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The Castlegar Sun

Wednesday,December 16, 1992

Parents should MAKE time for their children

Dear Ann Landers: May |

get involved in their children's lives.
We should not look to the schools as
acure-all for our children's problems.
Nor should we continue to throw fed-
eral and state money out the window
in an effort to change that which can
be changed only in the home,

What WILL make a difference is
spending time with our children. My
husband and I both work, and our
children attend day care, grade
school and high school. School is
only a small part of their lives. My
husband and I volunteer to be coach-
es, bus drivers, sponsors and
fundraisers. Parents, don't say, "I
don't have time." MAKE time.

Vow to spend 10 minutes a day
with each child. Talk about i
on his or her mind. Check their
homework. Praise grades and skills.
Read aloud. Provide interest and sup-
port for extracurricular programs,
drug awareness, ball games and
church activities. Ask your library to
sponsor free story hours for children
of all ages.

Our high school basketball team
helped coach a league for elementary
school students. Parents were called
on to keep score and officiate. The
big kids had a ball, and the little ones
now have excellent role models.

Only when we take responsibility
as parents will the school systems
change. - J.R., Hondo, Texas

Dear Texas: What a terrific letter -
- loaded with constructive sugges-
tions. The name of the game is
involvement. Parents who love their
children will find the time and ener-
gy to get involved, and it will be the
best investment they will ever make.
Trust me.

Dear Ann Landers: When you
raised the question as to whose job it
is to check the pockets of all gar-
ments before they go into the wash-
ing machine, I'm sure you started

I solved that problem once and for
all with my family, which consists of
@ busband, three sons and an absent-
minded 1 6-year-old daughter. I told
them, “Anything I find in the pockets
is mine.”

Within the first month, my hus-
band lost $40 to me. Two of the boys
had to give up their baseball cards
and buy them back. The oldest boy
was out a $10 bill and our daughter
had to surrender a lovely little gold
compact and an address book that
she had just received as a gift.

The best way to teach a lesson is
to let the "student" suffer a genuine
hardship. Preaching alone won't do
it. I hope you will publish my letter,
Ann. It could be the most important
thing some of your readers will leam
today. - The Voice of Experience in
Woodland Hills, Calif.

Dear Voice: That letter generated
a flood of responses, and nearly all of
them were from women. Keep read-
ing for more on this subject:

Dear Ann: Any person who fails
to check the pockets of all garments
before running the washing machine
is an idiot. A pen or a pencil, an all-
day sucker, a Hershey bar, marbles, a
ball and jacks, a hand mirror, a comb
or brush -- these are just a few items
that can wreck a machine. A big
repair bill is a dumb way to teach
family members a lesson. -- Pitts-

From Indianapolis: Sometimes
checking a husband's pockets or
examining things too closely before
they go into the wash will tell you
more than you want to know. The
lipstick on his handkerchiefs is what
led to our divorce. I wish I hadn't
seer it.

Staten Island: I don't mind at all
when my husband gets "forgetful." I
enjoy the treasure hunt. Once I found
a lump in his sock. I thought it was
another sock. Actually it was $36,
which, of course, I kept.

Mobile, Ala.: It pays to check
pockets carefully. One measly little
tissue can louse up the load, and it
will take you an hour to pick the

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darned lint off of the rest of the
clothes.

Eau Claire, Wis.: That letter about
going through pockets before tossing
stuff into the washing machine
brought back some priceless memo-
ries. When our son (now a surgeon)
was small, I was checking his little
overalls before putting them in the

Ann
Landers

Syndicated
Columnist

washer and lo and behold, I found a

gerbil that had been missing for two

days. It was almost dead but we

nursed it back to health. From then

on, all the kids were very careful

about what they put into the clothes
r.

Rochester Hills, Mich.: My hus-
band is a ~neatnik,” but he's also a
bit absent-minded. There is usually a
tissue, money or a dog biscuit hiding
somewhere in a pocket, but who
cares? If that's the worst thing he
ever does, I will be grateful.

What's with today's couples any-
way? Must they always be keeping
score to make sure one doesn't put
something over on the other? What-
ever became of pulling together? Too
nmch competitiveness can be deadly.
As you've said in your column, Ann,
“Don't sweat the small stuff.” It's a
good motto to live by.

Dear Roch: Thanks for a mature
overview. This may sound cory, but
in the end, doesn't it all come out in
the wash?

Dear Ann Landers: | am writing
about something that is really caus-
ing me grief. I plan to take your
advice because I know you'll provide
a sensible answer.

I'm a 28-year-old female, and my
boyfriend, "Ryan," is 25. We have
been seeing each other for five years
and living together for three. He says
he wants to spend thé rest of his life
with me and we are planning to be
married next summer.

