gebeeiner inde: =. _ we Na The Castlegar Sun Wednesday, September 9, 1992 Rattle Antiques 301-11 Ave. Castlegar: (in Tulips Building) 365-5191 Being an instant mom means instant changes I have some very high expec- tation in life. With very good reason, I might add. I haven't always been my best keeper And that's perfectly O.K. to aim my sights a little higher, I'm worth it after all. It is howéver, important to keep this realistic I can look back in reflection and chuckle over a few of my “naiveties”. Like when I decided that I wanted to have my chil dren, (four of them — yikes!) 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Maybe we should give this matter some more thought In recent times, further cir- cumstances have brought the matter to thought once again and after major contemplation, my original dream to have children of my: qwa still stood. Just one slight detail, with the package came “stepchildren”. Gulp! O.K so I set a few more expectations, such as I would be the best dam stepmother that ever walked this CYLINDER FILLS 20 Ib. ROBSO MECHANICAL HEAVY DUTY AUTOMOTIVE AUTOMATIC TRANSMISSION ° GENE WADDINGTON 365-7006 POPPE TET er TIRE. THIS WEEK ONLY! 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Every- one always told me so, after all, didn't they? Well, I didn't count on these little “wonders” living with us full time which is now the case. The first few confronta- tions (I prefer to call them “tests”) were enlightening, yes I was a gentle soul, would not stoop to yelling at the kids, I would be their “friend”. After all they would need one during their adjustment and I could not even hope to replace their “real” mother. Then it happened. It came out of my mouth through no will of my own and reverberated off the walls. I didn’t know I had it in me and I looked around in search of my mother. Surely that was her, not me. Be assured, I love my mother dearly and would trade her for no other, but like any sane child, as I reached adulthood I vowed there were just a few insignificant s that I would make in dealing with my own children. Well, it wasn’t just a yell, it was a “scream”, I had totally lost it! These children were driving me crazy! Time to do some soul searching here and figure out what the devil went wrong. After I was assured by their father that he didn’t hate me and that he still considered me a loving step- mother, I realized I had set my expectations a tad high (again!). Gee, I am allowed to have emo- tions, such as the urge to stran- gle, etc. The more I try to deny, the stronger the urge. Feeling a little shaky but with renewed determination I set out to estab- lish a healthy bond between my stepchildren and I . = Fiddier__. Continued from 2B 24 at the Complex. Dance will have a new start time of 8 p.m. Admission is $6 each. Secretary Edith Berg has had to resign her office for personal reasons. The remainder of her term will be filled by Annie Rayner. Thank you Edith for all your past efforts in our club, and hopefully you will soon be able to resume a more active roll. Our sympathy is extended to Mai Rogers and family with the passing of Frank. He will be sore- ly missed as he was always will- ing to travel around Nelson, and to Castlegar and Trail or wherev- er, to play his fiddle. Next meeting is September 27 at 2:30 p.m. at the Seniors Hall, Castlegar. Guests welcome. We have had, and continue to have our ol P and rejection. But we've also had a lot of fun too. Being an “instant mom” was not all what I had ‘expected”. These little dren's table manners are thai of “wild’ animals, My kitchen See LIFESKILLS 5B Almost any menu will sparkle with the addition of the bright colour of toma- toes, whether served raw, cooked, in a sauce, or added to a casserole. Probably no other garden product has as many uses as the tomato The tomato is one of the best sources of vitamins A and C and potassium. When the tomato plant was first intro- duced in Europe, a supersti- tion arose that the tomato stimulated love. Because of this, the tomato was called the "Love Apple". Stuffed Bake Tomatoes Temp: 375 degrees Cooking Time: 20 minutes The Hen Party Ingredients: 4 medium tomatoes 2 cups (500 ml) cubed bread (toasted) 1/2 cup (250 ml) salad dressing 1 tbsp (15 ml) green onions, chopped Method 1. Cut a slice from stem of tomato 2. Scoop out centre and chop 3. Combine bread crumbs, dressing, onions and chopped tomatoes * 4. Fill tomato shells 5. Place on baking sheet ‘6. Bake in 375 degree oven for 20 minutes Easy Greek Tomato Salad (serves four) Ingredients: 5 ripe tomatoes 1 cup (250 ml) feta cheese 12 or more black olives, pitted 1 cucumber, cu 1 green pepper cubed 1 onion, sliced 4 tbsp. (60 ml) olive oil 4 tbsp. (60 ml) wine vinegar 2 tsp. (10 ml) basil 1 tsp. (S ml) salt 1/2 tsp. (2.5 ml) black pepper Method 1. Wash all vegetables 2. Cut tomatoes in one inch cubes or wedges and arrange on a large plate 3. Arrange cucumbers, green