* CASTLEGAR NEWS, April 23, 1980

a

silence.

criminals and protect, condone

One man’s opinion

It’s courage

By FRED MERRIMAN

‘Somewhere there lives a young man who fears to walk the streets at night.
At one time he called a certain few his friends and it appears that of this .
certain few some fell to the world of drugs. He did

In due course the heavy hand of the constituted authority gathered those
who had offended and smiled with a toothless, sorry grin for they had been
defanged by we do gooders. |

Our hero was fingered as the “fink.” The finger had selected the innocent

rly. ¢
Notice that I have said “innocent” because of all the crimes that a teenager
can commit none are as grievous as “finking.” 5
Our young subject has been physically set upon to such an extent that it is
unsafe to walk alone. Still he will not fink.
In case any of the unenlightened should be scurrying for the dictionary,
stay yourself, for the word is undefined in polite circles. We use words like “in
. camera” or “personal and confidential.”
This preamble brings me te Blueberry Creek, where dozens of square
straight law abiding, stable and well meaning abide side by side with common
and encourage the conduct of the latter by their

T have never been in around or otherwise near a vandal of any description
who did not possess this overwhelming desire to share the excitement of his
personal war against organized society and all they have built.

Blueberry Creek vandals have a personal competition in progress with an
éven more criminally sophisticated group who live in Robson.

Still the silence prevails... not to protect the innocent .. . not to protect
the vandals but to protect themselves. i
that finking, i i

not,

or just plain telling

Itis my

some merit.

the truth of what you know for the cause of ju
is the highest form of courage.

Turning a blind eye and sealing your tongue to withhold knowledge of
criminal acts cause the silent one to become an accessory to the fact and is
therefore as guilty as the perpetrator himself. :

Several months ago I da Pi h

It seems I am turning my cheek and admitting that publicity may have

stice and peace in our community

However, the strongest attack should be made with the thought in mind
that citizens having knowledge of criminal‘activity should have the courage to
advise the authorities, anonimously if they must, of basic details so the
professionals may investigate further and bring the almost rampant and
wanton destruction of community and personal property to an end.

New structure encloses

Cominco’

A $690,000 project is
under way’ to enclose the
existing outside work area of
Cominco's steel’ fabrication
shop in Trail.

The new structure, ex-
pected to be ready for use by
September, will provide im-
portant improvements, as
well as protecting the work
area from adverse weather
conditions,

A pre-fabricated metal
building — 120 feet long, 60°
feet wide, with a 80-foot eave
height — will be erected in
the space toward the general
office. It will be a steel
structure, one bay wide with
a nine-tonne capacity crane
ata height suitable for for-
seeable jobs, according to

Spring Tea by

Dick Olver, assistant super-

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The steel fab. shop is
currently housed in eight
structures, The shop man-
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hoppers, chutes, tanks, heat
exchangers and structural
steel work, and also does
boiler repairs. At present,
work inside is limited by the
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and repairing tube bundles
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weather. The new structure
will allow these and other
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round. .

Women's

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Slocan, to be held in the-

church hall from 2 - 4 p.m.
Baking, plants, crafts, white
table and a door

Pediatrician and author
_ says ‘you are what you eat’

z You are what you eat,
and soare your children, says
pediatrician and author Len-
don Smith.

In Vancouver for, Gen-
esis, a conference on child-
birth and child care, Dr.
Smith said everything from
hyperactivity to migraine

to do this. You have to start
early when the child is still
trapped in the household. It’s
tough to do, but you really
have to want to do this.”
If the child is heading
out to a birthday party,
where there will be a surfeit
of the sweet stuff, Dr. Smith

ant T:4
* can be controlled by diet.

The Oregon consultant
started studying the relation-
ship between food and be-
havior about seven or eight
years ago while dealing with
hyperactive children. At that
time, he said, the explanation
for the disorder was birth

a snack of celery,
peanut butter and B vitamins
first. “If you keep his blood
sugar even, then when he
goes out he won't have a
craving for it.”

