Page 4B The Castlegar Sun No one has time to w Have you ever wondered about “time”? (Do I sound like Andy Rooney” or what). Exactly where does it go anyway? Seems we too often spend it unwisely, just like money. It's universal, no matter what age you are, child or adult, we never hiave enough time in the day to do e' ing we want to or know we “should”. Interesting though, how differently our out- looks can be. Children, unlike adults, do not go into panic mode just because time did not permit them to make their bed, or clean their room. My partner in life and I have been genuinely attempting to allow our children to be account- able for their own actions and behaviors. This is NO easy process, let me tell you. For one thing, the children do not WANT to be accountable. And second, we as parents cannot seem to give up that “control”. But we are deter- mined, we really do believe in Drop-off Depot Bonnett's Men's Wear Info: this! So we sit down to a family “conference”. The six -year-old is already planning his manipulative Strategy and the four- year-old is Pretending he's too little to under stand. But hey, I'm not fooled, I've seen him play SUPER MARIO. So we're going to make some agreements here in this household. Everyone will, from now on, be accountable for their own actions and behaviors. (Blank Stares) The six year old, we'll call him “A”, suddenly sees the light - “Oh, yeah, like the time you sent me to school late because you forgot the time change.” “R” , the four year old promptly asks “Why do you have lipstick on?” Bravely, we continue, explain- ing to them about choices. If one realizes that every thing that hap- Pens is a result of their own choice, whether directly or indi- rectly, they gain control. There are some who would take exception to this theory but for the most part, it’s true. And sharing this with the children is supposed to be akin to unloading a huge burden. “R” now understand about choices. Just the other morning he chose not to get dressed and this was perfectly acceptable to him, after all it’s his problem, right? So we then had to inform him patiently (and I stress that word) about the consequences of his choices (blank stare). Trying to come up with consequences that are logical, which must be in order for this theory to be effective, can be a risky venture. O.K., so we threaten to leave and go to daycare without him. Well, that makes a lot of sense now, doesn’t it? Remember, we already know this kid is not as dumb as he likes to have us think and he knows we won't really do it. And if he’s not too sure, you know he's going to Push it to the limit, Let's try anoth Brenda Hogstead Lifeskills, for the young, old and willing ¢r approach ... I suppose we could deliver him to daycare in his PJ's at the risk of his being labeled “weird™ by the other kids. Logi- cal? How about we make him stay in bed all moming. He was not a happy camper and so you see, we ARE leaming-however slowly. On the other hand, “A” already has this whole philosophy figured, in fact he's downright cagey about it He feigns indifference to the con- sequences, even pretends to PRE- FER them. Heh, heh, we're onto this one, nope, you can't food us However, I wonder who he learned that from, hmmm. It is tough to know exactly what to do isn't it? Try to explain why you don't have time for a bedtime story tonight and it’s like- your area. Castlegar 365-8212 - Crawford Bay 227-9231 NOTICE TO ALL WEST KOOTENAY POWER CUSTOMERS West Kootenay Power employees represented by the IBEW are on strike. Management will do its best to maintain essential services for customers. Please call your local office to determine if there has been a change in services available or a change in normal office hours in You will continue to receive your power bills and we encourage you to use the postage paid return envelope. We thank you for your patience and cooperation during this difficult period. WEST KOOTENAY POWER + Creston 428-5357 - Grand Forks 442-3142 445-6455 - Kaslo 353-2446 - Kelowna 860-2126 - Keremeos 499-5844 . Oliver 498-2474 Osoyoos 495-2474 - Penticton 483-3818 - Salmo 357.9711 + South Slocan 359-7613 - Trail 368-9111 Wednesday, July 22, 1992 ly you'll take twice the time for the argument that will most cer- tainly follow. Well, now why didn't I just read the darn thing in the first place? No, that would be “giving in” and we as parents must be in control! Otherwise our children will always “get their way” and grow up totally out of control, juvenile delinquents. Chil- dren, I am learning, do indeed respond to logic better than disci- Pline (it's hard to take, I know). And boy sometimes it’s hard to control the urge to make them OBEY! And not give in until you win. Well, I'm here to tell you that you NEVER win a power Struggle with a child except by force and then they remember it for life (especially through those “diffi- cult” teenage years). Yes, your wins will come back to haunt you. With all the action in our house- hold we need rules. And rules are made to be forgotten, it's true. Once you accept that fact as a par- ent and surrender, your stress level will reduce dramatically. You might wonder how can anyone for- get a simple rule such as “Don't jump on the furniture"? And the logical consequence? “Well, that's it, you are no longer allowed to sit on the furniture, see how you like that!" But the kid didn’t want to sit on it anyway, he wanted to jump on it. So much for that one. Oh, here's a good one — “Stay Out of the mud”. There, you may as well tell the child to go roll in it because