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Unselfish love calls for action

I realize that I.am three
weeks early but I see from the
stores and their advertising
that they are already trying to
focus our thoughts on Valen-
tines Day. And men, if you are
anything like me, you need a
few reminders before Feb. 14
to remember that it is some-
thing more than payday Fri-

ay.

I am afraid that is how it is
with so many of our special
dates in the year — commer-
cialism has made us. lazy in
our expressions of love in the
relationships that mean the
most to us. E

Love, as the Bible teaches,
is an unselfish action (I
Corinthians 13), and yes, Iuse
the word action purposely. Our
love must be shown in tangi-
ble ways and those things
must be done on a consistent.
basis so that our mates are af-
firmed and encouraged in our
love for them.

The word ‘love’ has become
so self-centered in relation-
ships, we are looking too much
for what we can get and not
enough for what we can give.

Pulpit &
Pew
Castlegar
Full
Gospel
Fellowship

Pastor StanBLOCK

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Consequently what started
out as a loving relationship
soon goes cold and people fall
out of love. Too often someone
has not chosen to express their
love in a concrete way.

We men are masters at this.
We assume too much — our
mates are not mind readers
and need to hear the words, “I
love you.”

Support those words once
in a while with a flower and a
handmade card, or say “I love
you” by hanging wallpaper in

the kitchen. Have you ever
tried turning off the hockey
game and saying, “honey lets
talk” or maybe just sitting
close on the couch holding her
without any ulterior motives,
if you know what I mean.

These are all actions of love
that will show your love ina
way she will understand. And
you know what? As you choose
to love, you will be-pleasantly
surprised at what you will re-
ceive in return. What have you
got to lose? Or maybe I should
ask, what have you got to
gain? Many times simple
things like these can heal a
strained relationship.

I challenge you to put your
love into action in the next
three weeks and I guarantee
that by the time Valentines
Day rolls around, you will tru-
ly have something of value to
celebrate.

oI will close with this Eph-
esians 5:25: “Husbands, love
your wives even as Christ al-
so loved the church and gave
himself for it.”

You want a challenge? Be
daring — love unselfishly.

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UNITY

@ Saturday, January 25, 1992

Remember WHEN

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40 YEARS AGO
From the Jan. 24, 1952
Castle News

At a regular dinner meeting
of the Castlegar District
Teachers Association, 34 as-
sembled teachers and guests
heard the guest speaker Mr. A.
T. Horswill, representing the
Village Commission, describe
Castlegar as the most progrés-

- sive of any community in B.C.

“Incorporated only five
years ago, we have a village
newspaper (The Castle News),
two banks, a water system, fire
brigade, a number of new
buildings and schools, street
lights, dial phone system,
more sidewalks and paved
streets per capita than any
community of similar size in
B.C., a public library, a license
bureau, part ownership in an
air field and a bank balance, to
boot.”
25 YEARS AGO
From the Jan. 26, 1967
Castlegar News
The $832,000 Selkirk Col-
lege operational budget, hand-
ed to: the six participating
school districts last week by

Seite as

Five years ago this week, Rocky Mi

jountain Bighorn Sheep, relocated to Deer Park in 1984, feed unde:

Pee ees

a trap net moments before the trip is set. Members of the Castlegar and Trail wildlife associations
trapped the sheep to tag and inspect the animals. :

the college council, is sufficient
to maintain the integrated lev-
el of programming launched at
the school in 1966 without any
curtailment.

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All phases of construction of
the Arrow dam are ahead of
schedule.

This was confirmed Tues-
day in the speech from the
throne read at the opening of
the B.C. legislature by Lt. Gov.

George Pearkes.
15 YEARS AGO
From the Jan. 27, 1977
Castlegar News
It is quite possible the City
of Nelson could be using the
landfill site used by the City of
Castlegar and areas I and J.
Correspondence to city
council from the regional
manger of the department of
environment to RDCK, which
recommends that considera-

tion be given to Ootischenia
refuse disposal site, bears out
this statement.
ees

Two men in their early 20s
made a bomb threat at the
Castlegar airport last Thurs-
day causing a police search
and some delay to flight pas-
sengers.