Other refined foods,
such as packaged cereals,
should also be avoided.

= Even that old standby of

trauma or p with the
nervous system.

- Most of his young pati-
ents, however, had had nor-
mail births and had no physi-
cal problems. “They were all
blue-eyed blondes or green-
eyed redheads,” said Dr.
Smith. “It was either caused

_ by genetic factors, or ‘some-
thing else.” And after talking
to the children and their
families, he said he figured
out what that ‘something
else’ was.

“It was a sugar-related
thing. If I asked the kids,
‘What do you eat?’ many
would like to fool me and say,
‘eggplant,’ or ‘turnip,’ but
their mothers would say they
ate a whole box of sugar-
frosted flakes for breakfast
— and they'd put sugar on it
— or a quart of ice cream a
day. Some would drink a
quart of Coca-Cola a day.
They were really mainlining
it.”

“You have to be careful
because I know it doesn't
affect everybody. Some eat
sugar and drink booze and
live till 90 and are never
sick." He stopped and took
another bite of his banana.
“That kind of bothers me,” he
said, and smiled.

Dr. Smith said over the

. years he has developed ways
of knowing who can be
helped by nutrition therapy.
He looks for five things:
whether the child is ticklish,
which means he's sensitive;
whether he has a Jekyll and
Hyde personality; whether

milk, is
not without its faults. While
few children react to raw
milk, Dr. Smith said allergies
to homogenized milk are
fairly common,

Even those who love
milk and drink litres’ daily
can be affected. A craving for
milk shows you need more
calcium, which you should
get through supplements.
Although raw milk is a rich
source of calcium, Dr. Smith

said many people are unable -

to absorb the mineral: from
homogenized milk. Chocolate,
milk is even worse, as it
contains an additive which
actually prevents calcium ab-
sorption.

Instead of processed
foods, he recommends fre-
quent snacks of fresh fruits
and raw vegetables, nuts,
fish, cheese and whole grains.
But even these foods may not
provide all the nutrients you
need. Dr. Smith said most
people should also take vi-
tamins C and B complex and
ealeium supplements.

“Vitamin C helps the
body manufacture interfer-
on,” Dr. Smith said, explain-
ing this substance has been
credited with miracle cancer
cures, And, he continued, the
vitamin B complex also helps
the body's immune system.
“Hay fever, asthma, arthri-
tis. You can get your family
disease if you are depleted
long enough.

Dr. Smith said his nu-

. trition therapy has affected

conditions ranging from hy-
peractivity and allergies to
a fon and achizoph

he has pi
whether he craves sugar or
milk, a sign of hypoglycemia,
and whether he rocks himself
or twitches his muscles fre-
quently, a sign of calcium
deficiency.

Dr. Smith's diet, which
he recommends for people of
any age, cuts out all sugar
and white flour. He's been
following it for several years
now, and said he feels great.
“[ don't get sick. I used to get
the flu all the time.”

But he agreed it may be
difficult to convince a sweet-
toothed child to forgo his
sugar. "The whole family has

ia, And even when actual
illnesses aren't affected, be-
havioral disorders often are.

He oxplained an im-
proper diet may lead to a
neuro-biochemical imbalance
“that would get in the way of
dealing with their self im-
age,” and in turn cause other
problems such as bedwetting
or discipline difficulties.
When the imbalance is cor-
rected, the problems should
go away.

But the doctor would not
guarantee instant success,
even though he said most
people would benefit from his
regime. “It takes so long to

work," he said. It may be
weeks or months before you
start to notice. a change in
your child — or yourself.

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CASTLEGAR NEWS, April 23, 1980

Cl

(From DONAHUE, MY

OWN STORY by Phil
Donahue. Reprinied by
permission of Simon &
Schus Distributed by
the Los Angeles Times
Syndicate.)

| met my future
wife during my junior
year at Notre Dame,
She was the sister of
a tall, thin. pipe-
smoking classmate of
mine named Jim
Cooney.