Most of the wedding details have
been worked out -- the location, time,
guest list, etc. However, we are not
“officially” engaged. By this I mean
he has not actually asked me to

T have talked to Ryan about this
and he says we're "beyond that
point.” I would also like an engage-
ment ring -- nothing expensive, no
diamonds, just a symbol of our com-
mitment. He says he's against such a
traditional ritual.

Ryan really is a wonderful person.
He treats me well and tells me that he

= Depression

loves me. He says in his mind we are
already engaged. I realize that I could
buy myself a ring, but it would mean
a lot more if it came from him. Am I
being silly for wanting a proposal
and an engagement ring? -- Ringless
in PennsylvaniaDear Ringless:
You've stated that most of the wed-
ding details have already been
worked out -- time, place, guest list,
etc., which is pretty solid evidence
that Ryan intends to marry you. So
why are you now waiting for hith to
ask?

As for the ring, it would be lovely,
if only for the symbolism, but it's not
essential. And it certainly isn't worth
arguing about. Accept the fact that
you are a romantic and Ryan is not.
The only ring that matters is the plain
gold one that he places on your fin-
ger during the wedding ceremony.

Dear Ann Landers: I am one of
five children. Our mother passed
away seven years ago and Dad has
been living in the same home with a
housekeeper. Dad is doing well, but
soon he will be 92, and we have
started to'talk about what to do with
the possessions that he and Mom
accumulated over a lifetime.

My brothers and sisters all own
their own homes, and all but one sis-
ter live in this state. Most of us are
well off financially. The problem is,
how do we divide the contents of
Dad's house? My brother's wife has
already asked for a painting she's
always admired. My older sister has
said on several occasions that she
wants the wing-back chair, even
though I also would like it. One of
my Sisters received jewelry from my
mother before she died and the other
two sisters did not. Needless to say,
the list goes on and on, and what's
worse, some of the better items have
already started to appear in my sib-
lings’ homes.

How can we be fair about this? I
think the wives and husbands of the
siblings should not be involved or
should get only token items. Should
we number the valuable items and
draw lots? Should we select accord-
ing to age?

T hope you can come up with an
amicable solution. I don't want the
family to come apart over this. --
Faithful Reader in New York

Dear New York: Does your dad
have a lawyer? I think-he'd better
step in and say, "Nothing goes out of
this house as long as your father is
alive.”

After your father dies, the children
(no spouses) should be permitted to
select the items they want, with the
eldest getting the first pick (one item
only) and so on down the line.
There's nothing like dividing an
inheritance to bring out the worst
(and best) in people.

Continued from 3B

of being blue at the same time
each year. Other symptoms
include: low energy, having trou-
bles sleeping, waking up very
early, poor appetite or bingeing,
headaches, and a loss of interest
in things that normally bring you
enjoyment.

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Contrary to what many may
believe, the winter blahs happen
less with increasing age. This
means that younger people tend
to be affected by Seasonal Affec-
tive Disorder more often than
older people

Dr. Watson pointed out, “All of
the seniors who migrate to Flori-
da and Arizona for the winter
aren't necessarily the people who
would benefit the most from the
sunny weather.”

Winter depression can usually
be treated with intense light ther-
apy administered daily. Medica-
tions may also be prescribed to
help control this condition.

“People shouldn't just try to
diagnose and treat themselves.
It’s always best to talk to your
family physician if you think you
are suffering from depression,”
emphasized Dr. Watson. “He or
she can help decide the best
course of action to take.”

Dr. Watson and her colleagues
in the Department of Psychiatry
at Vancouver General Hospital
treat approximately 100 patients
each year for depression with a
seasonal variation.

They also provide services to
hundreds of people with other
psychiatric disorders each year,
offer community outreach, and
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Satisfy your sweet tooth
and delight your family and

friends by making these Cooking
devastatingly delicious

deserts for your holiday yis* (Mon
entertaining. Forget the

calories and enjoy!
The Hen b

Pineapple Fluff Cake

2 cups flour

1 cup sugar

1 tsp. salt

1 tsp baking powder
1/2 tsp baking soda
1/2 cup shortening

1 cup orange juice

2 eggs

1. Combine all ingredients in

a large bowl. Blend at low speed until moistened.

2. Beat three minutes at medium speed. Pour into a
greased 11x15 pan.

3. Bake 25 to 30 minutes in 325 F oven. Let cool.

(PS. If you are in a rush, a cake mix can be used instead.)