that's exactly what will happen. Unfortunately reverse psychology doesn't work either (We've tried it). And then there's the fighting and bickering between these two Sweet children. “The theory” sug- gests the motive of the children is to gain the adults’ attention. It Seems therefore logical that if you wish more fighting, pay as little attention as possible. I have to admit, I haven't mastered that one yet, it’s really hard to ignore mur- der in your own household. Well, the list goes on and on aste on regrets But in spite of it all, 1 am enjoy- ing my TIME on this earth lately, I've actually learned a lot from the children about living life one day at a time and and enjoying the moment. It grieves me to think of the time I've wasted wor- rying and fretting over things completely out of my control. But now I choose to view it with humour and let it go because I have no time to waste on regrets. Brenda Hogstead is a citizen of Castlegar who has relocated from Edmonton, Alberta. She has become involved in a number of, dif- ferent areas and calls Castlegar home. She left behind a lengthy Career in management for a major financial institution and carries no regrets. In sharing her thoughts and experiences with others she feels infinitely rewarded. Brenda will also be teaching her course entitled It's your money, it's your life, at Selkirk College campuses in Nel- son, Trail and Castlegar this fall. A community on the move Salmo is a growing communi- ty. In the past year 12 new homes have been built within the village. Since the village also serves a large area — from the border to Ross Spur to Ymir — this is only a portion of the new homes it ser- vices since there has been a num- ber constructed in the outlying areas as well. To date this year five building permits in the vil- lage to the amount of $255,000 have been issued in comparison with four permits totalling $230,000 for the whole of last year. Brian Rydier, Salmo Village Clerk, noted that there is a tremendous interest in living accommodations in.Salmo. He get several inquired a week con- cerning shopping and recreational facilities, population, job oppor- tunities and other amenities Heather Street, Manager for the Salmo Chamber of Commerce also receives enquires. She reported that she gets an average of three requests a week from Perspective residents, tourist and businesses seeking information regarding housing, recreation and business opportunities. Susan Bonny Klovance Salmo Impressions Hazel, local real estate agent, explained that prices are rising in the housing market but fewer homes are available for sale, as last year was peak year for sales. This has resulted in a demand for building lots and the present con- struction. Many properties are being sold to out-of-town buyers while local families are building to upgrade their living conditions To what does Salmo owe this boom? One can only speculate. 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Property and homes can be purchased in Salmo for about three-quarters the price of those in the larger centres of Trail, Castlegar and Nelson, but the proximity to these towns make their facilities available to the Salmo resident. People from the Coast, Okanagan and Alberta Cities can sell their homes, buy or build in Salmo, and still have money to live on for some time. Salmo is known as a town with civic pride, community commit- ment and family-centered activi- ties. This attracts the young, the old and the families. Although there is no industrial base in Salmo, this may be an advantage as there is no pollution, either. The area is known for its clean air, pure water and accessibility to natural surroundings. It has many creeks, rivers and lakes that Provide fishing, camping and swimming. The vast wilderness that surrounds the community encourages hiking, hunting, and motorized-outdoor activities. The ski hill, swimming pool, curling rink, school gyms, parks and playgrounds all have organized recreational programs. For qui- eter pursuits, there is an excellent library and a thriving arts and crafts community. The shopping core has all the essentials of com- merce and there are local trades- men who can meet any repair of construction needs. It has excel- lent schools, a Community Resource Service for those in need, and fire, medical and ambu- lance attention. To cap it all, this is a community that cares about its residents and help is always at hand if needed. And that’s worth something. The Salmo Village Council is also working on upgrading facili- ties in the community to attract new residents as well as to improve the lifestyles of current residents. Improvements are being considered to the part to include overnight camp spots and tenting facilities to attract tourists to the down town core. This involves new washroom facilities which could include showers for campers. Improving the picnic area, expanding the horseshoe pitches and developing a one- one-one basketball court are all being considered. With better recreational facilities, new resi- dents will find the community more attractive and old residents will enjoy expanded activities. In summary, it can be said that Salmo has much to offer its resi- dents, something old-timers have always known and new-comers are finding out ROBSON MECHANICAL . HEAVY DUTY AUTOMOTIVE AUTOMATIC TRANSMISSION GENE WADDINGTON 365-7006 Wednesday, July 22, 1992 Barbecue season is well upon us. People of all ages enjoy being outdoors and it is a simple way to cook a variety of foods. Try brushing cooking oil on slices of your favorite vegetables and grilling lightly — mmmm: Also to help discover the delights of barbecuing try the fol- lowing recipes: Teriyaki Chicken Barbecue Oven 350 — 1 hour 3-4 Ibs. (4.42 kg) chick- en or ribs 1/2 cup (125 ml.) catsup 1/4 cup (SO ml.) teriyaki sauce 1/4 cup (50 ml.) water 1/4 cup (50 ml.) honey 1/4 cup (50 ml.) brown sugar 1 clove garlic (minced) Steps 1.Combine catsup, teriyaki sauce, water, honey, brown sugar, and garlic in a sause pan. -Simmer 10 minutes 3.Wash chicken pieces and place in a pan. 4.Pour sauce over chicken, cover, and marinate at least 1 hr. 5.For barbecuing: Place chicken over hot coals and cook turning chicken often. Brush with sauce. 