Margie Cooney was a
freshman ‘at Marquette, a
tall, attractive girl who
looked sexy in an overcoat
buttoned up around her neck.
We dated during my junior
year, but our courtship really
began in earnest when, dur-
ing my senior year, she quit
school, moved in with her
aunt in Chicago and got a job
with Price Waterhouse in the
Prudential Building in the

During the summer be-
tween my junior and senior
years, I had worked hard at
WNDU-TV,, “the Notre
Dame station” — NBC Tel-
evision for South Bend, In-
diana, and I kept the job (at
one cool dollar an hour)
through my last two sem-
esters at N.D.

This meant I had more,
money, and with: her re-
ceptionist job at Price Water-
house she had money. Throw
in the South Shore Line
which runs between South
Bend and Chicago and you've
got a pretty romantic fan-
tasy. Her aunt threw in a ‘51
Chevy and I thought I'd died

mand gone to heaven.
* WE VISITED EVERY
bar in the Loop, had small
talk across candles and wine-
glasses in rathskellers on the
North Side and then sat, lit-
erally, all night long in the
front seat of that Chevy. On
more than one morning we
saw the sun come up on
North Janssen Avenue, hap-
py but weary from fighting
off mortal sin throughout the
entire evening and through
the long early morning hours.
” At 6 a.m. we would roll
down the windows to evap-
orate the steam on the wind-
shield, and then I would walk
her to her door, somewhat
disheveled and more than
somewhat in agony from un-
fulfilled passion. There would
follow a long, amorous good-
by, more agony and then the
long walk to the Ravenswood
El for the ride into the Loop
and then to the South Shore
for the longer ride back to
South Bend. :
All the time I wondered

hood were

how long I could
expect to remain monklike,
when I was having so many
bad thoughts.

MARGIE'S PARENTS
lived in Albuquerque, New
Mexico, and on Feb: 1, 1958,
in one of the oldest Catholic
churches in America, San
Felipe de Neri, in the Old
Town section of Albuquer-
que, in a Solemn High
Nuptial-Mass (three priests),

* phillip-John- Donahue “and”

Margaret Mary Cooney were
“joined together” in matri-
mony. %

After the Mass and a ©

reception at the. Alvarado.
Hotel, my father-in-law told
my bride in a stage whisper
that “there'll be a strange
man in your room when you
awake in the morning,” and
we departed for Bishop's
Lodge in Santa Fe, where I
would finally, and without

itary deferments, and my
number was coming up at the
local draft board. Michael
was born two days before our
first. anniversary, Jan. 80,
1959, several weeks pre-
mature and weighing four
pounds. On Dec. 9, 1959,
Kevin was born, also several

, weeks premature and weigh-

ing four pounds. Both spent.
several days in an. Isolette

and-came home weighing five’

pounds and both, for God's
sake, were born in the same
yearl . ” = ed

WHEN WE HAD BEEN
married six years we had five
children. ‘

By then my star: was
rising at WHIO, Dayton,
while my time on the job as
husband and father was fall-
ing. I was an anchorman on
the 11 o'clock news and had
been to di an

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serious case of resentment
born out of diapers and
dishes and being married to
Dayton’s Mr. Television.
-And while Margie and
Phil were not, as they say at
Esalen, “sharing feelings
with each other," she was
sharing hers with many
wives in the neighborhood,
every day and usually on the
telephone. (An ashtray filled

‘ with half-smoked cigarettes

could usually be found next
to the phone.)

THE RESENTMENTS
emerged not in a torrent,
but in small cloudbursts.
“Your idea of fatherhood is
throwing a ball at the boys,”
she would say. And I would
respond the way I always
responded, to everything —I
would talk, often too much
and too critically.

Margie had no enthu-
siasm for long arguments
about the “malaise” that had
settled over our marriage.

Career on the rise, marriage on the wane

In this second part of an
exclusive series, Phil Donahue
continues to reveal in intimate

detail what makes him tick.