Filling

8 oz. softened cream cheese

1/2 cup milk

6 oz. pkg. instant vanilla pudding

14 oz. can crushed pineapple, very well drained
1 1/2 cups whipping cream

1/2 cup icing sugar

1. Blend cream cheese with 1/2 cup milk.

2. Prepare pudding using 1/2 cup less milk than package
directions call for and reserving lheaping teaspoon of
dry pudding powder.

3. Mix cream cheese mixture into pudding mixture.
Spread on cake.

4. Whip cream, icing sugar and tsp. of reserved pudding
powder until stiff. Fold pineapple into cream.

5. Spread cream mixture over filling.

Topping

1 1/2 tbsp. butter

3 tbsp. brown sugar
pinch of salt

3/4 cup flaked almonds

Heat butter and sugar until melted. Add salt and
almonds. Simmer until lightly browned. Cool. Break into
fairly small pieces and sprinkle on top of the whipped
cream. Chill.

Pistachio Delight

First Layer
._1 cup-flour
1/2 cup butter or margarine
2 tbsp. sugar
1/2 cup ground almonds
Mix all ingredients together and press into a 9x13 pan.
Bake for 15 minutes at 350 F. Cool.

Second Layer

8 oz. cream cheese

2/3 cup icing sugar

10 oz. Cool Whip

Beat cream cheese and icing sugar together. Fold into
Cool Whip. Spread on Ist layer.

Third Layer

2 pkgs. Pistachio instant pudding

2 1/2 cups milk

Beat pudding and milk together. Spread on second layer.

Fourth Layer

1/2 pint of whipping cream, whipped

3/4 cup of crushed almonds, lightly roasted

Spread whipped cream on top of third layer. Sprinkle
with the crushed almonds. Chill.

Lola's Lemon Delight

1 1/2 cups crushed graham wafers
1 1/2 cups white sugar

1/2 cup lemon juice

1 litre whipping cream

6 eggs, separated

1/2 tsp. salt

yellow food coloring (optional)

1. Spread 1/2 of the crumbs in the bottom of 10" spring
form pan.

2. Combine sugar, salt, and lemon juice in a bowl.

3. Whip cream in large bowl.

4. Separate eggs and beat yolks into the sugar and lemon
juice mixture.

5. Beat egg whites until stiff. Fold lemon juice mixture
and egg whites into the whipped cream.

6. Add food coloring if you wish a more lemony color.
Spread into the spring form pan on top of the crumbs.

7. Freeze until firm. Serve with a strawberry, chocolate or
lemon sauce.(Makes 10-12 servings.) This dessert should
be eaten shortly after being taken out of the freezer
before it softens too much.

The Hen Party is a group of Castlegar friends who meet
on a regular basis and have many common interests includ-
ing cooking. If you have any questions or comments you
can write to them C/O The Castelgar Sun at 465 Columbia
Avenue, Castlegar, B.C., V1N 1G8. Or readers can tele-
Phone 365-7729 and ask for Kathy.

Wednesday,December 16, 1992

The Castlegar Sun

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current compilation of

the most peculiar’
people do, edited by Chuck
Shepherd.

Proof that true stories are
weirder than made-up
stories.

-- In April, New York City coun-
cilman Fred Cerullo called for an
investigation into the city's exam
for firefighters. In order to improve
scores, the exam gives partial credit
for wrong answers on the multiple-
choice questions.

-- In May, because of a misun-
derstanding about an earlier court
order, a county court clerk in
Tavares, Fla., authorized sheriff's
deputies to carry out a second
repossession order against James
Scarmardo's ex-girlfriend. Included
in the second order, which suppos-
edly was to recover items Scarmar-
do had bought for the woman and
which thus were his property, were
12 pairs of , which were
described in sufficient detail that
deputies thought the ones the
woman was wearing at the time
were included. She removed them
in another room and handed them to
deputies.

— An April issue of the Gaston,
N.C., Gazette, featuring local “Peo-
plé Who Made It" (artists, teachers,
business leaders, athletes, etc.),
included Virgil Griffin for his
prominence in the state Ku Klux
Klan.

-- Gary Blantz, 29, was arrested
for kidnapping a bar owner near
Lancaster, Pa., in February. Police
reported later that Blantz shot him-
self in the foot with his .45- caliber
revolver to show the victim what
would happen to him if he were dis-
obedient.

-- Volleyball player Wu Dan of
China was barred from the
olympics in August after testing
positive for strychnine. Said an
Olympics medical spokes person,
"She said she took it as a tonic
because she felt tired.”

-- The U.S. Army reported in
July that twice in the past seven
months at Fort Campbell, Ky., peo-
ple had broken into warehouses and
stolen almost 1,500 of the much-
maligned "Meals Ready to Eat”
rations.

