_ ___ The Castlegar Sun __ Wednesday, May 26, 1993 Manners, responsibilities and Wednesday, May 26, 1993 The Castlegar Sun Page 7B AUTOMOBILE INJURIES CAN LAST A LIFETIME. It you have been injured or suffered a loss resulting from an automobile accident, we can help. We've been protecting your rights for over 70 years. Your claim will be handled by a personal injury lawyer experienced in fatal accidents; brain injuries; whiplash and soft tissue injuries; and fractures. For your convenience, we will meet with you at your home or off e Robert E. Ross — serving the Kootenays — 8 The Law Firm of DAVIDSON & __COMPANY Vernon, B.C. Toll Free 1-800-667-1939 Free Initial Consultation 632 ‘a tradition of trust honesty never go out of style Most Canadians over the age of 50 grew up with a “work thie The term is rarely used today since Canadians no longer seem to feel the need to be defined through the work they fo. Now, success is often mea sured by how little one does. The epitome of having it all is-to be z nothing, or better yet, ) live off the efforts of others, now a generational inheritance Lessons taaght by my parents had to do with morals, duties and responsibilities. “Honesty is the best policy!” we were told. We were required to’ Own up to our mistakes and, further, to prove we would do better in the future. A reputation for lying was never forgotten, and sometimes reputa tions were never salvaged. This existed long before there was television of “mass media”. Now we have young thugs in gangs, to whom lies are expedient, learned from adults on and off the televi sion screens, and not challenged in their homes Some form of seen dk religious instruction used to be a normal part of every child's week, Life consisted of rules. Rules outlined homework, study and passing grades, and free times, if permit ted, Now children’ are not ¢xam- Elma Maund ined, and rules are guidelines to be flouted. Orange traffic signals no longer signify “stop!”, but rather, “hurry up and speed through the intersection before the light changes!". {Like the young man yesterday in the TransAm)} Part of every day was set aside for “study”, either devoted to homework or lessons, such as voice, piano or ballet. We were encouraged in group activities such as scouts or guides to achieve personal growth through competition, We had to get along with friends, because they were needed for some cru role in a game tomorrow. Games were so designed to “learn” other lessons, such as proper conduct, not just when losing, but when winning too, This was once called “sports- manship”, before John McEnroe and Don Cherry Most of us were exposed to classical music, art, theatre, and history in some form, so that we learned an appreciation for classi- cal performance. Though we screamed over the Beatles, we recognized that performances can have many guises, and we did not confuse performances with reali- ty. Today we have murder mim- ics. Travelling antiquities were made available to even a small rural school. I remember han- dling an ancient wooden plate, imagining I could discern bits of food still stuck in the splits and cracks, and thinking, with awe, that someone, centuries before, plate! Now, our children find everything, and nothing, awe some. Along with the less: were given duties. Because my parents ran a large produce farm, duties were an integral part of my day. {No concession was given because I am female}. I had to strip down and lubricate my first bicycle, thus demonstrating responsibility for its repair and maintenance, Because metal rusts, bicycles were never left outdoors, unforgotten in the driveway or to become hazards on the street. My first car came with mechanics lessons from my dad, who was not a mechanic. I learned how things worked, what made wheels go around, and why and when parts would break or wear out.. Today, kids take their parent's credit cards to the ser- vice station. Now, what lessons are they learning there? On top of duties, we all: had responsibilities. We were respon- ST. PETER LUTHERAN Reverend Glen Backus 713 - 4th St., Castlegar 365-3664 ALL WELCOME! Sunday School ¢10;15 am Worship * 9:00 am —|_ KINNAIRD CHURCH OF GOD Ifa L. Johnson, B.Th (Pastor) 2404 Columbia Ave. Castiegar BC, VIN 2X5 Pastor 365-6762 Church 365-5300 SUNDAY. CHURCH SC MORNING W' ‘WEDNESDAY: ADULT BIBLE STUDY 7 THURSDAY: CHILDRENS CLUB 6. “WITH FAITH ST. DAVID'S ANGLICAN CHURCH 614 Christina Place SUNDAY SERVICES 8:00 am - Holy Communian, 8.A.S., Traditional 10:00 am Family Eucharist and Church School The Rev. Dorothy Barker - Phone: 365-2271 TO KNOW CHRIST AND TO MAKE HIM KNOWN Calvary Baptist Church GRACE : The Presbyterian KC Church - Canada ‘pe wae PRESBYTERIAN 9:45 am _ Morning Worship 11:00 am Evening Service | Need a ride to church? 