he Castlegar Sun WEDNESDAY, November 29, 1995

Ann
Landers

Syndicated
Columnist

Dear Ann Landers: The
pressure of five years of try-
ing to conceive a child
turned our once-happy mar-
riage into a battleground.
The tension was so thick you
could cut it with a knife

After several major
squabbles, “Mack” and I
decided we needed some
time apart to sort things
out, We agreed to separate
vacations, and that’s when
it happened. I had a tempo-
rary lapse of judgment on
my solo vacation and
engaged in a three-night
affair with a man nine years
younger than me. Although
he used protection, some-
thing must have gone wrong
because I became pregnant

Mack and I reconciled
briefly when I returned, but
we separated again when I
found out I was expecting.
We discussed getting back
together and raising the
child (which he knows is
not his), but I am afraid
since our marriage was so
shaky before, the stress of
parenthood would be over-
whelming for him and even-
tually we would divorce
anyway. I love Mack, but
we have been in counseling
for two years, and our rela-
tionsi.., isn’t one bit better.

Do I have an obligation to
tell my vacation partner that
I am pregnant with his
child? He is,only 21, and I
am trying to convince
myself that I would be
doing him a favor if I kept
my mouth shut and avoided
complicating his life. I am
financially able to raise the
child on my own (even
without my husband's sup-
port), but I believe a baby
deserves a father. If my hus-
band and I don't reconcile,
should I expect this young
man to assume paternal
responsibility or go it on my
own? — M. in Los Angeles

Dear M.: The first thing
you must do is establish the
child’s paternity. There is
an outside chance that it
could be your husband's.

If it turns out that the 21-
year-old is the baby’s
father, you must tell him.
He may appreciate being let
completely off the hook,
but then again, he just
might want to be part of the
child's life. In any event,
you must give him that
option. Good luck.

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