WEIRD WEAPONS

-- Kenner, La., police arrested
Lavalle Williams, 20, in July and
charged him with robbing a conve-
nience store, armed only with a can
of off! insect repellent, which he
sprayed into the face of the clerk
before snatching $50 from the cash
register and fleeing.

~ In May, in retaliation for hav-
ing just received several traffic cita-
tions, Ydsia D. Weinstein allegedly
assaulted Glenville, N.Y., patrolman
Michael Lamb by hitting his cruiser
with a cheesecake.

-- Jail officials in Winnipeg,
Canada, turned down inmate James
Skinner's request in July to keep a
Funk and Wagnall's Canadian Col-
lege Dictionary in his cell, saying
that a book that large could be used
as a weapon. Said Skinner, “I can
have as many dirty books as I want,
but I can't have a dictionary."

THE WEIRDO
AMERICAN COMMUNITY
Inmate Jesse Loden, 48, filed a
lawsuit in federal court in August
against the Illinois Department of
ions, charging it with stifling
his religious freedom by preventing
him from ordering books on voodoo

HOROSCOPES

Dec 13-19

ARIES — March 21/April 20
It's not like you to. worry too much
about finances when there are
more important matters — like fun
— at hand, But money and materi-
al possessions appear to be on your
mind at the moment. Maybe you're
finding that you are having to pay
too much for what you consider to
be of little value.

TAURUS ~ April 21/May 21
The holiday festivities and prepara-
tions will probably take up @ great
deal of your time this week. You'll
find yourself in a happy and gener-
ous mood. Just beware of over-
spending. If you're married, this
week could bring you a great suc-
cess. Your partner has some good
news to.cele' with you!
GEMINI - May 22/June 21
The holiday season is probably your
favorite time of year. You love tradi-
tions, and most likely are lookin,
forward to the ones you share wi
family and friends every year. This
week will be somewhat hectic, but
you will accomplish everything you
set out to do. A letter from a distant
relative puts you in a good mood.
CANCER ~ June 22/July 22
You appear to be on the move this
week. A trip to another town is quite
likely. A relative may need your help
with some perplexing matter. You
will give very good advice. Someone
celebrating an anniversary could ask
you to join in the fun. You are in for
a good time.

LEO - July 23/August 23
Keep tight control on your spend-
ing this week. Be especially careful
if there are things you want to buy
for decorating your home. During

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will most likely turn to planning for
the holidays. You will be the life of
the party this weekend.

VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22

An invitation to stay at someone
else’s home seems likely. Do accept;
it would be good for you to get away.
You need to relax and forget all your
worries. With a little fun, your out-
look on life will become fresh and
renewed. There will be good news
concerning financial matters.
LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23
Everything seems to be going your
way lately. There’s a lot for you to
look forward to, and your energy
level is at an all-time high. A strange
twist of fate really works out in your
favor. Just make sure that in all your
joyfulness, you don’t get caught up
in a spending spree! ,

SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22

If you don't slow down your ex-
tremely busy , you will become
seriously run f sey bo only what you
have to, and save the rest for later.
Take some time out to enjoy the sim-
ple things in life. A little R & R will

It would be advisable to go it alone,
as the help promised by a friend wili
not be forthcoming. You will make a
new acquaintance, probably around
the 18th, with whom you have a lot
in common. This could be linked
with a mutual friend from the past.
A Leo of the opposite sex is interest-
ed in you. Lying to spare someone's
feelings may get you in more trouble
than you think.

CAPRICORN -— Dec 22/Jan 20
Try to be more appreciative of the
efforts of loved ones. Your tendency
to take others for granted may cause
some problems in a valuable rela-
tionship, Make sure you make your
feelings known. A project you've
been working on is turning out to be
much more rewarding than you had

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puts in a good word for you.
AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18
Someone could be pressing you to
take on some extra responsibilities.
Don't be too hasty to accept their
proposals — you have enough to
take care of at the moment. Your
social schedule is also somewhat
hectic. Don't accept invitations if
you know you can’t attend. An old
friend will come to you for advice.
PISCES — Feb 19/March 20
This week may start off on a fairly
quiet note but will almost certainly
become more lively as the days pass
— and you will take a leading pat
in all that is going on. Keep a firm
control of cash and try not to be
tempted into spending on luxuries.
You will receive a surprise visit from
an old friend.

YOUR BIRTHDAY THIS WEEK
The next 12 months:
If you feel that your birthday always
takes the back seat to holiday festivi-
ties, take heart. This year you will be
in for a pleasant surprise. The year
starts off well and keeps getting bet-

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