6:30 pm |___ Call 365-2438 Rev. Murray Garvin 1-226-7540 365-2438 Pastor Bob Marsh 365-3430 - Church 809 Merry Creek Rd Castlegar A Bible Based, Spirit Filled, Family Church PAW H FEEL OWSHIP 2329 6th Ave., Castlegar * 365-5818 had actually eaten from that very See SEASONS 7B The Rev. Dorothy Barker St. David's Anglican Church Who is God? Who is Jesus? Who am I? These are the basic questions of the Christian Faith. How do I find the answers to these questions? I have two cats. Some people have met or heard me speak of my two cats, Barney, the fat three-legged one, and Beckey, the little gray neurotic one. They are great fun to watch when they play together. They have their own ways of communicating with each other and me through body movements and their peculiar cat sounds But I doubt if the questions I have just asked are of any importance to them. They could not be imagined or frarned because animals are of a different nature, a different order of being than humans. They do not have language as we do When Helen Keller, born deaf, mute and blind, made her connection between the word ‘water’ and the cold substance flowing from the pump across her hand, she ceased to be like a little animal, trapped in the prison of her deaf, mute and sightless body and became‘a being capable of human growth and comprehension. She writes in her autobiography that living word awakened my soul, gave it light and life and joy, set it free Language for the same reason can be desc ribed as the oldest human activity. We use words not only to communicate our thoughts and our feelings, but to formulate them as well. Language allows us to interpret and organize the world that we experience through our sense and instincts and feelings, and gives structure and meaning to what would otherwise be a jumble of impressions. It gives us light and joy and ‘freedom On the other hand, language also limits the thinking of the speakers to ideas they can express in the language with which they are familiar. We simply cannot enter into the culture of others if we don not know their language, its nuances and its subtleties. Language is symbol. A symbol is that which enables us to see through the symbol to a deeper reality. If 1 could paraphrase a familiar term that some of us learned’in church school that "A sacrament is an outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual grace" to "Language is an outward and audible and visible sign of our inward spiritual, mental and emotional being.” This coming Sunday is what we call in the church Pentecost Pentecost simply means fifty, and the word is used for the event that occurred fifty days after Easter at the time of the Jewish festival of the ingathering of the harvest, The followers of Jesus, who until this time had been silent about their life with Jesus are gathered together in a house to wait and pray. The new day begins with an eruption of sounds from heaven and wind. And they begin to speak. Language, the power of speech, the first human activity is the first gift of God, the Holy Spirit. Now these followers of Jesus move outside where a crowd has gathered and they bégin to speak of God, of God's power and action in Jesus the Christ, and each one heard them speaking in his own language. They hear the story and respond to it out of their own context, their own life experience So it must be with us. We each have our own “language”, our own framework of understanding and hearing. Never before in human history has this been so true. At the same time as we live in the context of mass media and instant so- called communication, our lives and work have also become so intensely specialized, that many people live and work and think in a kind of jargon that is incomprehensible to others. We need only to consider the "generation gap”, or try to get some lawyers, doctors, or computer buffs to speak what to you is "plain English". CASTLEGAR UNITED CHURCH 2224 - 6th Ave., Castlegar Ph. 365-8337 Minister: The Rev. Ann Pollock 10:00 am SUNDAY WORSHIP & CHURCH SCHOOL CASTLEGAR FULL GOSPEL FELLOWSHIP 1801 Connors Rd. WEEXLY SCHEDULE Sunday Sunday School 9:45 am Moming Worship 10:45 am Evening Fellowship 6:30 pm We too can hear the Spirit speaking in our own language, out of our own context. If we are open to the possibility and willing, we too can hear the voice of God where we are, in terms of language and categories; carpenters and electricians, professional people and homemakers, business people and whoever. The physicist recognizes the power of God at work in the stars and planets, the electrician recognizés the power of God in the power of electricity, parents recognize the power, the love and they mystery of God in their feelings for their children. ined If you're HURTING remember GOD CARES Join us at NEW LIFE ASSEMBLY 602 - 7th St. * 365-5212 Where is this language and speech for you? Is there an area of your life that does not, if you seek it, speak of the power and presence of God? Sometimes we too are like little helen Keller trapped in and unseeing, silent SUNDAY SERVICES: « $15 Super Church Sunday School * 10:30am Morning Worship Rible Study & Prayer 7:00 pm Kinderchurch | Nursery available for the children Pastors Stuart & Lionor Laurie i LADIES - Attend Victorious Women '93 LADIES CONFERENCE Saturday, May 29, 9 am - 3 pm for info call 365-5818 ° SUNDAY WORSHIP - 10:30 am Hear special speaker Helen Burns co paster of Victory Christian Center in Vancouver. You'll be blessed! Youth Activities 7:00 pm A loving, caring church invites your participation. You ar welcome here! Pastor Stan Block 365-6317 * 6:30 pm Evening