. He recalls his failing marriage,
how he realized to late that
as a young newsman on the

rise he was married to his

job instead of being there

when his wife and children
needed him.

for some attention from her
husband, who had a radio
pressed against his ear. I
wondered, at age 89, how
many other males of the '60s

She knew an “ .

meant that I did most of the

talking; and most of my com-

ments were critical, usually
i with a “hi

had likewise sleepwalked in-
to (and someti hrough

be more challenged at work
‘than he was at home. The
consequences on the kids and
the wives, and not sur-
prisingly on the men them-
selves, were incalculable!

I thought about my

and
I THOUGHT ABOUT
the early years, after the
dding, and what an in-

you-can't-see-this” look on
my face. Margie felt like

* Eliza Doolittle and I felt like

"1 owas on radio at 1 o'clock

every day, and except for a
brief visit home for dinner, I
wasn't finished until the end
of the 11 o'clock TV news
each night. . :

When I got home at
11:45 p.m. there wasn’t much
to do except drink beer, eat
chocolate cookies and watch
the Tonight Show. It. wasga
‘life pattern that was to last
until 1967, and I was pursu-

the not-so-"Quiet Man" who
couldn't get his wife to argue

When, at ‘age 89, I be-
came Jegally and spiritually
“sundered,” I thought of my
professional ambition and
how costly it had been to my
family. I thought of how I had
been married to my job
instead of my wife. I thought
about the time in the labor
room while Margie struggled
with labor pains and waited

+ ing-it-right-in-the-middle,pf-4

five small children, a lot of:
diapers, meals, doctor’s-office..

visits and the beginning of a

new wave of activism for an ¢

old movement. It was called
women's liberation. |
MARGIE. NEVER
bought into the TV game.
She didn't like my job, was
not close to the people I
worked with and for, and was
uncomfortable with the in-
cidental i she re-

guilt, lose my virgi

Pregnancy and parent-

“| thought of

radio pi
called “Conversation Piece.”

how | had been

married to my job instead of my wife. |
thought about the time in the labor room
while Margie struggled with labor pains

Y

and

for some

from her

husband, who had a: radio pressed
against his ear. | wondered, at age 39,
how many other males of the ‘50s had

likewise sleepwalked

igh)

marriage.”

Sound Country

into (and
par d and

_ They’re early cuts

Two Willie Nelson songs
seem to have jumped out of
nowhere in the past few
weeks. Our mail has in-
creased to a downpour over
two songs titled ‘Misery
Mansion’ and ‘The Storm Has
Just Begun.’

Willle Nalson
Apparently, several radio
stations across the country
started programming these
two ‘unknown’ cuts and have
created a demand for the
almost non-existent record-

ings. :
Stter searching all available
sources, it seems these are
two of Willie’s early music
tracks that have been pack-
aged under the album title
The Longhorn Jamboree Pre-
sents Willie Nelson and His
Friends. In addition to these

collectors item songs, the LP
also has four other Nelson
recordings, plus ‘guest ap-
pesrences: in song by Jerry
ee Lewis, Carl Perkins and
David Allen Cos, :

The . Longhorn Jamboree
Presents Willie Nelson and
His Friends is available for
$7.95 on album, eight track
or cassette from: Southridge
Music, 2231 Hough Road,
Florence, Alabama 35630.

*

guitar-shaped cake and a hug
in celebration of Reed's 25.

key and the Bandit li.’
.

The ‘14th Annual Music
City News Country: Awards’

has been set for June 9, -

1980, This live two-hour
awards special features
country music's most
popular performers present-
ing the year’s honors in 15
categories. a

The award-winning per-
formers are determined by
subscribers of the Music City
News, making it the only
awards program where fans
make the decisions.

The program is presented

live at the Grand Ole Opry
House in Nashville. Guest
erformners includ sity, oretia
ynn, Conway Twitty,
id Sugar, Janie Fricke,
Mandrell, Porter
Waggoner, Jerry Clower,
Buck Trent and Roy Clark.
.

