CASTLEGAR NEWS, August 12, 1981 Separate vacations becoming popular TORONTO (CP) - When it comes to marriage, too much togetherness can be a bad thing. So say Jack and Anna Cowan of Toronto, happily married for 60 years and firm believers in solo vacations, a form of travel that is becom- ing more and more popular among married couples. “[ don't believe in this thing you hear at weddings from rabbis and ministers that now the two of you become one,” Jack Cowan says, sounding sten, “I think success in a marriage means each one maintains their in- dividuality. “To do that you have to get away from each other once in a while. You come back and you have something to talk about. Otherwise it gets boring.” Although the Cowans, both 81, have been taking sep- arate vacations for years, travel agents say solo holi- days have only recently been accepted by married couples. NO LONGER SCORNED seriously of divorce but we often thought of murder,” laughs Jack Cowan. Eva Klein, apsychiatrist at the Clarke Institute of Psy- chiatry, says separate vaca- tions “can be a very refresh- ing thing. . . as long as the person who's travelling doesn’t have a hidden agend, such as having an aiiuir.” Toronto psychiatrist Frank Sommers agrees: “No good comes out of dragging one's unwilling partner along on something just because the social context is that couples should do things together.” But while separate vaca- tions are becoming more accepted, some couples say jealous friends snicker behind their backs. ‘PEOPLE UPTIGHT’ “People get very uptight,” says Steve, a 31-year-old who has taken several trips with- out his wife of seven years. “They see you as wanting to get away from your wife. . . I think they fee) threatened by it.” gi 59, who Gareth Davies, director of the Alliance of has _ travelled without her husband hout four con- Canadian Travel A says people who holiday without their spouses no longer face the scorn they would have 20 years ago. As well, the planning of vacations together, in an age when many wives work out- side the home, can be com- plicated. Couples who take separate vacations say it is important for partners to escape the frustrations and dis- i th: tinents during their 86 years of marriage, says lots of women would like to be in her shoes. “Man women envy me and they think its lovely but they don't want to make this break.” Still, Sommers says he'd be suspicious of couples who never spent vacation time together. “That might be symptom- atic of 1 in the rela- at ily come with living together. “We have never thought tionship | that they don’t want to deal with. (Wedding Bells / Congratulations of Mr. and Mrs. Ronald Konkin, who were married Aug. 8 at Fraser View Assembly in Vancouver. The bride, Tina, is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Mario Anglicola of Vancouver and the groom is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Peter Konkin of Fruitvale. . . . Congratulations and best wishes to Mr. and Mrs. Patrick Samuel Farrell, who were married Aug. 8 at the Trail Alliance Church. The bride, Patricia Louise, is the youngest daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John Ganzert and the groom is the only son of Mrs. Grace Farrell and the late P] Farrell. /Erma €) Bombeck « 1 don’t know how people who have no children have a time frame for anything. How do they remember the year they bought the freezer? Made the last payment on the storm win- dows? Visited their cousins in Richmond? 1 don’t remember the names of my kids, but | remember how big they were when we bought the camper and how old they were when | joined a book club. Maybe it’s because kids have a way of making an indeliable impression on you with everything they do. All | know is, my sister-in-law (who has five children) and I carry on some interesting conversations. S-I-L: Do you remember the year you came to Florida and we fed the alligators frozen bread? Me: Of course | remember. Me: There's not two and a half years because you sent me the maternity clothes after you gave birth andi was just two months. S-I-L: You went into maternity clothes at two mon- ths? Me: | went into maternity clothes at two weeks. S-I-L: The Florida room wasn’t finished then because that’s the year Patty went into braces. Me: Wait a minute. We had just bought the Plymouth wagon because one of the kids threw up in it and we threatened to leave him in that store where they sell pralines. S-I-L: You couldn't have, because Bill chipped his front