Castlegar RCMP have de-
‘scriptions of the men and the
vehicle in which they left the

airport. While the threat is
considered a hoax, police are
investigating further to dis-
courage future bomb scares.

5 YEARS AGO

From the Jan. 25, 1987
Castlegar News

According to almost every
family’s forklore, when father
was young he had to walk 10
miles (16 kilometres now) to
school each morning in snow
up to his neck. And on his first
job he was paid $1 an hour to
clear fields with his bare hands
—and he was thankful.

To make matters worse,
whenever a younger family
member complains about
wages, father starts telling his
story again. :

No more. The facts are in.
Dad was better paid — not dol-
lar for dollar but minute-for
minute.

It now takes a Castlegar
worker making an average of.
almost $10 per hour approxi-
mately 2.1 years longer to buy
ahome, car and groceries than
it took a Castlegar employee in

1949 making $1.20 per hour to
purchase the same things. °

Man wants to know when a woman is harassed

DEAR ABBY: If a man asks his
secretary out to dinner with the im-
plication that they will spend the
: together, is he then guilty of
sexual harassment?

Ifhe uses the exact same wording
to invite his wife out to dinner, is he
guilty of sexual harassment? If not,
does it mean that a woman loses a
part of her constitutional rights by
the very. act of getting married?

Ifthe wife says, “Not tonight, dear,
I have a headache,” and he persists,
can she have him arrested for rape?
I'm worried.

A MALE IN NEW MEXICO

DEAR NEW MEXICO MALE:
If a manasks his secretary out to
dinner with the implication that
they will spend the night to-
gether, he is not guilty of sexual
harassment unless the secretary
says “no” to spending the night,
and he uses his position of power
to persuade her to change her
mind. :

And whether the woman is a
wife or girlfriend, ifshe says “no,”
the answer should be NO. Being
married to.a person does not
entitle the mate to sexual favors.
Both parties must be willing, or
it’s no go.

Thesame holds true with “Not
tonight, dear, [havea headache.”
A woman does not even have to
have a headache. If she says “no”
because she doesn’t feel like it —
it’s still NO.

DEAR ABBY: My niece’s hus-
band, “Jim,” disciplines their 2-year-
old son, “Timmy,” in a manner that
troubles me.

On a recent restaurant outing,
when Timmy began to whine, Jim
reached over and twisted the boy’s
earlobe roughly.

Later, Timmy cried out, “Daddy,
stop pinching me!” Jim had pinched
Timmy’s leg under the table.

My niece doesn’t comment on any
of this, but I am concerned. I wonder
how Jim'treats the child when we
are not around.

I have heard that Jim’s father

was very cruel to him at times, and
I’m wondering if that’s the reason he

treats his son this way.
What, if anything, should we do?
WORRIED

DEAR WORRIED: You should
have a talk with your niece and
her husband about what you
have observed. Be open about
the fact that it’s obvious that
Jim’s patience is sometirmes
tried, and he impulsively resorts-
to physical means to discipline
Timmy. Mention the earlobe
twisting and pinching the child
under the table. Tell them there
are parenting classes available;
their pediatrician can recom-
mend the best.

That Jim’s father may have
physically abused him may have
some bearing on Jim’s abusing
his own son, but it doesn’t justify
it. Timmy. needs someone to in-
tervene on his behalf. The fact
that you are “worried” speaks
well for you. Please follow
through and see that Timmy’s
parents learn how to parent
properly.

DEAR ABBY: My siblings and I
—all married with families — went
“home” to spend Christmas with our
parents who live in a distant state.
Never again!

Our parents criticized our chil-
dren the entire time we were there.
For example:

Toour 14-year-old daughter: “You
really should lose some weight, dear
... you have such a pretty face.”

Toour 17-year-old son(astraight-
A student): “I wish you’d cut your
hair. You look like a hood.”

Tomy 21-year-old nephew: “Since
when do boys wear earrings? Or are
you a fruitcake?”

None of the kids want to go back
to visit their grandparents, and I
don’t blame them.