peppers and onions on top. 4. Crumble feta cheese over top 5. Decorate with black olives 6. Combine remaining ingredients and sprinkle over salad if serving at once. For later use, cover salad and refriger- ate. Sprinkle dressing over salad at time of serving The Hen Party is a group of Castlegar friends who meet on a regular basis and have many common interests includ: ing cooking. If you have any questions or comments you can write to them C/O The Castlegar Sun at 465-Columbia Ave., Castlegar B.C., VIN 1G8. Or readers can telephone 365- 7729 and ask for Kathy. ootenay 44° irways i Quy” Private pilot course GROUND SCHOOL starts TUESDAY, SEPT. 22, 1992 at 7:00 pm at Kootenay Alrways - Castlegar Airport. includes 45 hrs. of flying, books and ground school. Ground schools are Tuesday and Thursday 7- 9 pm ( Package Cost $4256 includes all taxes ) oO PRIVATE, COMMERCIAL, MULTI, NIGHT ¢ SIGHTSEEING Flying training can be tax deductible. 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I guess everybody has their own little secrets." -- Robby Doyle Calhoun, 30, was arrested for stabbing letter car- rier Raymond Bell, 35, in Ballas in April. Apparently, Calhoun was upset about receiving bills. A police detective said that Calhoun had told a maintenance man the day before that he was "going to get the mail man. In May, the Capital Security HOROSCOPES Sept 6-12 ARIES — March 21/April 20 There could be a slow start to the week, and you may be irritated at the pace at which things are happening. But later on, the pace should quicken, and your social life might brighten up as well. In the middle of the week, y‘ may meet someone who fasc: you, and a strong friendship could develop over the next month or two. TAURUS - April 21/May 21 During the weekend, you'll be hap piest when following an established routine. You could find yourself with some old friends reminiscing about the past. During the week, you'll probably be in great demand because of your natural tenacity You may be asked to help a good friend out of a mess. GEMINI - May 22/June 21 Your faith in human nature could be restored this week, when you find that a friend did not yield to temptation Discreet help wiil probably be more Productive than a blunt warning, par: ticularly with married couples Financial affairs do need some careful handling, especially around midweek CANCER - June 22/July 22 Romantically, an awkward and far. reaching decision may be made soon. You may find that some advice from a professional may tip the bal ance for you. Socially, there could be some unhappy moments, and you may feel uncomfortable in a strange environment. LEO - July 23/August 23 This should be a pleasurable week for you, with both domestic and financial affairs running smoothly. However, late week could see some tension and excitement in the air, and if you habitually worry about money, then some gossip you over- hear could be to your advantage VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 You could be feeling vaguely uneasy all this week, for no apparent reason, and you may have the impression that you're being unfairly treated by someone. These feelings will pass. Domestically, this is a time to con serve your resources and to limit expenditures. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23, Travel looks very promising and, about now, you really could use a vacation. You may also want to research some interesting ways of Passing your time, such as taking up a new hobby or enrolling in some evening classes. Mentioning this to a friend may lead you to starting something new. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 If you're just changing your job, settling in could still be giving you some minor problems. This probably isn't a good time for you to look around for some new leisure activities as well. Getting plenty of rest will help balance this situation. SAGITTARIUS — Nov 23/Dec 21 With the end of the summer, and routines falling back into place, you may be feeling a bit restless. To add some excitement to your life, try tak ing a weekend excursion. A change of environment is the perfect cure for “cabin fever.” An old friend will Pay you a surprise visit. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Your idealistic side should be given free rein now, and your planning abilities should then be in sync with your basic emotional principles Though you may have to exhibit extreme tenacity, your persistence will pay off. Your creative talents could become a source of income. AQUARIUS -— Jan 21/Feb 18 This will be an extremely busy week for you. Between work and social obligations, you won't have any time for yourself. Don't feel guilty if you have to cancel an evening out; your sanity is much more important. Try not to take your stress out on a loved one. An unexpected check is in the mail! PISCES - Feb 19/March 20 Keep your opinions to yourself this week. Although you may feel com pelled to say what's on your mind, you may insult someone. This could lead to a serious strain on a valu- able friendship. The worst part is that you won't even realize what you did until it's too late. Although this isn’t a week to think aloud, it is a week for creative pursuits and financial gains YOUR BIRTHDAY THIS WEEK he next 12 months: Many long-term problems you've been faced with will be resolved this year. There are many happy times in store for you, especially this winter and spring. At work, you will find yourself very busy, but financial rewards will make the effort seem worthwhile. A promotion or salary increase is likely; you may even con- sider a change in Career. Someone in your family will reach a major mile stone. This will bring great happiness to all involved. You will be intro- duced to a new hobby, and it will bring fun and enjoyment Calvin ana Hobbes WMO! 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(The parish priest was out of town at the time and thus could not grant the couple absolu- tion for the incident. ) --- Thedford Browning, 20, fill- ing out identification papers in a Springfield, Mass., courtroom in October in an attempt to be released from jail without a money bond after his arrest on a crack cocaine charge, listed his occupation as “drug dealer." The judge denied the request and imposed a $20,000 bond. CULTURAL DIVERSITY -- Canadian doctors recently reported an alarming increase in the number of immigrant African females whose genitals have been mutilated for cultural reasons (for example, lacerating skin around the vagina so. that, it would grow over the opening to create a "natural" chastity belt). Canadian physicians say they cannot ethically perform such surgery when demanded by some Somalian, Kenyan, Ugandan and Sudanese parents for their young daughters because it would violate Canada's child-abuse laws... - A Washington. 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Prairie Indians |. Experiment control ° 16. Wood or coai product Formicidae family Fail to keep up pace . Previous to LOOK FOR THE ANSWERS to the CROSSWORD CASTLEGAR SHOPPER Coming out this Saturday in our floor was never clean (that one drove me crazy) and the bath- room I had to sadly surrender to the-children. It would never be the same room. My wax jobs on all my floors were in vain, the furniture I cared for with pride ( T had bought it brand new when I was 18) was aging overnight. Sleeping in? What's that? Actually I had the silly idea that I would not mind getting up with these wonderful children to do things with them. See we have a Tule in our house that the TV is an occasional occurrence and while I maintained that belief, the urge to strike a babysitting contract with the TV for 6 am on Saturday and Sunday mom- ings was almost more than I could bear. and the Noise! My goodness, surely these are not human off- spring, I’ve never heard any- thing like it. Things like finishing meals, brushing teeth well you parents out there know exactly where I'm coming from right? But I must lay claim to uniqueness as a stepmom of whom there are probably a few amongst my readers. It is differ- ent. They will try everything, they need me, but resent that, they want me to be just like “her” and other times they want me to be someone totally differ- ent, like Superwoman. You may have guessed by now I was totally lost in the “poor me” syndrome: If it wasn't for the support of their father who is a truly wonderful and amazing partner, who knows where I would be today. I have slowly learned to “lighten up” and have some fun with this Heck I’m going to throw my cereal all over the floor too. I'm going to splash water all over the bathroom, and wipe my nose on everything except a Kleenex (that’s too boring). There are limits however. These children love the bath- tub, they are tow of the “male species” and they create tidal waves most kids would be envi- ous of. I'm never really sure exactly what will happen during these activities. There's the usual combination of crying, laughi lashi i 8 ig J an sputtering. The odd time I’ve had to wipe soap from eyes and refill the tub that mysteriously drained. One that absolutely hor- Tified me at he time began with the four-year-old’s usual crying and screaming. When I entered the bathroom, there he was spread eagled, all four appendages on the sides of the bathtub and screaming some- thing totally indecipherable. I ordered him back into the tub before he fell and when he refused, I gently placed him back in. Well, he came and when i saw the reason why, I promptly plucked him back out again. It seems the six-year-old who was also in the tub, must have laughed too hard and pro- jected foreign objects in to the water. Well, I can laugh about it today because who knows what can be “expected” for tomorrow, And I surrender, I will no longer try to control the results. If you can't beat ‘em join ‘em.