tooth on the dashboard of that Plymouth and they were his second ones so he had to have been eight or nine. Me: Wait a minute. My daughter was old enough to dial a phone because she called the dentist, remem- ber? S-I-L: She couldn’t have. That was the year she went to camp and got stung by bees and you had to drive all the way home to New York. Me: We never lived in New York. S-I-L: Are you sure? Then w are you preiending you fed the alligators frozen bread? That was my other sister-in-law. Her baby is the same age as yours. Me: So the’s the one who got the neat maternity clothes. Better without men KIRBY-IN-ASHFIELD, England (CP) - Ellen Boyall celebrated her 103rd_birth- day recently and told staff the secret of her long life. No men. She says she has never been interested in marriage and did not bother with boy- friends during her Victorian youth. She walks without the help of a cane and needs glasses only for reading, does not smoke but enjoys an occasional glass of sherry. SUPER SPECIALS CARPET DEPARTMENT Rubber backs — for the do-it-yourselfer CANDYSTRIPE $595 An all-nyion multicolor stripe — DAYDREAM — $a95 ideal-for bedroom, rumpus room .... A 2-level loop, all sq. yd. nylon (2 colors only) ........---+-. SUPERNOVA $7 g°° see sq. yd. $1 995 eee sq. yd. 100% nylon, 2-level loop and 13° sheared texture, 3 colors, only...... 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FURNITURE WAREHOUSE AT CHINA GREEK By Galina Vromen JERUSALEM (AP) — “Just before you pull the trigger you think: What the hell am I doing here?” said Nativa Ben-Yehuda, “You see the guy you're going to kill and he seems almost like a relative. He's part of you.” And afterward? After- ward, you can’t forget but you stop being afraid. And later, when the war ends, it’s hard to get used te sleeping without a gum next to your Dressed in a purple shirt, denim skirt and iolet bed- room slippers, Ben-Yehuda, 58, recalled the days before Israeli independence when, as a demolition expert and eutenant in the Jewish na- tion's fledgling army, the Palmach, she waged guerrilla warfare against Arabs in the northern Galilee region. Then she wore an ARab kaffiyeh, the headdress {p- vored today by Yasser Ara- fat, and ished her Her memories of war Achuda, whose blond hair, now streaked with grey, hints at her Eat European origins, “If someone told you: So- and-so can stand in the sun like an Arab, it was meant as a compliment.” BOOK DESCRIBES WAR The enemy, too were Arabs, who tried to squash the Jewish state at its birth in 1948, In Calendar — 1948, her hook recently nublished , in Hebrew, Ben-Yehuda des- cribes the ultimately success- ful but often bumbling war the Palmach waged against the Arabs. . Being a woman in the army wasn't easy. “The men tended to blame the mistakes on the women. Some had a grudge against me beeause I. was a com- manding officer, and took it much harder when, as their commander, I ridiculed and shattered them for discip- line.” cigarettes with her bare feet — like'an Arab. “We really emulated the Arabs,” rememberd Ben- many of them from abroad, have courted her for support of legislation that would allow women to serve as combat soldiers. But Allergies from paper products Severe contact dermatitis can result from handling var- ious paper products com- monly used in offices, says a report in the Journal of th Americal Medical Associa- tion. The allergic reaction can involve rashes, itching and swelling says the report by Dr. James Marks of Pen- nsylvania State University. Marks focuses on the case of a 21-year-old office worker who suffered a recurrent al- lergic reaction for more than a year before copy Ben-Yehuda won't go along. “Why take away the con- venient option women. have of staying out of war? For the time being, men are the slaves in that area. There isn't equality, so why should I want equal rights to go off to war?’ MAKE GOOD SOLDIERS She remains . convinced, however, that women can make excellent combat sol- diers, “They aren't showofls in combat. Maybe it's bi- ological, maybe it's environ- mental, it doesn’t matter, but the fact is they pull fewer stupid, boastful stunts that waste lives in war." aoe Israel's army, despite the image of such forerunners as Ben-Yehuda, does not put women in fighting jobs. They are drafted at 18 just like the men, but it was only a few years ago that women broke out of the “suitable” jobs like secretary and nurse. Now some are aircraft mechanits or instructors in the tank corps, but they are not in front-line positions. Adjusting to civilian life after her discharge in 1949 was difficult, Ben-Yehuda re- called. © An arm injury prevented her return to athletics, which had occupied her time before the Palmach. When a govern- ment employment official found her carving tiny fig- urines from pencils, out of paper was identified as the source of the problem. Marks notes that allergic reactions have been reported for carbon paper, photocopy- ing paper and other com- monly used paper products, Paper is rarely recognized as a potential cause of derma- titis, he says. “Ag was the problem with this patient and previously reported cases, the derma- titis initially may not be perceived to be caused by paper.” ie scholarship that let her study sculpture. In 1951, she travelled to England and began what might have been a successful career. But on the eve of her major show, she decided sculpture wasn’t for her. When she returned to Is- rael in 1954 she studied com- munications and settled into a civil-service job editing a magazine for government workers. But sitting in her office and UDORN THANI, THAI- LAND (AP) — When they call Jim Gustafson the pig man he takes it as a com- pliment. The 36-year-old mission- ary in a remote area of northeast Thailand earned his nickname from a small group of admiring pig far- mers, men who now are able to support themselves and their families with a measure of independence and dignity. A few years ago’ they weren't farmers at all. They were what sociolog- ists call the “landless poor,” eking out a bare living doing odd jobs for local landowners, and viewed as lazy and worth- less even by low-income farmers in the region. That was before Jim Gustafson revved up his pig bank with the aid of a grant from World Relief, the international relief and devleopment arm of the - National Association of Evangelicals. . Stending on a narrow wad:way in a maze of pig- pens occupied by more than 100 healthy porkers and their young, he time din of oinks aid ueals, CAPITAL NEEDED “In Thailand poor people shouted above the feeding: : don’t usually raise pigs,” he exlained. “It's a rich man’s occupation, because you need capital to feed the pigs until you can sell them. That’s why most economic development schemes in this country have failed to help the really poor, who have no capital at all. “But the pig bank is different. We provide ev- erything — pigs, feed, medicine and advice — un- ‘til the owner starts to make a profit from selling the pigs at market. Then, gradually, he begins buy- ing pigs from us and pay- ing us a part of his earn- ings.” 1 The pig bank also earns money. from’ an. ingenious ecosystem Gustafson has established. on the prop- erty. Just down the road from the pigpens is an enormous rice mill, which processes rice for local farmers. Bran pcoduced during the mill- ing is used as pig feed, the pig manure is used as feed j fora, flock of egg-laying ducks living on a adjacent pond, the duck droppings feed the fish raised in the pond, and the duck eggs and fish are sold at market. RAISED IN EAST Gustafson was raised in Jim Gustafson, pig man| Southeast Asia by mis- sionary parents. He has degrees in history, anthro- pology and divinity. -“None of it has anything to do with pigs,” he said, “Everything I've learned T've picked up from Thai veterinarians and from visits to agricultural schools on-my home leaves in the States. “I even learned that the local pig farmers, were raising pgs all wrong. They . had been following the ad- vice of the feed companies, who also happen to sell pigs — and who wanted to sell purebreds to the farm- ers. But in this climate, a three-way crossbreed best. : “We've lowered the mor- tality rate, and we're rais- ing pigs inf our to five months instead of the six to seven months it nor- mally takes around here.” World Relief officials are havoy about the oj bank. “Our startup costs were $170,000 the first year and $89,000 this year,” says Reg Reimer, director of Southeast Asian opera- tions for the agency. “Next year it looks as though the pig bank will be completely self-supporting and Jim won't need anything from us at all.” speaking occasionally to groups of army recruits, she kept mulling over the mem- ories of the war, She sat down one day and her book began rushing out, a chapter at each sitting, as she tells it. “We were so naive then,” she said. “We thought we were in a just war — there is no such thing. In every war your hands get