I understand from talking with
my friends that my parents are not
unique in their behavior. <

A word to the wise: Grandpar-
ents, if you want to see your grand-
children, please accept them as they

Advice

DEAR SONS AND DAUGH-
TERS: I am pleased to report
that your parents are in the mi-
nority. Most grandparents of this
generation are much more ac-
cepting of their grandchildren
than your parents. Don’t give
up; some grandparents are slow

* learners.

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DEAR ABBY: A reader asked,
“What should a bride-to-be do with
the shower and wedding gifts if the
wedding is called off at the last
minute?” (In this case, the groom
changed his mind.)

You replied, “The gifts should be
returned to the givers.”

My question: What in the world
does a person do with one piece of

-china, or a setting of sterling silver?

Not all stores will cheerfully refund
your money. In most cases, the re-
ceipt of the gift is kept only until the
gift is opened and the bride-to-be has
already accepted it. Without a re-
ceipt, it is virtually impossible to get
your money back. Then what?

Personally; I would prefer that
the jilted bride kept the gift, but she
shouldn’t have any more showers if
and when she’s engaged to be mar-

ried again.
A NONI-MOUSE

DEAR a I stand by my
original answer. Return the gifts.

are. Love is not’ genetic. It mustbe” The ‘giver will eventually find

earned — even by grandparents.
YOUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS

some use for it. If not as a gift for
another, then a gift to one’s self.

DEAR ABBY: Would you be so
kind as toremind your readers about
the United Nations Bill of Rights for
Children? The bill states that chil-
dren should have the following rights:

-—The right to affection, love and
understanding.

— The right to adequate nutri-
tion and medical care. -

— The right to free education.

— The right to full opportunity
for play and recreation.

— The right to a name and na-
tionality.

— The right to be among the first
to receive relief in times of disaster.

—The right to learn to be a useful
member of society and to develop
individual abilities.

— The right to be brought up ina
spirit of universal peace and brother/
sisterhood. us

— The right to enjoy these rights,
regardless of race, color, sex, reli-
gion, national or social origin.

This bill was adopted in 1989 by
the U.N. General Assembly after a
decade of discussion. It has been
signed by 109 countries and ratified
by 40. Unbelievable as it seems, the
United States has done neither!

Our nation, built on the concepts
of “life, liberty and the pursuit of
happiness,” should be leading the
world nations in the pursuit of their
goal of protecting our most valuable
resource, our children. The ratifica-
tion of this bill can only lead to a
better life for all of us.

Won’t you please ask your read-
ers to write their legislators, and

President Bush, and urge that this
be done?
BONNIE FENN SULLIVAN,
WATERFORD, CONN.

DEAR BONNIE: Since the fu-

ture of every nation rests with
the welfare of its children, it’s
mystifying that any country
would hesitate to sign the
Children’s Bill of Rights. And

idering the principles with
which most Americans were
raised, it’s surprising that the
United States does not top the
list of signatories.

DEAR ABBY: My 20-year-old son
is still wetting his bed every night.
He has seen a urologist and has tried
all the usual medications, but noth-
ing has worked. (He is a very sound
sleeper.)

I do not know where to go from
here. Has anyone else gone through
this who could give me some ideas on
what to try next? Please, Abby, my
son really needs some answers.

DESPERATE MOM

DEAR MOM: You don’t say
how longit’s been since yourson
saw a urologist, but he should
seek a second opinion from an-
other specialist.

If there is nothing physically
wrong, and your son’s only
probl is reprogr i his
sleeping habits, contact your
nearest Sears Roebuck store
about ordering its Wee Alert
B . The premise is simp]
An alarm will sound the moment

i e hes ascreen pl d-
under the bottom sheet, instantly
waking a sound sleeper. After a
very short time, the sleeper forms
the habit of waking up naturally
at the right hour of the night —
or .Se “wee” hours of the morn-
ing. Good luck.

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DEAR .READERS: If you are
raising children, please consider
this: All children live for today.
The future seems unreal to them.

The “I-want-it-now” attitude
is the hallmark of immaturity.
Train your children to save. If
they resent it, so what? When
they are older, they will appre-
ciate having a nest egg instead
of a goose egg. ~

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