Celebration MIDWEEK ACTIVITIES ¢ Wed. 6:30 pm Support Groups / Pioneer Club Adult Bible Classes ¢ Fri. 6:30 - Friday Night Alive Pastoral Staff: Rankin McGougan & Rick Popoff world. "Lord pour out your spirit’ like cold water across the hand of a little deaf and blind girl, like wind and fire on those who first experienced the power of the spirit for the spread: of the good news of Jesus, the Christ Keeping up with the Jones's can get you down Now that I am back into my fitness program, things are look ing brighter. My mood and step is lighter and my outlook is more positive. I've been through this so. many times before, it amazes me why. it takes so long to get back on track. There's definitely a little rebel in me This morning I realized that there is always something that will crop up to interfere with all my good intentions. This time it's a four day long weekend trip to visit telatives. Now, I know that after four days “off” of my routine, I will start to feel lethargic, guilty, etc. And have you ever tried to diet while vis. iting relatives? Fat chance! (pun) Oh, I suppose I could sub- Stitute my routine for other activities such as a long walk etc. But both of our families love to sit around and “talk”. It would somehow seem inappro- priate to announce that I am going on my merry stroll now, especially given the fact we do not get to Visit very often. How are my excuses sounding so far? Then of course there's the money for travelling. Just to wander to Edmonton and back, non-stop express, will cost us close to $200 in fuel. While we can surely pack a lunch for at least one of the meals, we will need to “put out” some green stuff for breakfast or lunch Those of you with kids know that a trip to McDonalds or Dairy Queen is no cheap experi- ence. And of course having a four month ‘old baby “tagging along” depicts that we must be QUICK about these stops Therefore, pizza, one of our cheaper alternatives, is out of = Seasons — Continued from 6B sible fot younger children, for pets and for each other. We were told we were responsible for their comfort, their enjoyment and for their safety. Woe betide us if we failed in our duties Punishment would be the loss of something we valued, a treat, an allowance, or privileges for the Saturday matinee. Children today are not even responsible for their mess in their own homes, and allowance is now a right ° Some adults, who never learned lessons as parents, have less parenting skills. They are ill-equipped to teach, so they expect teachers to do it all, starting at kindergarten, when it is already too late. Although” many parents have abandoned the reward system for work well done, there are still some who are striving to build char acter in their children. You can tell immediately when you first talk to the children! These par- ents deserve all the support they can get! Engagement Cardoso-Turta Mr. and Mrs. Armando Car doso of Castlegar, B.C. are happy to announce the engage ment and forthcoming marriage of their daughter, Lucia Maria to Garrett Dean, son of Mr. and Mrs. Erest Turta of Castlegar, B.C..The marriage will take place on July 3, 1993 at 1:00 p.m. at St. Rita's Catholic Church in Castlegar. We Install BUILT-IN VACUUM SYSTEMS + NO Bags to buy + NO Filters to clean + 4.1 peak horse power + 140" water lift + 10-year motor warranty $ COMPLETE WITH HAND TOOLS (Other models available) 365-5087 the question. Unless of course we stop in the middle of nowhere on the highway to order a half hour before we get there. Hmmm. Did we budget for this? Well, actually, yes we did, thank Heavens. A couple of years ago, we wouldn't have. Wisdom is UFESKILIS for the young, old and willing Brenda Scatterty creeping into these old bones Recently we've been dis cussing the possibility of a sum. mer holiday Nothing extravagant you understand, maybe camping? We are not luxurious campers and are will- ing to “rough it” totally, even in a tent (EGAD!), so it was quite discouraging -when the. estimat- ed cost for this small excursion turned out to be quite substan- tial. We could find no camp- ground that didn’t charge sizable “rent”. Still we will embark on this journey from the sheer need to “get away” as cheaply as possible How many people budget for a summer holiday? Almost everyone takes it in one form or another. In all the clients I have counselled with budgeting, debt reduction and control, not one had a budget in place for sum- mer holidays. When I ask “why not”, they inform me that there is not enough income on a monthly basis to “put away” a designated amount sufficient to cover a decent “break”. The irony of this is, THEY WILL DO IT ANYWAY. True some people use income tax returns or holiday pay to finance these “getaways”. Do any of you get holiday pay, and wages too? Hmmm. Many more people use their credit cards and defer payment of whatever they can in order to take these holidays. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am NOT sug- gesting that we shouldn't take holidays. On the contrary the first priority in budgeting is to “pay yourself first” in whatever form that may take for the indi- vidual. Financial goals and pri- orities must be set with a healthy lifestyle balance in mind. Never ‘having a holiday is bound to lead down the road to depression and exhaustion. So what's the answer? Unfor- tunately many people are in no position to change all of this overnight. But it’s imperative that a proper budget be put_into place. It may seem a lot of work, indeed it is, but necessary in order to attain one’s goals without sacrificing in areas that cannot be afforded Very few of us, especially while raising a family, have the luxury of “spending whatever we want’ and not having to count pennies. It is a reality that we must all face. Society today has: set such high starfdards of living that keeping up with the Jone’s is just not appropriate or possible any longer. So give yourself a break, sit down and “face up”. It’s rarely as “bad” or hopeless as we perceive and it's a wonderful feeling to know you're taking care of yourself [var] macs Permasteel Over 40 Years of Service METAL BUILDINGS One of our building consultants will be in your area this month CONSIDERING A CONSTRUCTION PROJECT Call collect to arrange your meeting 946-7745 Fax 946-7785 Arthritis Telephone Support for parents the parents of children with a rheumatic disease “Group meetings can be a very effective method of support for families”, says Jacquie Martin, a social worker at The Arthritis Society, and co-ordinator of the pilot program. “But with 50% of our Children’s Program partici pants living outside the Lower Mainland, they're just not feasi Submitted As of May 10th, parents of children with a rheumatic disease will be able to call a toll-free number from anywhere in B.C and the Yukon and talk to some one who knows what they're going through The Parent Telephone Support " Network, funded by donations to ble.” The Arthritis Society, will oper ate Mondays from 3:00 p.m 7:00 p.m.. The line will be staffed by trained volunteers, themselves Obituary 7 . Theresa Crowe Theresa Crowe passed away on the 13th of May 1993, in the Kootenay Lake District Hospital, Nelson. She is mourned by her son Michael and his family of Castlegar, by brothers Allan, John and Fred of Salmo; Paul, Lawrence and his wife Sandra of Castle gar plus many nieces and nephews. A sincere thank you and appreciation is conveyed to the many people who gave her help and consolation during her long period of suffering and to those who honoured her by attending the funer al services. Theresa was born at Leask, Sask., in 1931. She came to the Kootenay area with her family in 1945 and went to school in Salmo. For some time she worked in the local restaurant industry before becoming a cook for the oil rigs in Northern BC., Alberta, and the Yukon Territory. She then settled in Slocan City and was employed by the Slocan Community Hospital in New Denver until herdeath. She is fondly remembered'by many. Volunteers will offer emotional support to parents of children with rheumatic diseases, as well as assist in locating ¢ommunity ~resources and gaining access to the healthcare system. There are over 500 families involved in The Arthritis Soci- ety’s Children’s Program”, says Martin, “The sipport line will benefit not only them, but also those who may not know there is help available.” In the Lower Mainland, call 879-7511, local 437 or 301 outside the Lower Mainland, and in the Yukon, call 1-800-667-2847 Sell it quick - in the Sun classifieds _ Call 365-7848 DINING LOUNGE Open 4 p.m. Dally 365-3294 Located 1 mile South of Weigh Scales, Ootischenia. Celgar, Westar and Cominco vouchers accepted IT YOURSELF “Add Fun to Your Yard with a Flamingo & His Friends With lawn ornaments being as popular as ever, this spring, we are featuring four new models that you can add to your collection of animated garden figures This foursome includes the now famous flamingo, a good, a delightful duck and a plump little pig. Keeping with our tradition of easy-to- make projects, this group of lawn figures is made simply enough from a, half sheet of 3/4. inch exterior grade plywood with each figure standing between 1 1/4 and 1 1/2 feet tall Like all our character cut-outs, this adorable grouping needs only to be traced from our full- every plan size pattern directly on to your wood. Saw out the figures, sand them and then paint according to the color key which is included on For a gaggle of geese or a flock of flamingos, use the pattern to make a wooden template Then, use the template to make dozens of critters in cookie cutter fashion for both family and friends. A simple stake attached to the back of each figure makes it easy to stand them in the yard To begin these four yard ornaments, ask for patter No. 804 and send $8 (please add $3 for postage and 77 cents for the G.S.T.) by cheque or money order made payable to: U- Bild, c/o The Castlegar Sun, Box 160 Cote St. Luc, Montreal, Quebec, HAV 2Y3. Decorate your yard also with cut- outs for a deer, rabbit, lamb, cat, dog and, of course, their adorable keeper, a little dutch girl, by following our most popular pattern, No. C-14. It too is $11.77. Popular also this time of year are our thematic planters including our cow planter (Pattern No 825) and our donkey cart planter (No. 748). 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