6.For baking: Set oven at 350 and bake in sauce turning pieces after 30 minutes Bake for 1 hr. Jamaican Barbecue Sauce Does not require cook- ing, just blend and refrig- erate. May be stored for several weeks. It is fantas- tic brushed on chicken, steaks, hamburger, pork chops, and meatloaf, etc. 1 1/2 cups (3.75 ml.) cider vinegar 4 tsp. (20 ml.) lemon juice 3 tbsp (45 ml.) worces- tershire sauce 2 tsp (10 ml.) brown sugar 1 tbsp (15 ml.) prepared mustard 3/4 tsp (3.75 ml.) salt 1 cup catsup 1 tsp (5 m1.) garlic pow- der 1 tsp (5 ml.) cayenne 1/2 cup (125 ml.) toma- to paste or puree 1.Combine in a bowl. 2.Pour into a container and refrigerate. 3.Heat prior to using. Garlic Bread Barbecue 2 loaves French, rye or regular unsliced bread 1/2 Ib. (250 g.) soft but- ter 1/4 cup (50 ml.) grated cheddar cheese 1/4 cup (50 ml.) parme- san cheese 1/4 cup (50 ml.) poppy seeds 2 - 3 crushed garlic cloves 1 tsp (5 ml.) dry dill or arsley (optional) . Add all ingredients to butter and mix gently. 2. Cut bread into 1” slices 3. Butter one side of each slice with butter mixture 4. Put loaf back together and wrap tightly with alu- minum foil 5. Heat in 375 F preheated over for 15 - 20 minutes or put on the barbecue for 20 minutes. Test if hot enough. Add that little touch to your salad and steak The Hen Party is a roup of 12 Castlegar adies. If you have any questions, they can be writ- ten C/O the Castlegar Sun The Castlegar Sun Youth today are doing the same thin Dear Ann Landers: After reading that dumb letter from “University Park" who complained about the drinking at Penn State, I had to send my two cents' worth. Tm a 19-year-old junior at Westch- ester University My beverage of Choice is beer. I'm an alcoholic and I know it. I also know that this is a phase and | will quit when I'm ready. I've been told that my grade point average of 3.2 would go up to 4.0 if I quit drinking. But there ts no way I am going to give up the most fun I have for a few lousy percentage points. I'm tired of hearing “concemed citizens" com- Plain about what alcohol is doing to the youth of today. Twenty-five years ago, they were doing the same thing. What's more, the '60s college generation experimented with LSD and other drugs and sur- vived with no serious after-effects. In fact, today those people are Boating bonanza beckons Canoes, kayaks and even those crazy skiyaks are the highlight this Saturday at Syringa. Demon- strations and an Opportunity to talk with specialists will be fol- lowed by an opportunity for your to try out a canoe or kayak! Even you veterans of the water can join the fun, leam a pointer or two and share your talents and enthusiasm. B.Y.0.B. (Bring your own boat!) or just bring yourself and a sense of adventure for water recreation day at the playground beach from 1 - 3 p.m. The Valhalla Rangers return! Have you ever thought about ~~ Coke, Sprite & Gingerale Reg. & Diet 24 pk. tins Western Family Pieces & Stems Mushrooms 12 /284 ml Western Family Beans & Pork 12 /398 ml Scotties Facial Tissue 9 / 200 g lawyers, doctors, corporate execu- tives and college professors. We need to get this out of our system and when we do, we're going to be Ann Landers Syndicated Columnist just fine. XXX Dear XXX: Some of those experimenters of the ‘60s didn't sur- vive. They ended up with fried brains. Others died. Alcoholism is not a "phase." It's a serious illness that requires lifelong vigilance. When you discover you can't quit on your own, try Alcoholics Anony- mous. Keep reading for more Tesponses to "University Park”. Dear Ann Landers: I had to going to the magnificent Valhal- las? Or wondered what they behold? Or contemplated the life laugh when your Unive ity Park correspondent wrote, “Many of these students are juniors and Seniors who should have out- grown the immature party animal Phase." How does one accurately measure maturity? Age certainly 1s not a criterion, For example Check the behavior of so-called adult males at Pre-nuptial stag Parties, country club affairs and all-night poker games By no Stretch of the ion could has become one of the rites of Passage into adulthood. Most stu- dents go through the party animal Stage because they're away from home, for the first time and want to try everything. I know because 1 was one of them. Minneapolis Dear Mpls.: Here's an upbeat letter from a Wake Forest Univer- sity parent: Dear Ann Landers: Last year, Wake Forest in North Carolina offered freshmen the Page 5B gs their parents did would not drink any alcoholic beverages on campus. Over 300 freshmen (nearly 50 percent of the class) signed up for the 40 available spaces. We thought that was pretty terrific. Mom and Dad Dear Mom and Dad: So do I, but the concept isn't unique. Northwestern University in Evanston, Il., has the same deal and it, too, is overwhelmed with 1 ions. 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