dirty. The stains stay forever. I wanted the next generation to know that.” RICHMOND (CP) — Ani- mal fat is at a premium these days for 16 wom- quota is close to 800 pounds, Their factory is a four-by- en to take turns making soap in a backyard garage in this suburb south of Vancouver. Butchers who once do- nated tons of the smelly stuff now demand steep prices, so the women can operate their soap-making paraphernalia only one day a month. garage P with newspapers and fur- nished with a few roughly hewn tables and shelves. Their equipment consists of a sink, one cast iron black cauldron, one _ incinerator, one meat grinder, about 40 120-ounce glass jars and a} of milk They appreci tins of hardened bacon drippings and roasting pan grease re- ceived from concerned house- wiver, hut it doesn't amount to much when your daily soap cartons, Itisa cottage industry if there ever was one, but in the last five years alana, the women have produced nearly CASTLEGAR NEWS, August 12, 1981 C 1 Backyard soap factory 60,000 pounds of pure white lye soap. SMELLS STRONG One whiff of their melting ‘pot and its gallons of bub- bling brown fat is enough to make anyone wonder, why they bother. But their reason is simple. It's all for charity. The small white cakes of soap have been shipped since 1969 to such places as Bangla- desh, Haiti, Zaire, Somalia, Laos and most recently, El Salvador, where it is dis- tributed to hospitals, medical centres and families in need. “It goes to health centres “\'m going to need more than nine lives to get through this batch of books.” ‘Biothythm not very influential The menstrual cycle has no significant effect on intellec- tual functioning, according to results of a large-scale study reported in archives of Gen- eral Psychiatry. A team of researchers from California and Australia investigated the relationship between menstrual cycle and performance on school ex- aminations among 244 medi- cal and paramedical students, following them for a one-year period. The menstrual cycle was divided into four phases and data was collected on how the different phases affected ex- amination performance. No relationship of phase to per- formance appeared, even among students who had an crsinntigg, ghoxing, spuere of menstrual discomfort. The researchers conclude that so many factors go into examination success that bi- orhythm cannot be expected to be very influential, at least in the great majority of fe- male students. 2 “ITIS NOT EASY... To apologize, To begin over, To be unselfish, To take advice, To admit error, To face a sneer, To be charitable, To keep trying, To be considerate To avoid mistakes, To endure success, To profit by mistakes, To forgive and forget, To think and then act, To keep out of a rut, To make the best of little, To subdue an unruly temper, To shoulder a deserved blame, To recognize the silver lining — but it always pays. the Klothes Kloset and 3.3. 339 Columbia Ave. Ladies’ in the Third World — areas in the poverty circle,” says Pastor Palmer Becker. “Very often in countries with low resources, every available piece of fat is used for food, 60 none is availablo for making soap. The operation requires the skills of five women at a time. “We don’t need any men’ around here,” boasts one’ worker. ~ The recipe is a basic one, taken from the label of a can of lye. They just multiply it a ties. MELTED — ‘ The hunks of beef fat, or low — donated ” from people who do their own pot: ‘The -women’ then’ throw wood, paper and anything else. combustible into the incinerator sitting under the pot to make the fire. It takes about six hours from the fat “cracklings” to be fired out, but even those aren't wasted. They end up in dog food. » Meanwhile, powdered lye is dissolved ‘in water and left + to cool in a set of large glass jars. But recently, that part ‘of the process has been get-' ting risky, says: Susie Hil- debrandt. Sometimes a jar explodes “and lately, | it's been every time.” . Once the cooling is com: of lye fat are Mixing takes about five min- utes and leaves a murky, . caremel-colored syrup that is poured into empty milk car- * tons. > ( It is then left to harden ‘ into solid white cakes for two by Lols Hughes From J.J; 's. Summer Merchandise: ‘Price Ladies’, Style 6714 Rainbow Jeans +199° Men’‘s, Style 9108 Big Blue Jeans “Care, Quality & Fashion at Castlegar 365-7589 days. £ * The finished soap is pack- is boxed for: overzeas ship- ment. | - ‘The, women ‘are proud of their finished product. S im