Mooney Lynn and
Sammy Jackson

Mooney Lynn was on hand
in Los Angeles to help

w

Chicago. This included guest
appearances on ‘Dinah!’ and
‘The Phil Donahue Show.’
Mooney also. appeared on
‘Coffee with Jammy
Jackson,’

ceived. :

The fact that Margie’s
unhappiness grew without
my even noticing it is itself
evidence of my consuming

professional ambition and ©

only one indication of how
little energy I was really
giving to my responsibilities
at home. (The sexiest advice
accepted at the time was,
“Get a good wife and you've
just about got a happy mar-
riage made.") Toward .the

end of our marriage I recall .

just standing there filled
with bewilderment.as to how
my wife had “suddenly”’
become so very unhappy.
Talways believed Margie
was the best-looking wife at
the party — any party. (Much
later I would think about
“appearance values” and
what a major role they

played in the lives of so many, |

people and how in the final
rendering “pretty” had noth-

* ing to do with anything —

except .stroking the ego of
the macho man who takes the
“little woman” out only to
“show her off.”)

I WAS PROUD OF

Margie, not because she was |

a good mother (which she
was), not because she was a
good homemaker (which she
was — though all women
were supposed to be that)
but because she was pretty.
Being pretty was not ex-
pected of every woman, and
not every guy was expected
to get a pretty one. Only the
guys with gumption.

And s0 after a day of in-
terviewing the latest VIP to
visit our area and delivering
the news “compiled and
edited in the WHIO Central
News Bureau” and moving
about in my professional
world as ifI really knew what
I was doing, at night I was
escorting Margie to social
events. While she was ob-
viously beautiful, what was
not so obvious (to me) was
that my “pretty little wo-
man" was developing a very

sensitive and lousy lover I
had been. I thought about the
number. of times I had
bragged about having five
children without realizing it
took no talent at all.

I thought about the

‘cultural cover-ups for work-

aholism: “Oh, Dad, poor Dad,
he works so hard!" And I
began to understand that in
far too many homes, “poor
Dad” was not coming home
till 8 o'clock at night because
he didn’t. want to. He was
after a lifetime of steady
Horatio Alger, conditioned to

Continues till April 26

hildhood and my
and how nothing, absolutely
nothing, was ever said about.
human relationships, and in-
trospection, and mood
swings, and listening, and
sending flowers for no reason
at all. I thought about how on
guard we were against “bad
thoughts,”-and I wondered if
all of us who came out of the
"40s and '60s weren't just a
little crippled by the em-
phasis on sexual sins.

Is IT ANY WONDER
that for millions of men the
only intimacy is physical, and
silent, and predictable? Did
our parents’ fear of adoles-
cent sex (reinforced as it was
by the teachings of the

‘my paychecks,

Church) cause -an overkill
that left all of us (the boys -
especially) mortally wounded.
in other areas‘of intimacy?

Has it left generations of
men totally incapable of ver-
balizing a fear, sharing a cry
or squeezing a hand? How did
we become so blocked? Why
are 80 many men gathered in
taverns and bars drinking
beer and discussing football
teams while their women,
who fought them off during
the courtship, sit at home
wondering what happened to
all that premarital gusto?

I thought about the pain
of our last married years —
the terrible fear of not seeing
my children grow up, the.
near-panic at the thought of
being alone. I even had gone
to a psychiatrist to find out
what was wrong with mel I
hadn't fooled around, I hadn't
been violent, I hadn't blown -
hat, on
God's earth, was wrong with

me? i

I RECALLED THE
long, uncomfortable wait in
the shrink’s office, deathly
afraid of being recognized,
and how, when I finally got
inside, I did what I do best. I
talked. In fact, I threw up.a
torrent of words.

“I don’t care what it
takes,” I said. “Do whatever
you have to. I want to save
my marriage! Put me_
through the meat grinder!”
And how the psychiatrist had
leaned forward, offered me a
Kleenex and, stroking his
beard as.in a bad movie,

“There is no meat

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