcrowded Greek troop ship at Greenock on the Clyde in Scot- land, heading for Algicrs and the invasion of Sicily, reminded me of the arrival of our troopship, the Queen Mary, at that same-port. y We had,=aped augaks the «, Atlantic withoytintertererice from the U-boats then sailed slowly up Greek tramp was still more din poor food and cramped quarters with the only relief from boredom being a constant lookout for enemy planes and submarines off the coast of Spain and watching the drills on the anti-aircraft: sun and depth charges launchings On the other hand. our